Show kathleen N orris says the gante and the candle dell syndicate 40 10 e 1 e suddenly sparks will fly some lovely and some hitherto do voted husband and father and osen the mischief sats ile takes art earlier train home a day or awo when she happens to be out in the barden in striped blacks and a broad garden has they talk by KATHLEEN NORRIS when you 0 see a wife deceiving her husband and enjoying a thrilling love affair with some other man the natural resentful question is how does she sh get away with it every smart suburb has a few of her she is pretty young self confluent she is also the other women think unscrupulous and common even if her father is A a judge and her name on the list at the country club but what they think bother her in fact she enjoys the knowledge that she is annoying them perhaps her lover ts Is husband that makes it worse in small VIT communities where every body plays bridge and golf and tennis together and gives parties where the same men and women tire are always meeting suddenly sparks win will fly between some lovely woman and some hitherto devoted husband and father and then the mischief starts they exchange looks he sends her a book and she returns return a note he takes an earlier train home a day or two later when she happens to bo be out in the garden in striped a slacks and anda a broad garden hat they talk and all the time the surface Is all brightness and decorum she la is especially nice to her husband and those two small boys his bis two little girls can see no change in daddy JUs ills wife can but as I 1 have mentioned in Ws this column before the wife under these circumstances has no chance if she goes into jealous rages everyone sympathizes with rob and thinks she is acting disgracefully if she holds her head high then and refuses to admit much less discuss the affair then the pronouncement is that sally has always been a terribly cold reserved sort of wife and you cant blame blam a poor nob hob tor for looking tor for at af faction elsewhere must VAY pay sooner or later gut but if it Is any consolation to the women who find themselves in saws position the other woman never does get away with it she may for awhile but sooner or later she ehe pays and in the hundreds of cases of the sort that have come to my at attention tenton it is interesting to noto note that tor for every moment of illicit bliss she steals she pays in many hours of humiliation or embarrass ment Hum humiliation illation if the man pres antly writes her a manly honest letter telling her that he loves her as much as an ever but that out of con for dear little sally it must all stop atop she knows full well as she reads the eloquent lines that he has stopped loving her entirely and ad n that the time to consider dear brave little sally was some years earlier but she has 1189 to accept the rebuff the lessened respect of her friends her husbands quiet half amused scorn and her own lowered self esteem painful all round the alte alternative maUve is almost worse embarrassment this is what she byj experiences e when the she is tired to death of the affair bored to tears by sally browns stupid husband furious at herself for having written those poetic playful adoring letters that he io so treasures and quotes and at her wits end to get rid of the man MAIL but 00 oo he will go on telephoning and writing and cepro reproach a ch ing her gently for a change of mood and trying to work up quarrels and in the old way and pleading for dates that the she limply cant and wont give him bored tunu to music and love hedw Is a letter from elisa davis of boxton boston who ands herself la in it a DIFFICULT FUTURE A 4 th cumulates in an illicit romance in the six months the she fires fire of low love have crumbled into athes ashes for one but still burn bum bril brightly hily in the she brei breast bre I of the other who in lists upon at least a token marriage then a third figure enters enter the scene and completes a new triangle min aliss norris advises on the she only course open to the troubled very annoying predicament my marriage was orthodox conventional vent ional onI dull 11 she writes write we had the expected boy and then t sion the expected girl but I 1 may say honestly that in the tbt first eight years since I 1 dutifully said 1 I do I 1 never once experienced the thrill that ought to be the lot of every bride wife housekeeper social favorite mother my own father and mother were cold quiet people wh who 0 kept MO me constantly busy in boarding schools and on european trips with school groups two years ago when my children were seven and five I 1 began to study music one of the teachers at the school was a vital handsome eager man american born but of foreign parentage parent age never having known love I 1 fell in love but more I 1 see now with love itself than with him ills his was a violent wooing I 1 was bored and unhappy and we became lovers he had been wife much older with children of an earlier marriage lived in another state for perhaps six months I 1 lived in a tools fools dream then I 1 awakened and attempted to end the affair but he was unwilling to have it at anything but fever ever height meanwhile an old friend a man who had loved me since babyhood though I 1 know it it came into our lives and both my husband and myself took great pleasure in his constant company seven months ago my husband was killed in a motor accident and george the new old friend asked me to marry him it teemed seemed to me only honorable to tell him of the affair with the tha musician whom 1 I will call leo especially as leo was annoying mo me by taking it for granted he and I 1 would be married sees seen no happiness with leo george thinks that I 1 am morally obliged to marry leo even though his feeling for me and mine for him li Is the deepest our lives have ever known dignified generous and noble in all his ideas affectionate and tender and sympathizing yet he feels that it would clear the matter up to have me marry leo even if I 1 immediately afterward sued for a divorce 4 my children actively dislike leo and love george H ile has been uncle george to the them in closer than ever their father was this disgusting situation has dalvi daiv me out of my senses I 1 am thin and and cannot eat nor steep sleep and I 1 ask your advice could leo sue me or subject me to any publicity if I 1 married george Is george right in asking me to sacrifice my own and in my v childrens future by marriage with a penniless musician in what way could leo give this story to the scandal mongers bongers it if he liked george Is a politician with a future before him would rumors of my affair affect hla his career I 1 am going mad over the whole affair and will await your answer with the utmost anxiety no I 1 dont think leo could make much trouble and whatever gossip he started would presently dle die away certainly a temporary marriage the answer and george should not exact JL it your only course is to tell leo once and for all that the th Q affair Is over and hp hope that george loves lovei you enough to decide upon sober consideration that ile he you anyway ar aad d this s time try to maint oln a sonje somewhat 4 wha t higher standard as s a wife |