Show THE LAKE TRIBUNE SUNDAY AjORNING AUGUST SALT 22 1937 HEART TO HEART TALKS—By Kathleen Norris Woman Faces Grim Reality Who Marries Jealous Man Warns BELIEVE IT OR NOT By Robert L Ripley Authority on 'Heart' Affairs Dear Mrs Norris: The gist of my question is: If a man ia jealous before marriage ia a girl foolish to trust her happiness to him? Myself I don't make him happy and your own lift easier And after a while it will be habit and if your love builds itself into a firm background of home and children prosperity and dignity and mutual respect it won't be too high a price to pay But go into it knowing that the course' of sacrifice consideration patience forgiveness for his jealousy is your only alternative to di- Whole know what jealousy one of Is I'm four adoring brothers" have spoiled me all I've my life a 1 wa y s h a 8 much what I wanted three ' 1 pretty but I d o n't think it's been u n r easonable kl or selfish I love my wonderful mother Kathleen Morris and clever doctor father and a host of relatives and friendsln fact I lovelife! "Now I'm- engaged to iShe Anthony Smith also a doctor handsome successful popular — and jealous He loves me so much that he hates to share me with anyone "he glowers if someone comes up to speak to me at the country club — someone he doesn't know I mean He asks me hot to call by brother's baby "sweetheart" because he" says that is his name for me When I was in a play recently he came behind the scenes every one of the three nights and stood guard hurrying people through their congratulations and hurrying me off to have supper alone with him "I loved Tony like a big brother when I was six adored him at twelve fell genuinely In love with him when I came back from college and haven't changed since I want to marry him want to spend every moment of my life with him And as far as this jealousy goes today I rather like it So many girls are in love with Tony and indeed more than one older woman too that it is thrilling and flattering te me to have him to completely at my feet But sometimes it makes my ' vorce When an engaged man's jealoirsy is merely a matter of sex a few months of happy married life will end it But this man is jealous of your very life your family and friends your interests and activities and for that there is no AS siy Jlrl 1 e W If - S?fj SrWW$ ' 0H A R0CK ?:f $J WEDDING CAKE MPS 'kSJ liTtr- ff¥ ELLEN f I - i f Vfil '1 AWWIGE-SOSHE- '"2 DRUGGED AND CARRIED ABOUT ON THE SHOULDERS UvA V I i J I I DOG 7l v WITH HEART 7'f there boy who was a? unthinking young animal at be a model of decorum af 40 a fins) whisper In your ear " V Tribune Kichandler himself says Lydia Gray Shaw Associated Press feature writer He found it out after watching ths reactions of a dozen or so children picked more or less at random at the conference' table of a broadcasting chain (NBC) The children were as sem'bfed to discuss frankly- - problems about which other children all over'lhe United States had written them They've-tolthe results of their conferences to radio listeners on Saturday mornings when they broadcast their program "Raising Your Parents" Dr Ficha'ndler has discovered the parent-raisesympathize with chil d Bally for "The VV XX s rs K X Vr TO 5PHERE SHOW A1AV THE W BE CUT ALONG OF THE WORLD 3 CIRCLES IN ONE PLANE CAHILL Jby — — u e OF TODAY'S CARTOON Dr Alexander Fichandler principal New Vortt junior high school that discovery and nobody could have been more surprised than Dr less Important to you and if this baby is a ar'rl and presently goes in youth and beauty and sweet- neas to college It will be Nelson who agonises for fear the wrong tort of man 1937 ( MuskogeeOklahoma of a nrnde seem-muc- h Copyright Va7 AlamedaCht Put a youngster to work on a typichildhood problem and he will' solve it Not only that His solution will tally with favored psychological the-ori- hii And as sometimes shy young husband fortified with wifely love and courage-liketo bout of affairs that never took place — tr-S- C Invented cal Nl°n: 7 Ai? DRIGGED BRIDES— The marriage of a daughter is an Important event among the Bugis a semicivilixed Moslem tribe of Celebes The nuptial ceremony lasts three days and the savings of a lifetime are often spent on It Custom ordains that the bride may not aise her eyes or look upon a man ' until after her marriage and to insure observance of this rule she is drugged of of one the head on shoulder In this condition she is carried about balanced the family for another rule Is that the bride's feet must not touch thi ground during the wedding ceremony Copyright 1037 for The Tribune Children Gari Settle Own Problems Wisely Says Educator ii root healthy WAY A AND LAM FLAT aA-ea- r '30 may —LP JW— ' U one of the greatest mathema LAGRANGE — Joseph L Lagrfenge ticians of his ae was completely indifferent to mathematics until he was 17 At that age however (in 1753) he took up the study of this branch of science (1754) he occupied the chair of mathematics with' such success that within ' ' at the Military Academy of Torino Italy as followed achievement achievement honors followed upon just Honors Lagrange's nam Is perpetuated In a hundred mathematical formulas which he evolved and which bear his nam to this day (Theory of numbers calculus of and many others) probabilities attraction of th spheroids get hold of her Men change Ths v MtfPAQE EXPLANATION will f OP (1736-180- up motherless nd exclusively in his undeveloped on father's company men know the these questions simple tr"uth which women never seem able to grspthat the love admiration honor loyalty they give in marriage are' entirely different emotions and elements from those that sotuated the casual sex affairs of earlier years Go back to your give him a kiss settle down to wait for your baby relegate the past entirely and honestly to th pas£ No one of us can mate's keeper affordto be either or conscience In a few yean this will JSr"Y £ - L ON IT MDF DR W D BERRY bv 7f VW-- KjL 'X lfy TAX fpt NATURAL Owr0d fgi—JL HE ONLV Jitl 'BIRD F IS THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY- I J I I UiY V 7!WVf Bride MAY NOT RAISE HER EVES TOUCH HER FEET TO THt GROUND OR LOOK UPON A MAN UNTIL AFTER HER VJUM t jf SL SCH ILL THE MOSLEM TRIBE of CELEBES HAVE ORDAINED THAT PROSPECTIVE BRIDE - U ) JUSr ' NATURAL felRD" 0RU6GED ' Jj: rr£$7 - V pff Shocked Her ultra-moder- rTJT P'Lfwk 4 the age of 17 umHe "Mrs Norris" the letter goes on "the ground seemed to rock under me ' Nelson so shy so gentle so completely happy in his own home so devoted to me! To have him talk in this — way n coarse — this shocked me beyond all belief! And to know that I am to have a child added to my despair After a stormy scene I locked myself into my room and the next day left for my mother's home where I am ail alone now as mother and dad and my sister are in Europe Iyam living in a large shuttered city house with three servants in it and telling friends that I have come down to see the doctor accounts for my "My condition wretched appearance for I have been ' lying awake nights to cry with utter despair How can I ever go back to a man who not only admits hia conquests but claims that such conduct is actually wise from a hygienic and psychopathic standpoint? And if I don't go back my life is wrecked " "I had many warm friendshfps with men in college and many a 'moonlight' and roses' stroll that was full of romance But there is a line that any woman can quite simply establish if she wants to and no man ever made me feel unpopular or a" prig because - I respected that line I knew that some of the girls in the sorority were not of it ' so scrupulous but what they did didn't Such Men Can't Be Cured seem my business I lived my ewn way There is no curing such a man no to discover that Nelson would "Now shaming no argument and no reason like me quite as much if I had dons " He will destroy the satisfaction you the other thing would feel that I was ' might otherwise have in the loveliest just a little more 'normal' (his very of new frocks the most distinguished if I had been a little mors word!) Your-triof dinner parties abroad seems to upset everything I havs weak with him will be blighted because those ever belie'ved of life and morals Sad- odious Joneses are on board and you dest of all is that I lpve him so dearly pejsist in being so agreeable to them miss him so terribly But can a and Your friendship with a charming pair woman creep back to a man who has of new' friends in Paris or London so outraged her finest sensibilities and must be sacrificed because they make in effect apologize to him for what so much of you and don't seem to know really demands an apology from him? he's alive The invitation to take the "Whatever ou say I will do Shall lead in "TheRoyal Family" or "Priwait for mother to come home and I vate Liyes" must be refused by you it thoroughly with her and discuss because- he will be damned again If he 'dad? Shall I go to Reno and close this wants his wife to make a show of her'whole episode before my poor little self before a lot of the village foojs baby is born? Shall I ask Nelson to He probably will be jealous of his chit- come down— hs wants to— and see' if dren one such man recently refused' there is any happiness to be patched ( his wife he): right to nurse their newup out of this wretched affair?" born son because he "wanted the' boy Advised to Forget It to learn that he couldn't monopolize his mother" Every word you say must That's part of the letter My answer be