Show Tl j : : I B2 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday March 4 2002 Girlfriend just a big By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DLAR ANN LANDERS: I have been living with "Lorena" for six months and wc are planning to be married soon Lorena likes to walk around wearing only a top and nothing else Naturally this turns me on If I approach her she will kiss me passionately and then — nothing She will giggle and walk awu Iciting:me know she has no interest in pursuing the matter We have sex less than once a month When 1 discuss this with Lorena and ask her to he more accommodating or less revealing she laughs it off and says there’s nothing wrong I'm beginning to wonder if there might he' a problem with our sexual compatibility down the road Please give me some advice Ann I am — Frustrated and Sexless in Dallas DLAR FRUSTRATED: Lorena is a tease She likes the reaction she gets from you but has little interest in consummating the act' Don't let her innocent act fool you She knows exactly w hat she is doing I strongly urge you to get counseling and work this out before you marry While sex isn’t everything’ in a marriage it is extremely important to most couples Your sexual needs are not ' tease FOR BETTER OR WORSE gym auefc erwvc we- He viro&HES nMOUND THK in tune with hers 'right now and the situation isn’t likely to improve after marriage DEAR ANN: I hope you can help me My ' husband’s father is wedging himself into the middle of our maniage and I can’t take it any" more “Chris” and I work long hand hours and we have precious little time together As soon as we sit down for dinner the telephone rings His father calls every night to say nothing He calls during dinner after dinner and before bedtime He calls to tell us he’ll be calling later This is in addition to the many times he calls Chris at work during the day or stops by the office father-in-la- w never wanted os to many My He managed to leave our wedding before we exchanged vows I think his relationship with Chris is unhealthy and his intrusiveness is dri' ving me insane Chris loves his father and doesn't want to hurt his feelings but I’ve had it Any suggestions? — Desperate in Maryland is ' DEAR DESPERATE: Your father-in-latoo involved in your life and he needs to back off Unfortunately unless Chris is willing to speak up nothing will change Is your father-in-lamarried? If not he may be lonely and expect Chris to be his constant companion Introduce him to some available ' females and involve him in community activities It sounds to me however as if he is trying to control his son Chris needs to set some limits before Dad destroys your marriage Tell him Me oook he cwHewipoiO'hte RunCTA I UAR House FILlteDWHWWHBW THeiMHTWWNES wawreswopTHe MJftC'IbHfMEA room nowbvuwV- THwiDoivS-a- e HE HAS ONB hkudrnbm-m- ciwy qxOToNeoANO DILBERT CAN ANYONE TELL ME UJHY EVERYONE IS ALUJAY5 LATE FOR' MY STAFF TEN MINUTES ARE ALWAYS STUPID STUFF LIKE “WHY MEETINGS? ARE PEOPLE LATE?" BECAUSE THE J FIRST w w ARLOANDJANIS ISaidso Routine testing can be altered annual blood and urine examinations — unless there is some reason such as an elevated cholesterol level or diabetic tendency that must be monitored During your reproductive years you should have annual pelvic exams and Pap tests later (after 40) periodic mammograms But if your blood tests for anemia sugar liver function 'cholesterol and so forth — have been OK for two or three years (and you’re feeling all right) annual testing is neither necessary nor fiscally responsible Nonetheless I suggest that you share your concerns with your gynecologist Perhaps-yoshould have specific regular testing — for thyroid disorders as an example — or evaluations of specific health complaints In contrast you may well be one of those lucky individuals who can rejoice that she doesn’t require routine testing more often than five to ten years Your situation is not unique Given today’s emphasis on minimal testing insurance companies are far less willing to reimburse members for “unnecessary” medical expenses This is reality But it can be altered in the presence of exceptions Your physician can advise you By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR COTT: I have noticed a marked change in what was once considered to be a routine check up by my gynecol- ogist In addition to taking a Pap test and examining ni) ’breasts my former n ordered blood work and urine testing He retired My new gynecologist takes a Pap test examines m& thoroughly and orders a mammogram yet he does not include any blood or urine testing Am I being short- - y ’ OB-Cjy- ' changed? 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