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Show Tdit&nd Page A2 December 18f 1998 The Siunimt County Bee Tell fA About It The Compassionate Friends by Loh Sinister The Compassionate the praying, the endless - all seem to converge profit, self-hel-p support organization which offers friendship and underfamilies to who are grievstanding ing die death of a child of any age, reality. What began as, This is unreal. I dont understand this. There's no purpose to it at all, ends when the message gets through that, It has really happened, so what now? The mind then begins to prepare itself for its long healing process, Sometimes and certainly are hopeful nf neve gaining any more experience at thia sort of thing, It helps to know that the faltering words and awkward soul-searchi- ng Friends is a simultaneously. Then, finally, crunational non- elly, almost unbearably, comes feelings are not important, nor noticed, by those grieving. The fact that you're there, is. Someone, at a time when I was speechless, awk- -, ward, and feeling totally ineffective, as I asked what I could do to help, gave this simple, kind reply, from any cause. This is their Just be there." Ive never forgotten Internet introductory statement, and painful, sometimes rewarding, those three words, but its taken me provides the title for this article. always nostalgic, never instant, it is years to totally analyze die depth of' This national organization is the first step towards a positive,' their meaning.. My thoughts along, and multicultural, with no constructive plan that pimply has to this line are this: When we came to. membership fees or dues, and all reach fruition. Its process is compathis earth we possessed two things, bereaved family members are wel- rable to - well, sort of like your - a body and a souL The body only comed. Knowing that holidays are favorite recipe, which, likewise, has is rented, so to speak, and we just particularly difficult for those who to contain certain, essential, basic leave that behind eventually. But have suffered the loss of a child, I ingredients in order to make it sucthe soul, I choose to believe, ii ours : thought perhaps now is a good time cessful, palatable, and rewarding. forever Where it goes, we go,'. to stimulate some thinking about The basic ingredient, in my opincause we are it. So you have to bc acta of compassion for friends ion, for the healing process is peo- careful how you.take care of it (and , andor relatives who have suffered ple. And, of course, their remarkThe habits we' thereby, yourself). this type of loss and, unfortunately, able, inherent tendency to provide here our develop philosophies andj g, d, in which almost everyone has the and attitudes, especially - will accompashared. Or maybe I should say fortof compassion depth sorely our soul when, we go, and mayJ unately (the shared part, I mean) needed by those who grieve. ny adhesive for a long time. It1 be because it is certainly die love and Mercifully, self-hel- p support seems like these dominant things support of those who do share that groups are formed, and contribute emanate from us as they exude an makes these devastating experiimmensely towards comfort, aura, feeling, or perhaps a sort of. ences bearable. Several emotional solace, and solutions. Coalvilles thats received or, stages, seeming to take on an group meets the third Thursday magnetism almost ritualistic aura, overlap each each month in the County Health sensed by those around us. And its, this feeling, or aura, we project that other when tragedy strikes. The iniBuilding and has invited the Kamas communicates, oftentimes, as effoc- -' -tial shock is terrible, unbelievable group to attend. Many families words as In some cases even ' lively have couldn't be to trauma "Ibis the of a like, happening escaped losing so. more Compassion, I believe, us. Its not real Fm surely dreamchild, and they're the extremely those of one 11 things easily projected.. i ing. I' wake up soon. Then, as lucky ernes, because it can happen at this Christmas. now, conMaybe infiltrates the to who anyone. People anytime reality slowly sciousness, s numbness settles in. have suffered this experience are Season, would be a good time tot Everything about your awareness gratefully aware of die kindness send a thought, or short message to, seems to die within you, replaced and consideration given to them by or do something nice for, those close to you who have suffered a' by a vast, vast emptiness, with a those offering help and compassion. words if of the do Sometimes not great loss. Or, maybe just because feeling futility...of..of only...syndromel and it lasts far come easily, and awkwardness is you appreciate them for whatever; too long. Soul searching, despair, always apparent for those offering reason. It'll light up their life. .1 what their sympathies at the time of loss blame of self, the whys, Thought for the day: In three words I can sum up .' because of their inexperience in foes, a deep search for understandf these the unfairness the it The matters. of of all, suffering parents 'everything I have learned about life ing need for faith, pleas for strength. are also inexperienced at this, It goes on Robert Frost an life-savin- much-welcome- Just Stuff by Jan Its ir Pams jerfy . . In the fun the Heber Valley Railroad Polar Express along with my son Ryland last week was a fun experience. I enjoy meeting people so it war probably more fun for me than for him, but we did have a good time together. In talking with individual folks, I believe the ride is something that could become a traditional venture for most of them. Family fun is always a big draw, especially at this time of the year. What makes Christmas special for you? It is definitely an individual thing. For me-- it is seeing all the bright holiday lights (this year the in tiling seems to be the icicle lights). I only wish people would leave them on longer, like say, through the winter. They sure add a special warm glow on cold winter nights. Christmas music is another have to for me. What would Christmas be without hearing White Christmas Silent Night Frosty" Away In A Manger and others? People use Christmas music for a variety of reasons-whil- e they are wrapping presents, driving around in their cars looking at Christmas lights, adding atmosphere in homes at meal times. Whatever, it just adds so much. The smells at Christmas time are so neat. Spices from