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A s 1 Many a young oung wife wile has hat been led to wonder if the baring of her soul Joul toI to I tome some sympathetic adviser might not brighten her life By KATHLEEN NORRIS HE FASHION today is isI isto THE I to be psycho This alarming word means that whoever is restless restless restless rest rest- less unsatisfied ill-adjusted ill to his or her life goes to a Th The specialist digs deep into the unhappy persons person's persons person's persons person's per per- sons son's consciousness asking all sorts of intimate and embarrassing embarrassing embarrassing em em- questions trying to find out what influences in inthe inthe inthe the past have created her timidity jealousy fear hate or whatever else is wrong with her Sometimes the psycho analyst Is a n person qualified by nature science and training to help and does help More often otten he or she knows nothing and only vaguely repeats phrases that mean nothing Not so much from any real Intention of cheating but rather In pleased surprise that they have bave stumbled upon anything 10 so easy and so lucrative The be anxious family of the sufferer takes this very seriously They are cheered when the analyst says hopefully hopefully hopefully hope hope- fully We are coming on We are learning to live with ourselves hon hon- estly I think we are arc bringing the thereal thereal thereal real cause to the light We want to help ourselves now and that is the great thing Enjoys Baring Tier Her Soul The theater beginning with Lady in the Dark has helped the spread of psycho-analysis psycho immensely immense immense- ly Many movies have followed suit Many a young wile wife who might a ag g generation ago have accepted her herlot herlot herlot lot as housekeeper and mother with philosophy and common sense has been led to wonder If the baring of her soul to some sympathetic adviser adviser adviser ad ad- might not brighten her life She enjoys going back back we we all nIl do doto doto doto do- do to the disappointments of childhood the embarrassments and humiliations humiliations humilia humilia- of school days the first awakening awakening awakening awak awak- ening of young love She enjoys talking about herself hersel who doesn't Fortune tellers command attention because their fascinating topic is always oneself Some years ago the Coue doctrine took this country by storm and persons persons per per- sons Ions whose lives were running smoothly went about beaming because because be be- cause every day in every way everything was getting better and better When the first blast of real trouble struck them they fell silent and as the second and third blows fell fell and and light or heavy no one escapes escapes escapes es es- es- es capes them the long the Coue formula formu formu- la in fell away Into nothingness Undoubtedly Coue did some good Undoubtedly psycho-analysis psycho helps some cases But nine times out of often often often ten the patient could help herself hersel faster and ond cheaper than the professional professional professional can So In case you live far away from the nearest psychoanalyst psycho here are area a few hints that may help you out of ot your own predicament at no expense expense expense ex ex- pense at alL al Money l Troubles Jealousy The be first cause of ot marital discontent discontent discon discon- tent with all its ramifying lines of at quarrels hurt feelings failures is money So if it your husband considers consider consid consid- er ers en you extravagant oz of ot you consider consider con con- sider aider him stingy settle this question question ques ques- tion yourselves You dont don't need a third party to tell ten you that hunger for lor pretty things all during your girlhood had made you wasteful now that you can have them or to tell him Wm that his t fathers father's debts his Ws mothers mother's financial worries his own fear feor of hard times have made him Mm somewhat penurious Work out your money problem on a sensible 1 I Scolding old 1 wasteful wives ANALYZE YOURSELF In some cases of mental ills the psycho analyst can be of great assistance It has become become become be be- come the fashion however for discontented u un unhappy n h hap a p p y people to turn to psychoanalysis psycho sis as the great cure-all cure o of f the age It is nothing o of f the sort says Miss lUiss Norris It has a limited limited limited lim lim- use we Patients must be co co- co operative The practitioner must be skilled and Improvement often takes a long time Most people do not need the services service of a psycho analyst analyst so much as they need common commonsense commonsense commonsense sense and a little soul search ing continues continue Miss s Norris Generally the cause o of f the difficulty difficulty dif dif- is well known know It may maybe maybe maybe be extravagance or jealousy or a desire for dominance In any case the psychoanalyst psycho can do little more than point the trouble He cannot make niche the necessary changes in the individuals individual's character or cir cir- cir cir- Often a husband and wife can solve their imaginary mental mental mental men men- tal problems by a frank talk Whether the difficulty arises over money or relatives or orsome orsome some sonic personal fault the he solution solution solution tion can be found by ringing cringing g git it out into the open There is seldom any use going to a high high- priced psycho psycho analyst Better solve your own problems problems problems lems concludes Miss Norris basis and then both of ol you stick sUck to your bargain and with the money saved on the psycho psychoanalyst go to dinner and the theater together A secondary great cause of marrIed married married mar mar- ried distress is Jealousy Dont Don't give each other cause that Is the simple cure and that is all the scientist can say But if there Is cause a psycho-analyst psycho cant can't cure it If II that widow grass-widow in your husbands husband's office of- of flee fice really has matrimonial designs on him having the situation analyzed analyzed analyzed anal anal- wont won't help After Alter the most skillful handling the facts will remain remain remain re re- re- re main the same he is making love loveto to another woman Jealousy was the basic trouble with a man I knew according to the expensive psycho analyst he hc consult consult- ed The analyst told him that he had been jealous of ol his lather father and mother his sisters and brothers his teachers and associates This did not however help him witty wits his wile wife who shortly afterward justified his Jealousy by going off oft with another man Jealousy is a sin and so are arc unkindness unkindness un- un kindness domestic injustices extravagance extravagance extravagance ex ex- ex- ex waste penurIousness nagging drink drink all all the other ills to i which marriage stands heir Sin Is cured by grace not by analysis I Drinking and ond gambling husbands know what's wrong without long luxurious talks about it Scolding wasteful wives are perfectly aware why there are always storms over the household bills Mothers and la lathers fathers fathers fa- fa who quarrel before belore the children children children chil chil- dren know why Joan is nervous and shy and Tom completely un un- manageable It would save some of them a lot of money if they looked into their own hearts before belore laying them bare to a complete stranger |