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Show Utah Statesman^ There are more scenes than the dating scene BREINHOLT 1 SUNDANCE AMPHITHEATRE CD RELEASE CONCERT the above is true. When I first came However, I, unlike to college, I knew Steve Shinney most, don't blame three things: pudgenetics. ding is delicious, Men and cats don't eat pickles women are like and girls have coopraying mantises ties. and scorpions, After careful perfectly fine in investigation, howthe wild, but if ever, I've come to you put us in the find that number two The Geek metaphoric jar is false. Beat I tried to learn steveshinneyiipcc.usu.edu of dating and a give it proverbial more about number shake, things get three, but my wife messy. won't let me do ! often hear people comexperiments on enough different subjects for a good case plain about how dating in study. 1 guess the world may Logan isn't dating, it's just "hanging out." never know. While this is true in some But really, that's OK. People all go through their lives wor- cases and I can see it being rying about enough problems annoying if you're looking for more - although I do think with the opposite sex. You know the problems I'm hanging out is good practice talking about. I'm sure you or for marriage when you basiyour roommates have mut- cally just "nang out" with one person for the rest of your life tered a few of the following: I remind everyone that there "Girls are confusing." are scenes out there that are "Guys are dumb." a thousands times worse than "Women are confusing." the "hanging out." "Boys are dumb." The stalking scene: This is As a humor columnist, I'm required by law to say all of an easy scene to break into. You don't need confidence or anything else that give you worth as a person; all you need is a target, some patience and a decent pair of binoculars. 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The secret to winning the The "party" scene: Not the party scene you're thinking dating game is the same to about. I'm talking about the winning video games: cheat codes. "party" scene. For example, if you look up The kind of get-togethers you have to put quotation twice, look down twice, lean marks around to be legally to the left, then to the right, then to the left again and then able to call it a party. These usually involve sell- go back to the right, followed ing something to the guest: by jumping then shooting your Tupperware, beads, shrunk- gun, you'll get 30 chances to en nurnan heads, that sort of go out with a guy before he can dump you. thing. Or you can get to the end The other "hanging out" scene: This scene contains of your second ctatp, and when all the fat people who wear you drop her off at the doorclothes not built for their body step, do a super-jump over her size and always have some- roof to the secret Warp Zone, where a green pipe will take thing hanging out. you to the bonus round where It's a gross scene. The complaining scene: No all the girls are in love with matter how rockin' life here in you. Logan gets, some people will Speaking of secret warp complain about it. You can't zones, it's Mario's 21rst birthreason with them. Don't even day and I'm off to celebrate, try. because I'm married and can They hate everything and count it as a date. they like it that way. Geek on. It's like goths without the Steve Shinney is a senior snarky, black T-shirts. in computer science. He The nacho cheese/gummy doesn 't like long walks on the beach and is pretty sure you worm fetish scene: Don't ask. 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