| Show - rM - 1 ii A12 The Salt Lake Tribune NATION Grieving Centers Help Kids When Death Hurts Too Much have helped 75 similar programs get started and they estimate there are at least as many others in operation Though the centers have no clearinghouse hospitals or funeral homes may be able locate one Portland's center is named for with a Dougy Turno a BY C'ASKY COMBS TIIK ASSOCIATED better" said get any I'RKSS PITTSBURGH — Nicole Gray-ea- r was only 5 but she wanted to be the "strong one"' in her family after a brain aneurysm killed her mother Nicole's father and older sister mourned with tears but Nicole was careful not to cry Over time her stoicism faltered She had frequent stomach problems and at 12 wanted to kill herself That's when Paul Graycar decided his younger daughter needed to break through her tough facade For help he called Pittsburgh's Center for Grieving Children Afti-meeting with other bereaved children Nicole wept all the way home and cried herself to ' I thought my life was sleep ruined and that it wasn't going to now Nicole "But when I was going to the center I found out that it doesn't have to hurt anymore You can deal with it The memories won't go away but the pain will subside" Pittsburgh's center opened in 1996 joined similar groups around the country in helping children talk with peers about friends parents and siblings who have died "The kids who come realize 'I'm not the only one' " said Fred Rogers the center's honorary chairman and creator of "Mr Rogers' Neighborhood" "There isn't anything that beats a community of trust for healing" The Dougy Center the first to focus on youngsters was founded in Portland Ore in 1982 by a nurse Beverly Chappell In the years since Dougy volunteers an eighth-grade- r Ull— mini him Ultimately Turno made his rounds at the hospital talking to dying children saying he understood their feelings because he too was dying Observing how children could help each other Chappell opened the center But she encountered early resistance from physicians brain tumor He had written to guru Elisabeth Kubler-Ros- s asking why no one counseled dying children When Turno a Midwesterner arrived at the Oregon Health Sciences University for experimenasked tal treatment Kubler-Ros- s her friend Chappell to work with death-and-dyin- g — Finaaflfoidable braces that will —1 : e- -f A-1- 3 are an adult onset Diabetic and having If you trouble controlling your Blood Sugar (hemoglobin A1c 80 or above) you may participate in a new drug study Please call Dawna or Sarah at SALT L4KE CITY MURRAY SANDYDRAPER OREMPROVO OGDEN MITCHELL I35P8 Records Page NEEDS DIABETICS FOR A NEW STUDY t iff I GARY A CARTER DOS MS See CENTERS UNIVERSITY OF UTAH Orthodontic ' tab pecioiutM and other professionals "Everybody looked at us and said to us 'You've got to be crazy Kids don't grieve"' she said "People don't like to talk about Consequentdeath and grief ly we totally shield our kids from Tj-l-l really straighten you out Advertised Fee S2940 lyjpllHlIIIM— 1— "I" December 7 1997 Sunday S1 B r SILVERMAN DMIJ or 585-585- 7 585-511- 5 for more information University of Utah Health Sciences Center Endocrinology Research 96 Retainers $392 HIWMMII1M Jl" Aramis for him Man's Best 1998 purchase with purchase ng Set V ' I' a O F T R a R E I " A - IEWELERS CEMOIOCISIS Crossroads Plaza Fashion Place Mall 5340315 2669504 £ 1 John Atencio J S LAB SERIES Week Only S rOR MEN EUREKA 1WERLINE Jimtuxi'tlttui 99 re True ::MfllN -- I "J - I Hepa sealed vacuum filtration system retains up to 9997 8 nf nartieles as small gs 3 microns 1 V- $39 m LITE- j tf'lBu F&At F SKIN BACK SAVER'" handle - Ctf Diitl Easy Empty No Sags J nQretf! 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