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Show 7Ig Salt Lake Tribune, Sunday, September. 9, 1973 inw Understand childs acute school phobia By Dr. Lee Salk Director, Division of Pediatric Psychology New York Hospital-CcmcMedical Center It is very common In late September for pediatricians to be faced with the problem cf very well In school since she started. She has always been eager to go. Recently, she b? a stomachache every mornam snre she is faking. ing. She says everything is as good as ever. I dont know whether to let her stay home or force her to go to school. What do I do? Mrs. B. G. Dear Mrs. B. G.: Dr. Silk acute school phobia, that is, a fear of going to school. This should not oe confused with a childs reluctance to go to school Some children who have a severe fear of school develop anxiety shortly after returning from the summers vacation. They will revert to the use of physical symptoms to keep from going to school. Vomiting, headaches, sore throats and various aches and paints become the complaints of children, present in conjunction with their anxiety. It is crucial to view these complaints as real and not pass them off as emotional untd they have been checked out medically. Do not diagnose the problem yourself, even though you feel certain that your child - is just anxious about school. Insist ttat your child go to school. Concurrently, investigate all reasons that could be causing her to complain of A medical stomachaches. will help conexamination clude if the complams have an organic basis. Also, contact the school. Check to see if she is being bullied by another classmate. If your daughter is having social problems, such as being rejected by her peers or not or belonging to a clique group, the school might be able to shed some light on these problems. make it extremely difficult to get her back, even after you have eliminated the cause of the problem. Also, it tells the child that feigning an illness will help her avoid other unpleasant situations. Sometimes, it is common for a child to feel threatened by an overbearing teacher. It is possible that your daugh- ters stomachaches could be a manifestation of her anxiety over her teacher. Dear Dr. alk: son Is My be- ginning to show rebelliousness and negativism about going to school and following rules and regulations tne teachers have made. What conld possibly be the cause for this? Mrs. C. R. Letting your child stay at home when there is a possible psychological cause for her reluctance to go to school will Dear Mrs. C. R.: If a child feels neglected and feels he is not getting he may enough attention, learn that he can get attention (even if its negative) by creating problems about school This behavior serves two purposes: gaming the parents attention and punishing the parents for neglect. When there is tension at home, many children are fearful while in school; they are worried about what is happening at home. Spending more time with your son or daughter and sharing in his activities will give him the attention he or she craves. certain things belong to tittle' toys from his kindergarten biends and put them in his pocket. Is this a potential problem? Mrs. D.L. Since your child is five years of age, this may be a problem, but it doesnt necessarily mean that he will grow up to be a juvenile delinquent" You may have to seek professional help wih this problem if it does not yield to the approach I recommend. cer- tain people. If a parent neglects to get this idea across (when the child is between 3 and 4 years of age), the child may continue taking things which belong to others. Be firm with your child and tell him that taking things from other children is unacceptable. Tell him that it makes you angry. Dear Mrs, D.L: Most children like to have things they see that fascinate them. While they may be protective of their possessions, they might not apply the same standards to other children. Sometimes, the problem will persist If parents do not try to help the etiild understand that welcomes behavior and Salk Dr. regarding It is crucial that you stress that people will not want to play with him if he keeps doing this kind of thing. 84110. Dear Dr. Sa'k: tends to take My Warner's ' ! "Real McCoy" in Qficdffdi QOxdadt - Q7udridi . oitdadi QHudad . Qfmdadi Surefy-Femmi- "Pomt D'Esprit." ne Two lovely versions in delicate, nylon lace of white or smooth beige. 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