Show kathleen norris says 1 I this gentlewoman should wed chauffeur nell syndicate syndicat service w dt API ir N 4 7 w 0 my aly lather father jor for several years has had a chau chauffeur fleur named tony benito lie ile is a simple man who has a wonderful mother and family tony and I 1 love each other my aly m er would be crushed I 1 if she knew this by KATHLEEN NORRIS ERE is a letter from a HERE young girl that might make some mother thoughtful linda sends me her picture with her letter and it is the picture of et a sweet sensible pretty creature she makes no complaint she only wants some advice but I 1 think she has been badly treated and that it is the fault of a selfish father and mother when I 1 was quite little mother and dad made much of me I 1 felt that they loved me writes linda but when I 1 was 10 another man appeared in the family was there biere continually taking mother to lunch or dinner or dancing I 1 like him very much and neither did dad soon mother explained to me that dad was go ing away it made me feel strange and lonely but of course I 1 was only a child and when mother married the man I 1 will call van she explained to mo me that it only meant that I 1 had two homes now a and nd three persons to love me instead of two for a year dad and I 1 and my nurse lived together mammy and I 1 did the cooking and we were all very happy dut but then dad married and although ellse elise was kind to me slid and gave me presents she talked about my mothers treatment of my father said sho she had been cruel to him and worried me so that I 1 was really ill mother was expecting a baby then and could not have me so I 1 went to a hospital and from there for years to boarding school my father has always been careless about money and every quarter I 1 would have to write and remind him to pay my bills which I 1 think accounts tor for the fact that I 1 am pretty shy to this day I 1 hoped to be with my mother in vacations but instead they arranged for me to go to t camp every year inherited money bloney please dont think I 1 am complaining pla ining the letter goes on but gloved I 1 loved my parents and my home and I 1 used to feel very lonely my father was divorced again last year and as I 1 pleaded to be able to be with him and make a home for him h tie e agreed at 18 1 I come came into some money my grandmother left deft me that meant that he and I 1 need have no 10 money troubles I 1 come came home christmas a year ago and for a few ew weeks I 1 was completely happy going downtown independently hav ng my own car and feeling tree free but my father has changed Is rarely at home and so I 1 see little ol of him but my mother was very much annoyed at this arrangement tho itie said that having sacrificed me all these years fo for r my education she felt that I 1 should be with her and help out with the family finances my aly little half brother was a strong beautiful baby but he got infantile pa paralysis i a lysis fand will always need care van my stepfather is not much of a success in business and my mother misses the luxuries to which she had been accustomed altogether she is in a nervous state and yet she cannot get ct another divorce because she get no alimony this time love comes to linda now here is my question my father for several years has had a chauffeur named tony benito be alto ho he is a dimpie man who has a wonder ful molher and family ile he was married widowed 10 years ago I 1 have been to his mothers home sev FOR PARENTS ONLY kathleen norris advice this thi time is for the parents instead of their erring and tv wayward ayward children here is is a case where an apparently blameless arneless bl child has been denied tho the love and security she needs by the set fishiness fish ness of her parents unwanted when she was gr growing up she is ii now clain claimed ted by b both oth parents for the salce sake of the money abc he inherited jorn from her grandmother other but she is is in lovo love with her fathers chauffeur and wants to marry hint him and surprising surprising as it may be to some kathleen norris advises her to do just that she may be embarrassed byl onys ays limitations and sit she e will not have the luxuries she has always latown but she will have love and a family bound together baler by simple goodheart good heart edness her parents divorced for tany many 11 years cannot even offer 71 her a home ionic and in return they would probably expect to claim all ker her time attention and money eral times they have a restaurant which the father daughters and another son manage they are uneducated people I 1 sup suppose talking very little english and living a very natural home life with babies dogs old grandparents plenty of good food and good wine and plenty of love tony and I 1 love each other we are happy together my father probably would want to kill him it if he know knew this and I 1 know my mother would be crushed it if we married I 1 would take what money I 1 have and invest it in a garage which tony has long wanted to buy we could go along for a few years comfortably on what was left until he began to make money we both want children for all the benites benitos love them and I 1 could never be happy without them shall I 1 refuse tony and ask dad to let him go join my mother and become a nurse to my attle half brother whom I 1 would come to adore I 1 know or