Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Friday February 27 2004 — C3 f Famifly By Kathy Mitchell & Mercy Creators Syndicate Inc gifts too ptricey FOR BEHER OR WORSE 6AIP - said I spectful to my late husband's memory I can live with their decision even though it is painful The problem is mostly my father-in-la- w He has removed everything I put on my husband's grave including flowers and notes Dad says he will continue to remove whatever I put there This hurts my daughters and me I am absolutely distraught over this and don’t know how to handle the situation Just because I choose to move forward with my life doesn’t mean that I ho longer love my husband I simply cannot live on memories alone and it’s not as if I left my husband for someone else My say they paid for the as and do can gravesite they they please How can I fix this? — Still Grieving in Louisville Ky DEAR GRIEVING: How sad that your father-in-lawants to punish you by denying you expressions of love at your husband's grave Your obviously cannot forgive you for trying to be happy when they are still Sugar DEAR ANNIE: My husband's siblings are driving me nuts For their parents' birthday and holiday gifts his siblings select something they like and send us a bill for our share The last one was $150 for Mom’s birthday The siblings never consider that their choiees may be too expensive for us We always contribute because it is my husband’s parents but I can’t stand it any longer Help me And a way out that won’t cause a major war — Best) 'I DILBERT Sister-in-La- w in Ft Wayne Ind DEAR FT WAYNE: How does your husband feel about this? If he also objects 'ask him to discuss the situation with his siblings and request a limit on spending It’s best if he deals with them directly but if he cannot work up the gumption to do so feel free to talk to them on your own and explain the dilemma DEAR ANNIE: My husband committed sui' cide well over a year ago I have no answers why I thought we had a good life with my two daughters from a previous marriage At first I was angry and bewildered but I grieved and went on I recently began dating a man who is a friend of my husband's family I should say have chosen to dis- “was” a friend My own me saying my dating so soon is disre- - I'VE RULED OUT PARANOIA PUT YOUR ANSWER IN AN I in-la- DONT WANT TO BE PAYING FOR THE PAUSES BE1UEEN YOUR WORDS PHEWI THAT'S A RELIEF w in-la- and bitter grief-strick-en The amount of time spent in mourning can be quite different for spouses than it is for parents Try talking to your assuring them that you loved their son you will never forget ' him and you miss the closeness you once had with his family If they won't listen to you enlist the assistance of a grief counselor who might help them understand that cutting you off will not ease their pain You need one another in-la- - in-la- ARLOANDJANIS ISAYV6MOUlD0e eEfRronuGRoomb-rHA- WUEUJ0Y' Peroxide for mouthwash? By Peter ' HGott MD simultaneously reducing its effectiveness against harmful microorganisms! However because the mouth is a fertile ground for bacteria of all kinds the daily use of even a 3 percent mixture is not likely to make much of a dent in the total bacterial count Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: What is the proper solu- tion strength for hydrogen- peroxide used as a mouthwash? My dental technician says the 3 percent solution will kill good bacteria Should I dilute the peroxide and rinse with plain water? DEAR READER: Hydrogen peroxide is an antiseptic As such it lulls “good” germs as well as “bad" The manufacturer recommends it for external use only However some consumers use it as a mouthwash To answer your question as you dilute the solution to save beneficial bacteria you are Although I believe you can safely use the product as you described avoid swallowing it — ' and ask your dental professional for advice and comments DEAR DR GOTT: I recently read that microwave cooking is bad for the food and for