Show I The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday October 28 1999 — Page Marriage seems headed for divorce By Am Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: Are you losing your bjlity to read between the lines? Your advice to Empire State" was a recipe for divorce "Empire” said her husband Darryl had inherited a lot of money a few years back Instead of Pding it on the house he put the money in a separate account and started buying himself cameras computers and finally a boat You told her she needed the courage to assert herself and demand that Darryl treat her more fairly I am a divorce attorney and have seen a great many marriages that have gone bad There is usually enough blame to go around on both sides It is obvious that the spark has gone out of that marriage Darryl is spending all his inheritance on toys for himself while his wife stews in her drab and dismal home Your advice that she keep nagging him until he agrees to accommodate her was unrealistic Chances are that strategy will push Darryl over the edge and he will simply take a hike Most men put their money where their heart is “Empire” needs to find a way to put love back into that relationship She must figure out why things went sour and work with her husband to rebuild their marriage When she is No 1 in his life you can be sure the draperies and couch will follow Darryl wants to enjoy his life with his new money She needs to be die center of that joy and the love of his life not The Nag of the Year — Bob in California DEAR CALIFORNIA: Thank you for "reading lFT KUM0R OUT I seme NEVER HME Survived in merworua sicr a cum uimuDiicora VMM fine HcuMffK'nMrHe levfoftWMnxutHE iMWtto-feaowmtHci- MDWCAUEPHM Comsh" between the lines” when you felt I had failed to do so You could be right — witness your astute assessment and the excellent advice that followed I appreciate your writing and invite you to do so whenever you feel inclined DEAR ANN LANDERS: You asked your readers to tell you how they stopped a drunk from driving Here is my story: I knew a man who drank for more than 30 years He wu a police officer One day after being on duty from 8 am to 4 pm and having had several drinks instead of lunch he went out partying Later he got in his car to drive home He stopped at a traffic light looked around and realized that he was completely lost He got out of his car and checked the street signs but he had no idea where he was He tried to remember where he had been and who he had been with When he couldn’t recall he began to cry He walked around the car to see if he had struck another car or worse yet a person He was relieved to see there was no evidence of either When the man finally figured out his location he drove home crying all the way He had no recollection of the previous 12 hours That night he knew fear for the first time He thought his fellow officers would arrest him for DUI or for leaving the scene of an accident but neither happened You would think that after all that man went through he would stop drinking but he didn’t It took a suicide attempt before he made the final step I know this story well because that man I recently passed my 17th year of sobriety thanks to the counseling unit of the New York City Police Department and Alcoholics Anonymous I could not have done it without diem — RR Sarasota Fla DEAR RJL: Your itory is a moving one Thank you for sharing it with my readers I can promise you that because you wrote others will be motivated to follow your footsteps i 17 I IMOBRS1I90P WHAT HE UiM CAyiNOSOMC ARE OUST RMlFMTMy- - DILBERT IT TAKES YEARS OF TRAINING TO BE AN BUT YOU DON’T NEED ANY TRAINING LJHATS0EVER TO BE AN ENGINEERS ENGINEER I 'n’S UNSKILLED LABOR WITHOUT THE LABOR y pTBOSS Vx COOP do) PElPi ARLO AND JANIS ’WEDaiAUDNEMW TODAY ITS HARD ID RECALL HflWWXAATlVEAUOCARWfi TMl&KTfierAfVOTE Beam mow ever fiUettWDKST G£T UP-R- OS Know IT WAS $ ( ttftDOT Wtu RAYIU& Motif VlL r urn 'sA Whooping cough common in ‘20s By Peter H God MD as 1919 the vaccine was not widely used for children until the 1930s and ‘40s So you should probably have an initial series now (if you have not had this) followed by a booster shot every 10 years a standard recommendation for all adults DEAR DR GOTT: What are the symptoms of malabsorption? Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: My parents use to regale friends about my whooping cough in 1920 The whole neighborhood went around whooping all winter My doctor says that I couldn’t have had the disease because I would have GRIZZWELLS virvE been TbfrCWER aim? DEAR READER: Malabsorption syndrome includes a group of symptoms resulting from die "mm thick aw tmih WWEHT intestine’s inability to absorb nutrients from food Mahy conditions can cause malabsorption these include bowel inflammation cystic fibrosis cancer died Antibiotics were not invented in the 1920s He also said that I had a tetanus shot as a child in 1919 Is he right? ' DEAR READER: I doubt it Although precise diagnoses were often difficult to make in 1920 whooping cough was a common infection in children during the early part of the century before pertussis vaccine became widely available Whooping cough was unpleasant but not usually fatal In those days physicians were quite diseases of the pancreas extensive intestinal surgery heart disease and a host of metabolic abnormalities If vitamins and minerals are not absorbed weakness and anemia will result DEAR DR GOTT) I’m overweight but in shape Does my level of fitness give me health benefits that overcome my obesity? DEAR READER: Surprisingly yes In a report that appeared recently doctors studied 22000 men between the ages of 30 and 83 During the eight-ye- ar follow-u- p period the fit participants had lower adept at diagnosing common ailments based on "clinical presentation” so you probably did have death rates from all causes This relation held true whooping cough Whether you did or hot is a moot irrespective of body weight Thus the study con- that cardiovascular conditioning is more point now there ane mone importaht things tO'ttgne with your doctor about Tetanusfor instance! 'Ithpbrttort'ftArtbody weight1 in predicting health I doubt that you had a tetanus inoculation as early consequences zrrs j Horoscope By Bernice Bods Osol on your priorities and not on probabilities The way to foster allegiance is through realistic premises ARIES (March 19) If you haven’t been getting the mileage you should out 'of die family Newspaper Enterprise Association ril For Friday Oct 29 1999 budget this is an excellent day to sit down and review the situation TAURUS (April Your birthday Your greatest successes in die year ahead are likely to come through both friends 20-Ma- y 24-N- ov 'SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23-D21) Your special talents might be required today to problems others find difficult' It’s one of your greatest assets and you’ll put it to work with relieve ease CAPRICORN (Dec 22-J19) There is a mutual interest that can be beneficially joined through a will an old pal The relationfriendly take wul on significance greater ship b 19) If everyone pulls AQUARIUS (Jan together today on both little and large tasks that need attention the entire family could reap a new collective spirit that will bond them closer together PISCES (Feb 20) Several important social objectives can be achieved today if you focus ec an get-toget- 20-Fe- -- even when confronted keeps you sure-footwith obstacles GEMINI (May 21 --June 20) You’ll be able to discern today between those who are deserving of help and those who are not Much to your credit you’ll utilize your generous spirit only to aid the worthy CANCER (June 22) Start taking some positive measures today to begin wiping old slates clean If you put out the effort bridges can be rebuilt with those that you’ve had disagreements with in the past LEO (July 23-A22) Where you have paid your dues with hard work and diligence a bountiful harvest can now be realized It may come in ways of accolades rewards or opportunities pt VIRGO (Aug 22) Look to die past to predicate your conclusions on seemingly complex problems today Chances are the solution is already known to you it just a matter of looking LIBRA (Sept 23-O- ct 23) Changes are in the making today that could turn your disappointments into substantial victories You've laid die ground work with a solid base from winch you can now build 21-Ju- ly ug 21 Architect harp 7 Cold tine' OwdsJ U Undercoat of c 14 —Leone SvscroSsword WW 15 Henning 14 Greasier 17 One in Paris Food acrap 20 View--- - li AW WCVE neewe) J been on FRANK AND ERNEST tAi&vr am topay OUT WBNT an p m ' A Myna— 54 Actor Fetor— 33 Place 34 Away from die 55 Unearth 54 Game played THE BORN LOSER uu ujouls 1 omuuuu 1 MUJL4 6lm T80 TBP Pedro's node 40 Call it 41 '--Man Flint" Post (1966 movie) 25 Invitation farita 27 Be resistant to 43 Social misfit 45 Wager 29 Letters of die 44 Shade of green Mabel 47 Actress West 31 North Pole 41 Part of LB J worker? 51 Start a new 32 Actress 23 24 Answer to PrwtouaPunla Idlllliiuiau MAN 37 "Dynamic" : Africa ALLEY OOP 23-Se- October 28 1999 1 Fierce with a if ed SCORPIO (Oct 22) If you operate from die premise that what must be dime in an important involvement is to be fair to everyone concerned making die right decisions today will come easy for ACROSS EXCEPT MY VI AHf THERE MY EAR TOOTHBRUSH f GROOMER 20) You have die capac- ity today to scale some pretty heady heights you're so inclined Your tenacity and and casual acquaintances you’ve known for awhile You’ll play important roles in each others’ affairs GARFIELD WOteGOWMOWW DOWN LUUlilfcIML! 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