Show I C4 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Friday October 10 2003 V FOR BETTER OR WORSE upon cHBaaEpSSppwfiay may peter out alter a while However if he is slighting you and neglecting his marriage in order to focus his attention on someone else it bond you have built can damage the ar DEAR ANNIE: I have Karl ask him to go with this to and been married to “Karl" Explain 'j : 5 for 34 years and we have you for maifiige counseling As always if he j j : won’t go witn you go without him I two wonderful grown ' 1 -ANNIE-it’s late too DEAR to not J- children Our relationship hope has been without serious respond to “Musician’s Wife” whose husrond " ! “Mick” is die lead singer in a rock band She ' problems until recently i j is concerned about Mick’s behavior I' Last year Karl became band members are the other J totally obsessed with a pressuring saying HILBERT —him to frolic with female fans She has been young female celebrity : f ' " fore'musicians with weeks crush these has for I harmless was a battling v What thought s: turned into a yearlong obsession Karl spends v J ing Mick to consider leaving the band I have been married to a musician for nine J every waking moment thinking about this woman He listens to her songs buys her prod- - years Being the spouse of a working musician is not easy It can mean weekends apart and ucts tapes her television appearances and late nights at smoky bars or clubs It requires a spends hours in Internet chat rooms devoted to her The absolute low point was when he called lot of trust and patience However no spouse out her name during an intimate moment in the ' should be battling with the other band mem-bers That’s like fighting with your husband’s j bedroom boss When I confronted Karl about his obsession he became angry and tried to blame me saying v Please tell “Musician’s Wife” that die best ' I was insecure and threatened by his innocent ' way to cope is to keep the lines of communica- ' '“guilty pleasure” I am beyond baffled and too tion open Allow Mick to be the one who makes the decisions when it cranes to 7 humiliated to talk to anyone about this It has reached the point that I’m seriously consider- -' performance Be as supportive as possible Find other spouses of musicians who can pro- ing divorce Any ideas?— Sickened in the HOVft ABOUT HUft) OFF '"South vide guidance and emotional support y fiAMBAUOHCNXKMAOU : DEAR SICKENED: Karl seems to be going Marriage to a musician can be rewarding — neeoFAAVMijBf Another Musician’s Wife through a midlife crisis His obsession is less i destructive than some but it is plenty disturb- : DEAR WIFE: You seem to have a good for him that’s to reason to and enough you ing grasp of the pros and cons and you are obvido something about it ously secure in your relationship Thanks for His fantasy life is just that and his interest helping out today : By Kathy Mitchell & Marcy Sugar Creators Syndicate Inc V ' boriEft AJ tAExcrr'ft NOTHEK 34-ye- : :jJ - on-sta- ge j ' 'v ? v:-' : THIS IS THE BUDGET FOR LAST YEAR ’' d ' STOP MAKING ' IT SOUND ANNUAL ! on-sta- ge ' : Sciatica has various Af $ Peter H Gott MD eventually followed by weaknessif the nerve j7 isn’t decorrxessed1 The most common of sciatica is a herniated disc: a portion of the GRIZZWELLS material separating the vertebrae protrudes out:"' of place and presses on one (or more) of the What can I do about a nerves that make up die sciatic bundle With pinched sciatic nave? My treatment such as physical therapy steroid '? orthopedist advises die or one injections spinal manipulation chiropractor surgay “slipped” disc frequently moves back into says it’s a symptom of place and symptoms disappear However if menopause and another this conservative management fails to relieve says my hip is “funny” for the surgical pain or weakness surgery must be considered Y Except "tin order to prevent permanent sciatic damage option no one is giving “ij Other causes of sciatica include bone over- me a logical explanation' aW DEAR READERtThe sciatic nave is actii-4- !' growths (from