one’s health Is this true? DEAR READER: To my knowledge microwaves are not harmful in cooking Nonetheless if there is microwave leakage from the utensil health consequences can result Therefore my answer to your question is a “No but ” depending oh whether microwave “scatter” is or is not a factor GRIZZWELLS ttlWNMA ruiamase: ' mi some cm ZITS Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association For Friday Feb 27 23-A- 2004 Your birthday ' Much can be accom plished in the year ahead if you keep the game plan strictly in your hands With you in con- - ' tool you’ll be able to mastermind the direction in which you'll go PISCES (Feb 20) — Unless you take the time to clearly define your objectives today little or nothing of substance will be accomplished ARIES (March 21 April 19) — Don't bank too heavily on hearsay information that may sound accurate but of which you have no idea ' if it’s true or not ' You might TAURUS (April 20) have gotten away with things yesterday but today is another story Be extremely careful how you handle your funds or resources GEMINI (May 21 June 20) — Don't permit yourself to become involved in a situation ! today that would put you in the middle of two opposing factions CANCER (June 22) — Responsibili- - ' es - well-meani- ng GARFIELD 23-O- 24-NO- -- : In-la- 23-Se- 20-Mar- ch ' ties and duties could start to pile up on you today if you fail to make the necessary changes caltai for when things start to go awry LEO (July 22) — Business and pleasure make a poor mix today so don’t try to put a deal together at a social gathering even if the individuals pertinent to your plans want to rela--livpt VIRGO (Aug! 22) — friends dr even good should be kept out of your private family " affairs today ct LIBRA (Sept 23) —Any services today-shoulfriends render associates to or you be done out of the goodness of your heart V SCORPIO (Oct 22) — Don’t vol- untieer to be the treasurer for a social group ' today Should you be unable to collect the funds from everyone you might have to be the one who makes up the difference' SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23-D21)— Should An issue arise jn which you and your mate hold opposing views! drop the subject ' CAPRICORN (Dec 22-!l19) — Be sure your motives are pure You may start the critique but chances are you’re not going to be ! tlx one who has the last word 19) — Be careful AQUARIUS (Jan 20-Friot to build your material hopes today riri cir- cumstances where the control of the possible outcome of events is in the hand$ of another ec 20-Ma- y : : -- an v : s ALLEY OOP eb 2i-Ju- ly IMMOIMMtt OOUriiA arv YOU COUNT CH ONMOOPf iyeeto MAPPV YMKTS 1W PLAN I WU IWMKIMC' Crossword February 27 2004 ACROSS 25 Garnet or ruby 26 Hindu mystic 28 Author Pack firmly 5 Units of wt 8 Glutton 11 Socrates' 1 13 Charged ' atom: 14 Slip up 15 Gem 16 Health resort 24 Hop- : ” : 58 Coqau— poeaeroor' 39 Ultimate 60 Dead duck! a fire V degree ' defense fin- der' V 59 Started 40 Danson and 18 Movie ' ' 37 Think - 17 Cool off 20 22 Rattler's tie- : ' It lioness Quick rdid 47 Tornado 5Q Cotton unit — Dinesen 51 Outback bird 32 Raw metal ' 52 Feverish 54 Sweater 33 Music genre letter 34Tijuana tyke ' foirum 45 Imitate Koppel 41 Buffalb feature 42 Be infirm 43 Badges V'1 61 View 62 Brown '' of renown 63 — --serve (gas sign) V ' - - - DOWN in— mr to ProuiiuiaPuwls p —Mahal mm D AIUIRIAI 0Q0B0 HO ImaojQBB 0B000Q DUBS 000 — : HOBO B0D0 Hnnn bhh O00B0 Il3n00j(F §Ip 0 QKUiauB JB B0 QBn hqs !§ 000DK1Q D0DQQ 5 6 n0IDQ0A0000D V- - brass ' ' ''30 Mischief 31 ' ’19 Unrumples Ripen Do the lawn 21 Valhalla host 36 jt Groom feativ- - 22 Jules— ' ! 38 of sci-- fi ers C 44 23 Corrects Simpsimkid 24 nedfcament 46 Early Jazr Foul-u- p 25 odiac : 47 animal Beneficiary Killer whale 27Expert ' '" 29 Red Sea' 48 Lady' 1 1 8 B0000H 9 0000 0000001 00D0 10 4 :V'' peninsula Jane -- 12 Pewter and ' ' Germany's Helmut — !' girlfriend Saridv ! 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