make this marriage please help me parents want iler her now now you parents who submit loving sensitive small girls to the miseries of your own marital failures fal lures and the wretchedness of partings and changes among those who seem to them faultless what do you think of the father and mother who shoved linda about without any consideration for her loving little heart her childs love of stability and security and her childs confidence in her own family now that she is no longer a responsibility risibility and a bother they want her now that she is an heiress both father and mother could use her money and now she has sought bought companionship and love in strange i places and is likely to go out of their lives forever my advice to her is to marry tony she will be many times embarrassed 1 barr assed by his limitations she m may ay have to apologize for him and for her family but she will have love a real mother and real sisters and brothers amusement distraction companionship panion ship and probably adoration from her husband she will have children good strong children born of peasant stock and she will build a home around them and have the picnics and trips and birthdays birthday and mothering that her own ch childhood was denied denie ct I 1 SYMPTOMS CAUSED CAUSE D BY DANGEROUS COLD BUG all who live in regions in which the thermometer often foils falls to zero or below know sonio of the more common symptoms caused b by y cold for example that they develop much more quickly on damp days than they do on colder dry days the most universal symptoms caused by cold are water dr nathan S ing of the eyes and davit davis ill HI nose and tho the chap ping pine of the lips from exposure to the cold watery secretions tho the chapping of the hands Is due to a combination of cold tight gloves and the natural moisture of the skin many have also had experience with frost bicoll or freezing of the ears nose or checks fingers or toe they know that the part so affected often remains more sensitive to cold perhaps because the nerves regulating the blood supply were destroyed st perhaps because they were rendered oversensitive over sensitive to cold some people are sens sensitive or allergic to cold just as others are to pollens or foods these people may develop asthma so dl stressing distressing that they must remain in doors in cold weather or else move to a warm maternal mortality per live births g 40 40 20 URBAN AREAS climate others develop hives hive s on exposure to cold some develop a type of eczema with severe itching in cold weather reaction to cold the smaller arteries arterioles arter loles of some individuals develop spasms on exposure to cold water or air the spasms may completely cut off the circulation in a limited area and cause blueness and then pallor and very severe pain if these ar ter lolar spasms last long enough they may cause gangrene that Is death of the tissue nourished by these blood vessels there Is another group in which there Is also an ar ter lolar spasm but in which the skin first becomes red then as it gets colder blue and when still colder gets red again it too causes severe pa pain an these types of reaction to cold usually develop during early adult life or even during the teens and are more common in women there are a few people who have a disease of the blood vessels both arteries and veins in which many of the smaller vessels become obstructed ted by clots blots they react bad ly to cold and develop pain blue ness and pallor of an extremity even before the temperature reaches freezing hardening of arteries As people grow older they almost always develop more or less arterio art erlo sclerosis hardening of the arteries even with normal blood pressures however those who have diabetes or high blood pressure usually have MO more re of it than do others of the same age cold may cause such diseased arteries of the and of the heart to develop spasms that may completely cut oil oft the cir ciraula cula tion tor for a long enough time to cause gangrene the names by which the diseases caused by cold are known have purposely not been given because they are difficult to pronounce or remember when they are descriptive and would mean little when they are designated by the name of the tha physician who first described them their cause is unknown and until it is little can be done to prevent or to effectively treat them yet by avoiding exertion or exposure to cold and rapid changes in temperature by wearing plenty of warm and properly fitting woolen clothing i those who have even the more severe forms of these diseases can learn to live comfortably in spite of them our treatment is not art an end in itself it is a means to an end and that end is the p patients a ie als comfort arid and happiness n a and peace D TV mac h ensie kensie sr al D L QUESTION BOX send question s eions to dr nathan S III winnetka ill fEn enclose close a self BeK addressed stamped enve envelope ope QI Q I 1 have a small bump on the heel of my foot it is under the skin and is not very large yet it gives elves much pain and a great deal of discomfort when my shoe rubs against it what causes this J D B A the rubbing of the shoe which quite ot Is the probable cause if the bump Is on the back of the heel beef covering Cover Lne it with a strip of adhesive will relieve but bat bettor better fitting shoes are needed |