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Division of Pediatric Psychology New Yoik Hospital Cornell Medical Center Jbf Salt aW Snbnnr JU1 p R Resentment, negativism, and destructive behavior can occur at almost any age in a childs life These are all means for establishing independence and demonstrating his need tor Sometimes, a however, childs defiance and destructive behavior continues and dominates almost everything he does When this happens you have a pioblem and must do something about it v leartli throbs These mistakes take genius iz Sandy Poulsoo For years when 1 was grow-nup 1 assumed 1 had nor In fact in lal intelligence. ich areas as baton twirling. chs and drawing hoises, I hought 1 was rather a genius But 1 was wrong No person ith an I Q above 95 could otitinue to make the mistakes made sack of flour to the sink I wonder Why dont 1 experiment with opening it all the By g Filled With Foolishness acioss the top very, very carefully, instead of trying to shake it out of a nanow slit way beforehand that theres going to be a little coupon right at the top that s going to pouf flour for three vaids about if I dont remove it carefully before I start pouring into the canister s For that matter, why don 1 1 think of an answer to such dialogue with my childrenPick up the toys. James - know Uhv dont I ' didn't Cathy did 1 them get F.very one of my days is filled with such repitittous foolishness 1 let the garbage pile so high half of it falls off on the way to the trash can. 1 try- carrying all the packages from the car to the house in one impossible trip, I gtv e the permission to fix himself snacks, I wax tne '. on floor on rainy days and on, never learning from one disaster to the next - Think of Answer 1 I If I were halfway intelligent 1 d not have to end up yelling 1 don't care who got those toys out or who played with them 1 want them taken cat e of Whereupon I either take care of the toys myself, or listen to a song, mg discourse on mothers who are unfair and brutal self-pit- y Opening Hour F'or instance, how many acks of flour have 1 opened iv er the last decade or two .lore than 100 I should think end how many of them have pened without getting flour ill over the counter, and tloor, and my front None out, Please right, Cathv pick up the toys. I didnt play with them James did ever take the I Whats moie, the other day ran across some pictures I drew m grade school horses weie terrible The Betrothal Elaine Southwiek Mr and Mrs A. J Southwiek Jr , Bountiful. announce the engagement and forthcomElaine ing marriage of their daughter, Southwiek, to Douglas Rosendahl The couple is planning a July 21 wedding m the Southwiek home News of the engagement was disclosed June 2 at an announcement luncheon given by the mother of the future bride at the Ambassador Club Miss Southwiek attended the Imversity Ltah, where she affiliated with Alpha Delta Pi She has also attended Pans all Modeling School Mr Rosendahl is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Garn Abbott, Salt Lake of Citv J i omni Wednesday, June 13, eetion Dear Dr. Salk: My child keeps getting Into trouble, breaks things and al- manages to do things that he knows i don't like. He never gives me a moment of peace." Mrs. R. V C. ways Dear Mrs. R V C.: It is important to lrch upon a child s bc'hav lor as a form It is a language of language without words, but he is trving to tell you something In my expel lence, when do this, they aie saying. need your love and attention and dont seem to be able to get it any other way but by " doing bad things ihil-die- n well meaning parents get caught up in this situation, particularly when they have more than on child and when Many their children are spaced cose togethei It is too easy to take moments of peace and quiet and devote them to yourself bv reading a iwgazine, newspaper, oi book A our child quickly learns that he gets your attention only when he does bad things I He is saying in a sense. would rather get you to be angry with me, than have you ignore me Dear Dr. Salk: can I help to avoid child doing bad and destructive things to get my attention? Mrs. A. G. F. How my Dear Mrs. All R.: A. G. The best way to do this is by giving your child posttive he when attention even doesn t ask for it That is, well, all sav, when is Wouldn't it be fun if you and 1 sit down and lead a book together or Why don t we go and take a walk, and buv an ice cream cone What you aie doing is showing recognition of your child when nothing is going wrong Children learn very quickly and will easily pick up the idea that they can get your attention by doing things that irritate you It doesnt require a great deal of tune, but it short frequent, requires amounts of time and will definitely offset your child's need to badger you and irritate you to get attention Dear Dr. Salk: My child is disobedient