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Show DATING From page 5 600 west center street ~ 752-8088 BRIDAL FAIRE Saturday to Logan from Michigan two years ago and has since been involved in several relationships with LDS girls. "At first [religion] is never a problem or issue," he said. "But sometimes the choices one of us would make would create more tension than if I was dating someone with the same faith." Hall said he felt like he wasn't always himself around some LDS girls he dated, adding that he wasn't allowed to consume alcohol when he was with them. He also said the whole dating experience in Utah is a little different from other places he has experienced. "Activities are similar, like going to dinner or movies," he said. "But you have more pressure to impress girls and do something extravagant. [Dating] requires more confidence here." Ted Twinting, a senior in history, grew up in Utah and has lived in Sandy, St. George and Logan. He said he dated several LDS girls during high school, even though he has never practiced the religion and it's never been an issue for him. "I'm so used to it," he said. "I've done the whole stake dance thing where you're supposed to dance, but you're not allowed to touch each other." The main differences he said he saw with LDS girls were that some didn't watch PG-13 and R-rated movies and they usually asked him to watch his language. Since attending USU, Tvvinting said he's met new people and dated other girls, but religion has never been a concern in his relationships. "People need to drop the religion thing. It doesn't matter," he said. "If you're looking for marriage it matters, but if you're just looking to date and have fun and alleviate some of the stress of going to school, it doesn't matter." Logan LDS institute instructor Scot Irwin said dating other members matters to LDS people because, "You marry who you date. The more factors you SEPT 16 AtUSU Student Center www.bridalfaire.org Saturday, September 16 10:00 To 5:00 Fashion Show 1:00 By AvonJea Bridal Boutique and BATC Free Admission - Free Parking - Many Prizes A Bridal f:airc Production Co-sponsored by: For more information call: 753-6736 values who are just as include that are different, the harder the marriage will dateable." Interfaith dating can be." work though, Hall said, Irwin said interfaith as long as both people are marriages can work, notopen andflexible.Not all ing his mother has been relationships have to be married to his step-father, about getting married, he a Catholic, for 30 years. said. However, he did say that when the couple has faced Too many people in Utah, problems, they have usually whether Mormon or not, been because of religion. feel pressure to get married younger because it's normal Finding people with similar values is important, here, Hall said. People can date for fun and don't Irwin said, and if LDS have to let religion play people date people outside such a big part in the dating of their religion, they risk scene, he said. getting married outside of temples. Ikram Osman disagrees. "I do think religion is "The temple is the important," she said. "Why crowning mortal moment. Everything we teach and do date someone you can't marry? Why waste your leads up to that moment. It time?" drives so much of what we do," Irwin said. Osman, who is majoring in psychology, moved to To marry in the temple, a person must be a member Utah from Somalia when she was 14- years old. She of the LDS Church, abstain was brought up as a Muslim from alcohol, illegal drugs and said she understands and premarital sex, among why Mormons often don't other requirements. date outside their religion "People need to be and it has never bothered patient and try to underher. stand our culture," Irwin said. No matter the circumstance, though, when dat"Join us or find other ing, people shouldn't change people out there with great to impress others, Hall added. "Be yourself. I wouldn't worry about offending people and don't do things to make them like you," Hall said. "When I first moved here, I tried to be more conservative and even though I had a lot of girlfriends, I didn't like them as much." It's possible to have good relationships and find things to do together even if both people don't share the same religion, Tvvinting emphasized. "Obviously, you're not going to take a Mormon to a bar and share a Big Dog," he said. Dating Mormons can work, he added, and when people have problems with interfaith dating, it's a selfconflicted issue they create. "Don't get too caught up in religion," Hall said. "It should be more about a person-to-person connection." Hquidlibrary -mnewbold@cc.usu.edu EMOTIONS From page 5 NOMINATE SOMEONE FOR HOMECOMING ROYALTY TODAY! 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She said some ways to manage stress are getting enough sleep, eating well, and having social networks. Atwood agreed, noting that thinking about others helps him manage his undesirable emotions. "If I'm not happy or I'm frustrated or depressed, then I'm thinking way too much about myself and I need to think more about others," he said. "That definitely helps. I kind of put what's bothering me on the side and be consumed about what's going on in other people's lives, which is hard to do because we like to worry about ourselves." If students focus on serving others, they may experience some relief from negative emotions. Atwood recommended a few ways to serve at USU, like helping out in LDS Institute organizations, ASUSU clubs, the Service Center and Spanish Ambassadors. 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