considered measured with this inis this: Sally you really do owe Nelson ( an apology You owe it because you art firmity of his in mind you will find not being very smart If you knew yourself saying in an undertone to your friends "Praise Tony's golf game anything of psychology you would too Tell Tony you're only asking' me know that Nelson's love affairs in col- to get him Darling thank daddy first lege really did not seem important to and run to meet him and say we missed him and in the most serious sense " there'-rwere not important Many him" You'll do all this for peace and to a man and especially one who grew - 1 WHO TOOK UP THE STUDY OP AVijHEAwncs I was at the university His Talk mother a little uneasy and she worries about the future Whatdovou think of It? Not but what I fully in- tend to pronounce the 1 do' in a voice that will be heard throught the entire church next September But I would like to know what you think "DIANA" Dear Diana: I do not think it makes very much difference what I think or what I say You are bound to marry this man you would feel your life crippled and these Jong years of devotion wasted it you did anything else A series of romantic sequences have carried you along so far sequences including a loving father and mother devoted brothers friends admiring successes and pleasures made all the more agreeable by wealth position beauty youth popularity and a natural sweetness of nature If you marry Tony or rather when you marry Tony you will come up against one pt life's grimmest realities You will have much else to console you to compensate you for this real and burning trial But the jealousy of your husband will come between you and every natural and happy ac- tion- of your life and you will have to discount all the delight of the new position the new dignities the forthcoming' joy of motherhood because 1 VV V?V Tor at was professorofmwematics ' cure On my desk here is a very tragic letter from Sally whose whole life has gone with great suddenness on the rocks Or at least Sally feels that it has She was married a year ago to her ideal mana clever quiet affectionate fellqw-wh- o carried her off to a lonely mountainside mine where he is to be stationed for several years She loves the free lonely life adores her big Nelson and would be a completely happy woman but for a talk they chanced to have a few weeks ago "When we were married I really didn't know much of Nelson's background" the disconsolate Sally writes "He was best man at a wedding I was maid of honor it was only moments before we were talking like old friends After that he came to see me at home five or six times— wonderful times! And then we were engaged He says he never has loved any other woman —I believe that still But a few nights ago while we were talking by the fire he admitted— or rather casually observed for it wasn't in the nature of a confession at all— that he had had several love affairs with girls in college years thought that was the only healthy thing to do and was not ready to believe me when I told him that that had no been my idea at all while X L Joseph dren whq are tired of being supervised every minute Show your mother you can safely be left to play alone they say They tell s boy who doesn't want to mow the lawn that he should have some responsibility about the house And he shouldn't expect his parents to pay him either girls who They advise want "boy friends" not to be so serious as Have boys companions bring them home but don't single one out as a favorite Plenty of time when you And grow upsay the parent-raisethe books back them up The boy-giproblem Js one of the commonest reports Milton J Cross' who conducts the discussion on ths air "It's usually girl wants boy not boy wants girl" he says But now and get a Tetter again the parent-raiser- s like this: "Should boy and girl be aUowed to play together?' My answer iff yes because I am a boy of 12 and play with girls part time There are 3 girls and 4 boys and we do have fun" letter reads: But the usual boy-gi"I am a sophomore in high school M£ mother and father are so old rs rl rl fashioned that they won't let me go I think 1 out nights with boys should be allowed to go out sometimes as long as ths people that I want to go with are all right" Letters like these are an outlet for children who feel they can't confide in parents Mr Cross finds the children on ths program make good psychologists be- cause they are logical uninhibited unemotional but appreciative of parents' anxieties have the normal American point of view because they dislike snobs sissies and social climbers use their own experiences in solving the problems FEsSES fne la ktwbM ad tueoM IHT KM r to and ! 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