baking. (ZhtLstnxA s Is niout flvlttf help us fill the shelves at the jbliAst Kamas food "Sank. -- Zhey ate completely empty. St Ih$ yout food Items to the Summit (bounty JSee office tSlft-1- 7 South Hath, V lve set fles sly at this time of yeat candles with their fragrance and pine trees with their traditional pine smell Candy cooking on the stove, fruit cakes and cookies fresh out of the oven. All add their own special blend of seasonal greetings. Christmas cards (lam really bad on this one, but I like receiving them) are so neat I know some people who send them out the day after Thanksgiving is over. A few yean ago, I tried something different-sending cards after the holiThe response was are over. days neat because everyone told me it wu a bright spot after the holiday rush to be able to read about what our family did during the season. I felt it was a nice way to end one . . :i t two weeks before Its ; the time of year making me scurry. The ( ly here jjiolictyx, geasqn J thats' . fa I always love being around family, but far sane reason, it is even more special during the holidays. Perhaps people realize their blesser ings more at this time of the reason, it seems to be felt more deeply. Reading Christmas stories from individual lives always brings brightness into my own. Because I love to read, I am always searching for different books to interest me and I sure found several great ones this year, (read other article about year-whatev- REMINDER Duo to them). Needless td say, the father learned an important lesson that day. One that all of us could learn about as well. Words really do have the power to either lift up pr tear down. Maybe it wouldnt hurt any of us to take a few minutes to truly express our feelings of love towards someone who we admire and respect Neva lmow-- it might be on a day when the person realty needs a lift I would like to express my Thanks to those who have inquired about the recent surgery my husband had.. His back surgery went well, thankfully, and he it recover-in- g ' ' nicety. Christinas greetings are extended to your house from out-hope' this season we will remember foe true meaning of the season and put others needs in front of ourselves. ' I know God will not give me anything I cant handle. I just wish God wouldnt trust me so much-Mot1 . ha Teresa. Its loving good cheer. So forget the confusion and all of the bustle. fa caring. and giving and time So pause a moment and remember the reason we celebrate Christmas and this joyful . Forget the hassle, the hurry, the hustle. If foe mistletoe is not hung, the tree is not lit. Just plain dont worry about it. a season. Remember the angel and the Savias birth. Joy to the world, peace on earth. deca on the wall When that carol is sung stop Its certainly more' than a Because Christmas is more than . wreath in the hall. Its more than stockings hung by the fire. Or beautiful carols sung by a and hear it. Take the time to feel the Christmas spirit! ty ,official- fa way. choir. Christmas is family and days almost hear. And it really is a time for friends and sharing , 1 tle different and doing tilings my Whether were ready or not, the , saying I care. So many people And theres just so much to gave so much and it will always do, I fear. stay in my heart Christmas is just around the Showing that you care for bend,'! someone and want to share both And I still have Christmas their ups and downs, is something . cards to send.: . . . that wtil never be outdated. I have Therere packages that have to been so very fortunate to have be sent afar been on the receiving aid of many That I havent bought yet, acts of kindness over the years. To which is about par. Theres presents to buy, and those who have helped me in any the tree to trim. Thank much. you very way, And something for Kraig. I Remembering the significance of the holiday season, loved read- dont know what to get him. both of 'U I heed to get things ing a short story recenftyabouta boys. my her who loved person wrapping And I have no ideaswell, presents for others in cute designs except toys. and paper, but more important than The thought of shopping is that-sh- e sure made the can: always something I dread. read With Love and meant it. Shop til you drop,--: then wish In a classroom setting, I heard you were dead. the story of a young girl whose The confusion, the hustle, the father got mad at her for using hurry, the noise. Christmas wrapping paper when vAre certainty not some of my they did not have much money to Christmas joys! And Im not the only one spend for more. He was even more distraught when she handed him whtik caught in the haste. die package the next day, wishing Everyones life is very fast him a Merry Christines, .end paced! opened it to find there was nothing inside. Opening a present that didnt have anything to show, the father became angry end told his daughter that wasnt a nice thing to do, at which paint she told him it was filled with kisses that she had blown inside to tell him how much she loved him and to say thanks for what he had done for her. year and begin another one. Besides that, I just like being a lit- I am also aware of the feet that when people are suffering from depression or heartache of some kind, the seasonal glitter can be an especially difficult time. Having experienced a death in the family during December, I know how hard it is to get in the mood for Christmas. Remembering people who need our love and support to help them through this difficult time can really benefit ourselves as well. Inviting a family that is experiencing hard times to have dinner with your family, dropping off an I care" package outside someone's door without being caught, taking time to visit a shut in, doing shopping for a person who is homebound-th- e list is endless and many tilings can be accomplished far minimal cost I will never forget the thoughtfulness extended to our family when we needed it so much. The person who tucked $30.00 in a card for our trip out of town, the family who boxed up the makings for a holiday dinner, knowing I didnt really care all that much, a rose in a vase with a note , 4 . Christmas and Im a bit harried. Im so busy at work; Im simply buried. Im waking long hours; Ive waked late every night. And there just doesnt seem to be any end in sight. My desk is strewn with papers and files I cant even claim to have organized piles. 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