most of the time. I keep taking and this privileges away doesn't seem to help. What does all this mean? Mrs. J L. Dear Mrs. J. L.: Dear Heloise: would like to make a suggestion to the folks who make those very special I JfF' ? HeloiseyA P cakes, pies, or cookies for a bake sale What I wouldnt have given for the recipe for a great big cake I luscious chocolate recently bought at just such a bake sale I sav ored each divine crumb of it know mg full well 1 could 'never duplicate it paint on clothes Dear Heloise: Every time I wanted to us the extra leaves on my table in the dining room I had a horrible time pulling the two pieces apart m order to add the extra leaves seasonings I finally got smart and used a spray wax on those little wooden pegs on the table and now I can pull it apart with no undue struggling I also gwe the runners a quick squirt of that spray wax and the whole thing operates so much easier Mrs Barbara A oelieve they wiH find that write or type out the ieupe on an index card and m fix it to the plate of each item those goodies will sell quick " as a wink 1 if they Because in this way. if the s pi son w ho buys that delicacy "m, finds it to her liking, she can make it herself r Mave Lewis I have a great tip for oil a ing tt carry around. )ust dip skirt hanger onto the canvas It's much easier to transport and better than getting 23rd Annual and Dear neloise: My favorite meatloaf recipe calls for seven different dry It takes precious time to take down, uncap, measure, recap and replace all those jars in the spice rack So I mix up about eight sep- arate batches, put them into large plastic pill bottles and label them It is then a simple matter (if you also keep on hand fro- vL vv " t'jmih Page IS Jr ' 1973 .1 - Nv W'lS'a' V Make sur that there are some satistactions in his life, m particular, some satisfactions and pleasures m his relationship with his parents If you do this, you will be teah-myour child that those people in his life who set rules, focus their attention not only-oand punishdeprivation ment, but also do ofler protection and support g Dr Salk welcomes moil from readers but cannot give o per sonal reply He will answer the most interesting questions from readers in his column Write to Dr Salk, tn care of Home Ser vice Department, Salt Loke Salt Box 867, PO Tribune, Lake City, Utah, 84110 S.L. Visitors Dr and Mrs Keith Marshal! and son San Francisco, visited in Salt Lake City with his mother, Mrs Jav Marshall Dr Marshall is an oral surgeon at Letterman's Hospital. San Francisco The visitors toured Southern California national parks en route home Wash that filter If your air conditioner's filter is washable, wash it periodically in lukewarm sudsy water. Rinse and wipe or shake dry. Change it periodically, according to instructions m the use and care manual Make Ihe succulent steak flavors sing out by marinating economical J in a sassy chuck or blade steaks juice I gingerale-lemo- marinade. n Budget cookout with spice By Bonnie Lake Lifestyle Food Editor It isn't necesvtrv to go gour met to stimulate appetites and sati-f- v taste buds Sour spice rack holds the solution to the pioblem of serving intei esting and appetizing entrees at modest cost Foi oidinarv foods can beimne extraoidinarilv spice is given bv crushing two whole doves No spuy fljvors sueam at you m this ieciie ll.n your econonn cookout vion Menu Spicy Broiled Blade or I buck Steaks Mashed Sweet Potatoes in Orange Cups delicious when skillfully spiced A quarter teaspoon of this and a dash of that from sev oral spice bottles is an inexpensive way of varying the flavor appeal of a basic food and can substitute fm the additior of gourmet foods that run the tood bill sky high Spices are often effectively less tenused in marinades der cuts of meat to be broiled on the grill or in the range For not only does a spicv marbut it inade offer flax also helps tenderize the meat Are you ready to put spicing to the test If so, the lecipe for Spicy Broiled Blade or Chuck Steaks is a good place to start For these steaks, cut fiom the beef chuck, are not Priced considerably costly less per pound than steaks from the lom, such as Porterhouse and sirloin, they are less tender and somewhat most appropriate for marinat- Pepper Salad Hot Bolls Butter or Margarine Fresh Fruit Compote Beverage Spicy Broiled Blade or 1 huck Steaks fr ing Is that fascinating flavor ginger, allspice or dove You'll keep them guessing since spice is used with discretion in this recipe that adheres to the rule of the light touch. For example, the flavor of clove, an especially pungent 2 beef blade steaks, cut to Vinch thick 1 cup gmgerale cup lemon jJice 1 4 3 2 2 2 1 Vj ade ov er them, turning to coat all sides Cover dish or tie bag securely and plate in pan m Mai mate refngerator four to six hours or overnight Turn steaks at least once while marinating