Show H i v i ' ’ C4 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday March 21 2002 Dad needs help with anger By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate your father from harming you or your son Tell your mother she is welcome to visit in your home anytime without Dad but you no longer feel comfortable going to her hoiue She may not like it but hopefully she will understand Your father has some serious issues with anger management and could benefit from some counseling If he values his relationship with you he will follow through Encourage it" DEAR ANN: I read your column about the office temptress who was flirting with a married man at work Here's the other side of that Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: My father and I have never had a good relationship He was abusive to me as a child but I forgave him I thought he had changed and we were finally on our way to trusting each other I was even beginning to like him I adopted a son last year and my parents offered to baby-s- it while I work My son was fond of his grandparents and it was a lot cheaper than day care so I agreed This worked well for several months but last week there was a problem Dad and I had a disagreement and he grabbed me by the throat and pushed me into a wall I was shocked and surprised by hs behavior I have no intention of giving my father another chance Unfortunately my parents are a package deal If I cut off contact with my father my mother will also be out of my life which would hurt me beyond measure Also I do not want to deprive Mom of the pleasure of her only grandchild What can I do? — No More Forgiveness in : story: I am in my l FOR BETTER OR WORSE Wft HMBfloHirNWE Tsmcurwwrg Bmpuiaaewortnifl homhmhml1 yeo MQKaumawiitnLfTja GILBERT s and work at a nice place Somehow one of the married men has developed a crush on me I have done nothing to encourage him In fact I avoid him whenever possible yet he leaves me little notes on my desk and occasional boxes of cahdy I tear the notes up and give the candy away but it hasn’t made any difference This man’s attention makes me very uncomfortable Why on earth would I be interested in man? Please tell me a married middle-age- d how I can get him to leave me alone — No Temptress in New York DEAR NEW YORK: Start saving his notes and gifts as evidence This man’s behavior constitutes sexual harassment and the personnel department should be notified at once The man must be told in no uncertain terms that his unwanted attention could respit in a lawsuit If this doesn’t do the trick see a lawyer Ohio DEAR OHIO: There is no reason why you have to cut off both parents in order to keep pi mid-20- OUR SLINGSHOT CAN FLINGTHIS A HUNDRED YARDS IS THAT ENOUGH? ITS GENUINE RUSSIAN CRAFTSMANSHIP IDEAL FOR MENACING OTHER THIRD-WORL- COUNTRIES V D X THAT'S HdUTl PLENTY Pap smear is no Ibnger needed patches That reasoning could be vital in your conflict with the insurance company Can you adapt your round peg to fit into the square Yes Ask your gynecologist to request an exception in your case If he (or she) stipulates that you should have the patch the insurance company will1 probably approve it Let me know the outcome of this dilemma DEAR DR GOTT: When I called my gynecologist far an annual Pap test I was told that all such tests are how being performed by a nurse practitioner not the physician This upset me My doctor is now “too busy’’ to see me DEAR READER: Don’t take it personally More and more routine testing is being carried out by personnel such as nurse practitioners and physicians’ assistants Blood tests cardiograms Pap tests sigmoidoscopies and minor surgical procedures are now performed routinely in some practices by pro- fessionals who are not physicians The doctors can then devote their attention to more serious issues such as sick patients and challenging health matters I encourage you to have your annual Pap test by the nurse practitioner you might be quite surprised and delighted at how gentle and efficient she is By Pater H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: I am S3 had a hysterectomy and am on estrogen patches After years of no problems I have recently been told that I can no longer get my patches unless I have a Pap smear by my gynecologist I’ve tried other doctors as well to no avail The basic issue is that my insurance company refuses to cover the costs of such expensive medication pnless I have what I consider to be unnecessary medical attention What do you suggest I do? DEAR READER: Fight ’em If you had a complete hysterectomy there is nothing left to “Pap” This is a test for cancer of the cerviv the uterine opening Your uterus has been removed along with I assume the cervix Therefore there’s no tissue to examine ‘The insurance company is eager to save money so it is putting your round peg into a square hole You do not say why you need estrogen well-train- GRIZZWELLS WS D£ WERE 5UH&WEN IT GOES CWWN? non-M- D ed UTS Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association For Thursday March ' 21 23-Se- pt 2002 Your birthday! 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