arthritis) compression fractures: allii MMMnnMii nf KMnn I nerves that after tieul of the spinal bones abscesses and tumors'Your ''1? ' ' ' li question suggests diat there is some disa®re5' ing passed from the spinal cord between the 4 vertebrae bones in the lower' 5 inent among your chirqxactic practitioners draighnut-shape- d backcombine to supply nerve function to each' to the exact nature of your sciaticayc'?? the legs"as well as to transmit sensory- - - - V: ?Althoui arthritis rtf die hip mayrometima impulses from them Thus a “pinched” sciatic masquerade as sciatic pain I tend to side with v nerve (sciatica) customarily causes pain and your orthopedic specialist Yon should have an r MRI scan tingling in the buttock and lower extremity By ' v" ir Newspaper Enterprise Association — fi - : ’v ' "v- ''vy1 V:-- - J - P - - Y r 'Xv- 1 - -- ’ t Horoscope Bjf Bernice ' bfrf " ’ BedaOsol ’ll'AQUARnJS b (Jan19) rIf you’re involved in any type of commercial ra business dealing todayyou should be able to get fortha n through is soft touch and gentle measures PISCES (Ffcb ZtVMarch 20) -r- Ybur demeanor and charm Can be your most Enterprise Association ??RwFnHnv rV(r in 2003 wi® 'Yourbirthday4::' pi In the year ahead your s abilities to assert your-ij- i' self in order to get what vou want without offend- -' J ing anybody will work ' miracles for you J i ' to GARFIELD v 20-M- ay t UBRA(Sept23-Oc- s?" ? ’'4 today : ARIES (March 19) — It’s your turnl to be the recipient of foe thoughtfulness ofoth- ers making fra a very pleasant day fra you TAURUS (April 2Q) — By making ' the effort to spend some time with one of your closest friends today you could turn this into a very special day GEMINI (May 20) — Challenging responsibilities ra tasks are not apt to intimi- date you today" CANCER (June 21 -- July 22) — Something pleasant may occur today that will give rise to ' your optimism and expectancy" about life LEO (July 22) — A happy change could be stirring at this tinie that will benefit both you and those you love pt VIRGO (Aug 22) —One of your greatest gifts ft the ability to make anyone you deal with feel important and appreciated 21-Ap- ril 23) — A way could open up today fra an opportunity to increase your 1 20-Fb- : earnings" SCORPIO (OcL 22) — Today you ' have a knack fra making light of serious situa- -i tions -- which is disarming to those who need ‘" reassuring SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21)— Let head when rule heart today your dealing r your with loved ones and everything will work out much better than you thought possible n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) — Your greatest pleasures today will come from things that can’t be measured in dollars and cents J 24-N-ov -- 23-D- ec - 2Z-Ja- 21-Ju- ne ’ 23-A- ug ALLEY OOP 23-Se- Crossword October 10 2003 ACROSS 20 Space wear Slow 22 (hyph) I pitches 5 Dallas eager 8 RN II 13 specialty Taken — (stunned) Ancient Tokyo 14 Cry of delight 15 Singer— Washington 16 “My gal of song 17 Monk's title 18 Too hasty 41 Foreboding 42 — we there The Qaatle yetr author Franz 43 Juice-base- d drink 24 Harsh cry 25 Stoop 26 Data 45 Mery's host- 28 “Fernando 50 group 32 Period 33 Ollie's 51 l 52 partner 54 34 Bicyclist — LeMond 58 35 Wreaths 37 Bank dep 39 Wrath 40 Not on time Ansaw to Pmtous Punts FRANK AND ERNEST ess 47 — Sam J Throng -t- ai Prefix for “recent Senior y "SHAMPOO AN filVATf ttAAWMIN' MAT A COVPLt 'Of Dungeon 59 Mineral I OLtyN 6QLtlt$ f r pring 60 Third-rat- e Devious 62 Have a snack Muzzle 61 DOWN 7 European river 8 Meat substitute 9 Loughlin of “Full House” 10 Talk 12 Army duds Schoolboy Kimono sash 19 Famous trail Forbid Head wrap Screen Computer language Qwda) 21 Garland ' 22 Yellow Sea country 23 Look for 24 Hollowed out 46 25 Gong 27 Grimace 47 29 Ahemeor 48 Boitano 30 Catcher under Chute material Out callers Join wood 49 Metro area 50 Canoe or yacht ’ 53 Acid rain Stengel 31 Screenwriter watchdog 55 Batman and Jame- s36 Close Robin 38 Go places 56 Curve 44 Over- 57 Dell bread populated -- THE BORN LOSER g— to-t- o |