Show Section Wednesday March 13 2002 ' Page The Herald Journal Marriages deserve regular checkups ' ' ’ ' i‘- - 1 u ’’k r- k'- - ' : Q: How do I know if my marriage needs a checkup? Answer by Glen 0 Jenson Utah ' State University Extension Family and Human Development Specialist Approximately 90 percent of AmencanswUl many at some point in their lives More than 40 percent of those marriageswill end ii divorce Many others will struggle and find their marriage leu than sat-- V-- ' ' ' V t ' ! i c' J‘‘ “r v V 77 ' it v V-'-- J ' 1 Ji V fc 'jK&r1 $1 -- ssi - Photo courtesy of Ralph T darts Crater Lake Oregon's only national park is formed from an ancient Volcanic caldera and is one of the world's deepest lakes ©iratec ItolhM Oil’s Let’s hope By JR Allred square miles at Yellowstone for example The lake itself is six miles across and covers a total of 20 square miles One thing that keeps Crater Lake from having more visitors is that it is not very close to other attractions he chambers of com-- : merce in some Oregon towns are planning a birthday party I understand why but I'm not certainI want people to attend You see the party is a 100th ' birthday bash for Crater Lake Not v that the lake is only 100 years old but this year marks its 100th anniversary as a national park the only one in the State of Oregon Klamath Falls Roseburg and Medford the three cities that are gateways to the park plan celebrations on May 22 100 years after President Theodore Roosevelt signed die bill creating Cntfer Lake National Park The official Celebration in die park itself is not scheduled until Aug 25 though because the park is typically under five feet of snow in May But I’m a litde’rehictant to write rixait Crater Lake It is such a little gem of a national park and so uncrowded in comparison with the rigger parks such as Yellowstone It is a temptation to want to kern it to yourself tt attracts onlyt little over a half million' visitors a year contrasted with the millionswho throng Yellowstone or Yosemite Of course there isn’t a lot of room at Crater Lake either The national park has only 285 square miles as compared with 3472 maximizing potential in a marriage follow Make your spouse No 1 in your life Love and loyalty are necessary for emotional well-boIn addition to holidays and special occasions surprise each other with small gifts on other days Praise each odier daily Everyone needs to feel appreciated and praised Think of one of your mate’s weak or bad points and let it go Too much time is spent dwelling on negative characteristics in a spouse hoping they will changeMost spouses know die characteristics you dislike and if they desire to change they will - ng Late the occasion doesn’t draw too much attention to this national park j ('for I’ve run back and forth through Oregon by various routes many times but never gone to Crater Lake until recendy If you are going to visit Oregon generally you think in terms of the Columbia River Gorge Portland or the marvelous scenic Pacific Coast: Crater Lake is sort of stuck off there south from the main route and inland from the coast You’re not likely to just stop over oh your way through Oregon You need to plan to go there But it’s worth it j Aside from the general beauty of the area Crater Lake’s claim to fame is its depth It is the deepest lake in the United States second deepest in the Western Hemisphere and one of die seven deepest in the world How deep is it? The answer is “A little less than 2000 feet” But you get a variety of other answers The National Pari Service’s little annual newspaper of Crater Lake National Park says “The official depdi of Crater Lake is now 1947 feet” “Now” is foe critical word here Most recent soundings with the most accurate Help the lake celebrate The Steel Information Center at Crater Lake National Park d is open y offering information permits exhibits maps and publications The Rim Village Visitor Center is open June through September providing Information maps and Rim Drive offers more than 30 publications In summer the oyeriooki of the lake arid area inside the park Ranger-lecampfire y programs and hikes are offered In winter skiing is encouraged on unpiowed roadways Snowmobiling is permitted on the north entrance road Access to the park from the south via Highway 62 is open year- ? rouncL The north entrance vis Highway 138 may be dosed from in a year with average snowfall sometime in October until mid-JuDriving distances are 60 miles from Klamath Falls to the south 80 miie8to Medford southwest and 100 miles to Roseburg northeast U AMkA kft Head--quarte-rs back-counti- year-roun- 33-mi-le d cross-countr- ne 1 m IM and din tog are available inside the park at Moomsj at Rim Viflage overlooking the lake a Motoc Inn (40 looms) seven miles feouth of the In wbitef For reservation information contact See LAKE on CIO 1 was there all along By Margaret M Betts For The Christian Science Monitor When I bought this house I was concerned about how dose it was to foe road but in foe busyness of mov- in-la- ws ing in and getting settloL my concerns were pushed aside Planting vegetariek acquiring a puppy pick- - ' ing blueberries building s chicken house and stadking firewood - all ’ W p theseprojectskeptmeputdoorslt wasn’t until winter arrived and con: fined me indoors fotol began to be awape of “foe road” : :’ v a toainecoutoiy badt - r It's ' j r just -- retreating taillights pull down foe shades ind turn up die radia while I was wasting time fussing about foe road the road was growing it but it’s a busy road Tb foe nqrfo U the city to foe west the railroad arid-t’ tunqrike afxl to foe soqlh the t hire shopping to Rreqxxl' All traff fic passing by my hoiose is intent rm he in-:i- Direct column toplca to Jutana Row Utah &taia Unfvoraty ExtenWop Logan UT sV'v ' V 'X a not enjoy hnd do U for bun dr her Amngefor time away from home without children A change in scenery can do wonders for a mar- riage and problems can become smaller with a break from the everyday activities of life ' Ifell others how much you love and appreciate your spouse Often those Words will get back to him or ' her Write your spouse a love letter and send h by registered mail It is ! exciting to get mail important ' enough that if requires a signature and Write a letter to your thank them for raising your spouse Buy a book bn marriage Read it and identify things you can do to strengthen your part of the relation- - ' : ship Work oh improving youfmarv riage together: Frustration and disap- ' pointment wiUoccurwhen only one person isattemptingto strengthen the relationship :" 'Visit the peW Website at i ' wwwutahmaniagexrg This site is updated regularly with tips on how to keep your marriage strong At the site you can also request a tree video thatu now given1 to all people Utah who receive a maniage license A 'W’S - David and Vera Mace pioneers in the marriage enrichment movement have suggested a simple test to gauge your marriage's potential for success They suggest that couples consider these 10 items: commonality of goals and values commitment to growth of spouse communication skills cre ative use of conflict appreciation and affection agreement on gender roles cooperation and teamwork sexual fulfillment money management and spirituality in the relationship The Maces suggest assigning a score between zero and 10 to each of the above items A score of zero indicates the couple seldom agrees on the item Ten indicates die couple has a perfect relationship in that area Seldom do couscore zero or ten most semes ples are somewberein between Couples can also add items of their own to be evaluated After assigning a number to each item total the scores to determine what percent of die potential is bang met in the marriage as it relates to those items It is recommended that couples complete the test independendy then compare the scores andplan ways to grin more satisfaction in the areas of difference Couples should take the test every few months to determine if significant changes have occurred in S F'i'' ‘if ( The mal niuat go topo A maObox along foirpee Hil Rdad nearNew London NH1S decorated wRh a Rttie Ideal whimsy Rwaf roads can be as busy a dty getting scunewhar else- - : The road made its presence frit Ss ? streets' and Ivfng on one ban adventure in Used says homeowner Maigwat M' f: x( an assault on foe senses t bdpmne Watte ' i : ' f f ) ' - ’ v-: vr''v See n ROAJ) on CIO : 1 |