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Show e DESERET NEWS, 7QA The Rewards Of Maturity August 11, 1969 Monday, By ALISON GODDARD NEW YORK Our romantic folklore often ends with a wedding and the line: And lived they happily ever ever after" after. Well, today, happily or otherwise, is a much longer period than it used to be. Only a half century ago, when the last child married, one of the parents was usually deceased. Today, with earlier marriages, fewer children, better health and increased longevity, a woman of 40 can look forward to almost another 40 years of life. FAMILY CHANGES Families have changed, too, in this century. Before, families lived close together, united by common customs and a mutual regard for the familys position in the communitechnology ty. Urbanization, d War and, later, the II trek to suburbia scattered families, except where the old pattern still survives in parts of large cities. According to Dr. Esther Westervelt, Director of the New York State Guidance Center for Women, this i ij :i v yff 4 I .i 4 i j . ?i x ? i F' j ' ' j fci ; V- - j ; j'rsr c' n t . , u ' i k 9 ' ' ' K' i Mrs. Edwin Huff Jr. ? ; Wilcox v! V. H I k Married Monday in the Salt Ike Temple were Miss Lar-V. aine Wilcox and Edwin Huff Jr. The bride is a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Cleon Wilcox, 741 Green St. Edwin W. Huff, Neshanic Station, N.J., is father of the bridegroom. Monday evening the bridal pair will greet guests at an open house at the home of her this generation of mature women moves from what one expert called "the security of the known past to an uncer- -. tain future. OTHER PROBLEMS , Studies have shown that when the last child is grown and leaves home, the chances for maladjustment rise. This is particularly true for the mother who has devoted herself to the children and ii now leit with a feeling of abandonment because of the empty nest. Dr. Paul Popenoe, founder and director of the American Institute of Family Relations, states that this can often lead to the mother-in-laproblem: The woman has for years given up everything, she claims, to give her daughter a chance. w neighborhood. These changes have also triggered other problem as Mr. brother and sister-in-laand Mrs. C. Dale Wilcox, 5804 Lakeside Dr. They will be further hon--ored at a second open house Saturday in Martinsville, N.J. The bride has fulfilled an LDS Eastern State mission. Huff has attended Mr. Drake College. He is a trustee of the New Jersey State Genealogical Society, and a member of the Holland Society of New "York and the New Jersey Society of Colonial "She has focused on getting her daughter married off, and when that happens and the daughter, moves away, 'she sometimes feels that the nest is not only empty but there So isnt any nest after all he takes it very hard, and we ... ave ,tbe mother-in-la- problem. Another problem in mature years is divorce, which is on the rise among this group. Dr. Alfred A. Messer, a psychiatrist of Emory University, Atlanta, calls this trend "the betwenty-yea- r fracture cause it occurs after the last child has left home. He attributes this to our society, where the If mature couples adjust to the prises of these years, the outlook is bright, according to anolher authority. I think it is rather encouraging to note that as women and men move into the fifties, she said, studies show that if they managed to weather the crises of .the forties things tend to get better, You Jmve higher rates of marriage happiness; in fact, you, can have a second honey- RAMAR SHIRTS for selective young froditienols r s back-to-scho- moon. collars. Practical, too, because they're sleeves and button-dow- n Dacron polyester & cotton with Durable Press so they never need ironing. In Boys Sres 8 to 23. SERGIO MEHDES & BRASIL 66 i Hite only &UG. 15th, fM. t SALT PALACE ARENA GH0U? 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