Place steaks on grill or on rack m bi oiling pan and broil at moderate temperature coals or m (over broiler with sunace of meat four to five inches from heat) for 15 to 25 minutes, depending upon thickness of steak and degree of doneness desired Turn and brush steaks vv ith marinade occasionally. Makes four to six servings. d n a Etiquette JEAN: Aae tablespoons chopped onion tablespoons diced pimiento tablespoons salad iil doves, whole teaspoon salt teaspoon ground allspice teaspoon ground ginger '), teaspoon pepper Combine gmgerale, lemon juice, onion, pimiento and salad oil in saucepan Remove and crush buds of clo Add crushed doves, salt, allspice, ginger and pepper to marinade and cook slowly five minutes Cool s Place steaks in utility dish or plastic bag and pour marin fJJ V Moior iron cue lobs skojld never be ccr'ea C m pubhc Even the emergency Ming of o broxen noil 10 Oes ou of until laer b'e if pos i i ! f house to be hed FOR TICKET RESERVATIONS 363-768- 1 i t i Dear Heloise: I can never remember when I last changed the bag m my I I I vacuum cleaner As a result of this, I very often run info a mess when I do change it because it has gotten too full So now I write the date I change the bag and tape it on the handle of the vacuum where it ism plain sight Mrs P A M. I t9 9 9 t t your goal is income time to look at 714 bonds. If Pratt & Lambert, L Yfepex House Paint 193 birthday Mrs Oarke lived m Grover Vdyne County, until 19o2 when moved in Sd't Lake City She has lived in Draper, Utah since . v fcorn 10 Mrs C'yke has beer active m the LDS Church ire serii as Fr mjry Society President and as a counserr tw ce in the Re ef Society ct verved e a Renef Society Teache intu three ago AM rr end ard re at ye- are invited to her tnoghot Re ief President ahea NO PlErSt family ef Anne Neuberger Cowon honor her at on open On Sundov Ame 17th m ewlwerohon of her 80th Brtfcday Frwndi and retch ves ore mvrted to call at far hon Conco d St SIC between the houn of S otd 8pm 5he is he """her of 6 chi ren and end grandchildren Th c pL The fa eiy requests be no gitt that there PRATT & LAMBERT p ' pmn1 1 V For your free copy, just call A G Howards or mail the coupon It might yeid a lot more tnan just interesting facts about bonds A. G. Edwards & lit . aOORESS . 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In a word, Vapex is wonderful Try it Hundreds of colors to choose from, including your favorite. 193 16 Sajrday June from 1 00 to 4 00 p m at the Union Fourth L D S Vvdrd Ho se 7400 South lOOOEast forher 90th R Sidney P & Ejgr Draper Tooee Mrs Erret.TtRtt.da ard v a Kvaal Union Sne has 49 grandchr dren great grand hiloren and 5 grat grnat arandchi cren CIRCUS 9 I ard Mrs G W Shake pear (Ada Vur son) wiH be honored at an oper houi&e g ver bvt eir children to ce cofflte ttieir yp Jen wiring at the Saive arimvetsary on June 16 Center in East Ely Nevada from 8 to 10 p m Tne couple mvtte their many friends and re atives to help them celebrate this occasion They request no gifts SALT PALACE ALL NEW t 9 9 Mr SHRINE CIRCUS June 15th and 16th Performances 2:00 and 8:00 p.m. t and dumping in a container of the seasoning Jean Coiace GOLDEN WEDDING are ShftsthemotberofMchild'en nmeofvhom re stil living Thy are George W aiders M C (Elen) HeSbC ba't Ue Citv Gavin A of TeasOdle Wayne County J Vjriha C gvvay SALT LAKE CITY f I Witw Base .Wonder.' chopped onions, peppers and bread cubes or crumbs) to whip up a quickie meatloaf vet inby just adding the meat to the ground gredients Th chi'drpf of Mrs Jp Kdtie C wish to announce that tlieywiil honor her at an open S 6 4 zen 1954 ft r vJ 1 e t rnl self-estee- 90TH BIRTHDAY When you have a wet paint- M hands your Shan Komarow Age 14 Dear Heloise: painters' f . -' child is disobedient for no reason at all The chances are that he is not receiving enough positive attention or , By Heloise - P si acceptance by the people m his hie that he relies on fot love Perhaps, he is not even receiving any recognition for the things he does that are right If his life is built almost vlely around vour restrictions and punishments he may feel hopeless and not try to do anything that pleases you 1 am constantly faced with pioblems presented to me by fathers who work too hard and have too little time with their children, and motheis who want perfection m the behav lor of their children If you look at the situation from a child s point of view there seems little that he can gam from a family constellation like this I think that it .s most important for you to treat your child s disobedience by focuson ing more of youi attention the good things he does and show more positive intei est in bin so that he develops a and sense of in his relationship with you Include secret recipes with baked sale goods h- " No Elaine Southwiek I v Pr Lee Salk Rv r-- 'Aie iimywHiyi mjj d ik t 9 I 9 4 k t I |
