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Show NOVEMBER 29, 2000. WASATCH COUNTY COURIER - Bil re ret : ! " boli _ dresses, two skirts and eight sweaters store differently than 12 pairs of shoes, six jackets poles are used, only one shelf will fit | fully adjustable. This way you ‘above. Thirty-four inches to 38 can adjust as your wardrobe ‘inches will be needed for half- changes... thing you always seem ~ and 11 pairs of pants. Make a height hangings. Tall folks will - list of what you need to _ to need more of is storage. - store and estimate — Tf you have one or more closets each with only a single whieh sill range from 16 inches to 24 inches _ should be _ Think approximately how much space each item carefully: about the addition of drawers. For example: gloves, jewelry Shirts | pole, you can hold off on will require. adding space; you can; in fact, take up less height than overcoats or make the best of what you have dresses, and sweaters by organizing your closet to do better on shelves _ - maximize storage. Storage . ae alternatives abound. _ | than hangers. We can't believe how many different companies make that breathes." We tend to like | what we said about folding — sweaters? Custom cutting is — solid shelving because it is full-height. Some pre fer to hang trousers by — sturdier. the cuffs; others hang | Our natural pidemcy as _ by what will be — | in place. Gravity does the rest. Abuse: Real Men Make it an ‘Issue their power. “There are men who will speak out, _ year, I'm getting the wrong message,” but there is no one who has taken a he says. “I'm getting the Base -'Don't put up with that crap.”' “Bringing this issue up in mixed company makes men uncomfortable,” ws Trudy Laurenson, director of the Family — Refuge leadership role. “Individually, many men are very supportive of the work we do, but as a collective group, they're not there. “If _ EDITOR'S NOTE: Men listen to other men. But too often, they're sending each other the wrong messages. Rarely do men hold their friends, family and neighbors accountable ive violent, abusive behavior. To a baiterer, the silence 1s permission to continue. In Special lence, Smith An _» women's has— A | ite a - men's issue,” says Sgt. Tom Westfall, a _ _ Marshall County(VA) sheriff's deputy. - “When men turn around and say, ‘That's disgusting,' it makes a difference,” he says. “Men react to other | - men. When men are ashamed of their tec@at”Fada iby ehie US. hy -cally assaulted by an intimate partner every year. Even in same-sex relation- Ships, men are more likely than women to batter their partners. “To me, it's logical,” agrees ~ Raymond Bryson, a reformed abuser _ who counsels batterers. “If men are ’ 3 ea thepeople who stop it.” . Bemg in relationships based on _ fear and intimidation rather than affec- dilsetne tion and respect gives men the power _ that they think they need, Crowley says. “We get our way im the moment. But ultimately, we're having a relationship with someone who, for all intents and purposes, is a prisoner of war,” he Center. “They think says. “Is there real authentic consent? _ we're talking about Is there real intimacy? Are we having — real, worthwhile exchanges? Of them. And when course we're not.” | Crowley calls abusers “the aback erful half of society _ backing off, how do — troops for all men,” the force that you change things? © helps the non-abusive man maintain you have the pow- Mea cage his privileged place in society. In locker rooms and bars, men send each other messages — sometimes subtle, sometimes overt — that control is crit- somehow for it to _ be equal, and it's not equal,” she the time.” Department of Justice and the Centers for Disease. Control and Prevention concluded that 1.5 million women and 834,732 men are raped and/or physi- changes, it's | issue; Associated — tice. And too 0! tot ‘réldtionships ate about es and control, not Fespeet pee EEE ae seemea and love:*. more than 20 years, vio- not a ~ abusers most of | moreinaportant than their sense of jus- unlikely to end. “Tt's “Yes, women can be violent. But © ib they're not the tic violence in West Virginia has found that appealing to men on moral and ethical grounds is don | effective. Their sense of manhood is SPECIAL TO THE COURIER Until that perception 10 Press review of domes- BY VICKI SMITH | ‘lence in the home. _ been a “women's issue.” or grams” . and how communities can end it.- F. eight (men) got together and took this on, you'd have a profound effect,” she says. “And the money would flow. Money would be raining down on them to start. pro- an ongoing West Virginia AP Reports series on domestic vioAssociated Press writer Vicki looks at why violence happens ileus: men need to stop _ the violence.” However, “If I'm a guy, 365 days a says. “Yes, women can be violent. But not the abusers most of the ical and women are inferior. Men are reviewuated by how they control women. “That's the cultural mandate,” he said. time. “What . we're _ equality between wale asking ie is genders. But when we have a privileged feels like a loss.” class, equality Terrence “Red” Crowley, who works with batterers at Men Stopping “We're reminded every day that if we don't take charge of womer, then — our personal capital as men is greatly diminished, so we live that out,” ae | Crowley says. yyy understood “Tf I'm at a ball game watching the Braves and I say to my buddy, 'Thate it, _ Virginia is not unique in its lack of - but had to slap the — out of Cindy male leadership. Few states have male- _ last night," he will step over my vio- | lence and ask, "What did she do?" driven organizations devoted to. Violence Inc. in Atlanta, Ga., says West. domestic violence. “But around the country, face: iS a growing movement,” he says. “We're the only people who can stop rape and battering. Women can shelter and support one another, but _ “As aman, I know he's not gomg to say, 'I'm going to have security and have | ‘Tf only -men Peverennmennte ule the - conduct, they probably won't do i: ! | - neon Wire shelving also allows stored within. to be viewed from all Consider clothing Optimizing clothes that is being dry dhaeedks or _need a bit more space. Where | space is chia by minimiz- _ six sides. Not a bad feature if single-poles exist, two shelves - ing wasted space. A pair of your memory is as bad as ours. laundered. And, leave a little gloves in a 6inch-deep drawer Whatever options you space for wardrobe growth. If above will easily fit. Sweater shelves should be wastes 5 1/2 inches. you can organize shelving so choose, carefully planning closhooks. We forget that wasted designed to a familiar width. © » Just about every closet sys- et storage can double usable ‘space usually results. The first that the shelves fit your launHowever, the space between _ tem. company offers a planning storage space. and most important part of dering habits, you will be hap- Sr TTT them folded in half. American home modern dwellers is to use that good old standby, “the single pole closet system,” to do the job of shelves, cabinets, drawers and _ you arrested. If we started acting like — waS a crime, . ~ violence against women then it would be,” he says. “But nght ed lightweight construction and measure from one end to the other. Do the same with clothing that. normally hangs shelving _ boast “ease-of installation” and ally cut all parts to exactly match your design. Remember where the shelves are sized to your specifications. If you have a table saw you er have the best of both gerie will need worlds. 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The folks that out scarves Some provide computer draw- Bevery shelving packages out everything from wire Measure many and. ‘guide or techies anadmeie: ener ah eperrcroarege I f you're like us, the one pier with the result. In areas where two TOI -FOR AP SPECIAL FEATURES) ee improving storage is to determine what needs storing. Ten BY JAMES & MORRIS CAREY Tree - Storage Out of the Closet — |