Show KATHLEEN NORMS At Times Advice Is Infuriating MY MAIL this week was a resentful IN and angry letter from a woman named Kate who lives in New Kate differs with me very and wants me to know The article that enraged her was intended for those American women who are worried about These and there are millions of are managing incomes that range from to a With the rising demands of their the drain of visible and hidden the Increased cost of they find themselves in a constant state of anxious There simply is no way to make ends to save the husband and father the responsibility that is killing to satisfy the demands of the Hundreds of letters come to me every emphasizing this and it was in answer to one of them that I quoted in my article the case of a Polish family that arrived in America only seven years and that Is now the daughter prosperously the son In a contracting business with his the mother secure in the home she is so proud to keep comfortable and happy for Peace of Mind I said that in the beginning these exiles rented three rooms for a the in an unfashionable and that both son and daughter worked in high school so that two-thirds of the combined earnings went into government Fresh in a contracting business from enslaved these people found our world a veritable and my point was that their road to security and success is open to all and that it is the only way to peace of when domestic ways and means are the More than to completely change one's way of life is a most stimulating To stop worrying about one's social standing with utterly to stop all consideration of what is the right environment for the to make a game of getting way under the income instead of eternally overspending it this Is really to and certain harassed anxious housewives never have known real Doesn't Need Counsel But this advice infuriated Kate and her letter told me Kate doesn't need such has solved her problem by moving to the which she truthfully asserts is a much wholesome place for children than a cheap city Our youngsters go to a fine her letter to Sunday and to a show every two They have pets and amusements every kind of tun at They never tease for money because there is no place to spend Of that is an ideal solution for all the the But It was not for women like Kate Bush that I It was for the troubled the bewildered who feel that everything in the home must be as comfortable and luxurious as things always were in Mama's and who simply can't manage It Get Ont from Under To such I give the old get out from under it Move to the unfashionable neighborhood K needn't be a As a matter of unfashionable neighborhoods near the river or the or up on the or out In the fields on the fringes of the will be the choicest locations of all in a few When I was married In large sunny flats on the river in New York's upper east running from to were rented for and That is New York's most elegant If and the if Is underlined you can move your as Kate Bush to country vegetable But so ideal an arrangement is not within reach of many of the housewives who find themselves caught In the confusions of a changing and have not the courage to realize that at such times each of us must make her own sweep away past sensitiveness and and give her children an honest view of If you living over your then try living under It is much more Most of the things you will have to sacrifice are valuable only in your |