Show P®98 14 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday March 30 1999 Ann’s lesbian advice a real dog By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am concerned about the advice you gave “Befuddled" the teenager who was afraid her girlfriend “Lottie" might be a lesbian because she slept in the nude when they shared a bed You told her to continue the friendship but not to accept any more invitations to sleep over Your response left me with a When friends are uneasy about sinking feeling something like this it is not OK to ignore it Also a friendship that is not based on trust can be hollow at best As a woman who works with lesbian and gay young people I find it highly unlikely that Lottie is a lesbian If such were the case she would not have risked a negative reaction from her friend Rejection from those they care uboul is one of the principal concerns of gay youth All teenagers gay and straight should he encouraged to be honest with their peers and not engage in deception If the writer has worries and does not deal with them directly the friendship will suffer Please let her know that being gay is not the issue The real issue is empowering young people to be forthright and vocal with each other about situations that FOR BETTER OR WORSE make them uncomfortable Staying silent accomplishes nothing and leaves them frustrated and confused — CM in the Southwest DEAR CM: I had several complaints about my response to that letter and am inclined to think my answer was a dog Your last sentence is a far better response Thanks for cleaning up after me DEAR ANN LANDERS: My 13 -- year-old son has a problem at school He says most of the boys in his eighth-grad- e class smoke pot and drink alcohol My son does not want to be around those boys which is good but consequently he has few friends I am close to the mothers of two of the boys my son is avoiding He is positive they smoke pot and I believe him The parents of these boys caught them drinking just the other night so their behavior is no surprise Here's my question: Should I warn their mothers about the pot smoking and risk having my son accused of snitching and losing two friends of my own or should I stay out of it? — St Louis Predicament DEAR ST LOUIS: Say nothing to the parents about your suspicions Since you are close to the mothers and see them socially you can bring up the subject in a general way Tell them you've heard there’s a lot of pot smoking at school and ask if their children have been affected You should also discuss the issue with the school authorities (without naming names) and find out if there are any programs in place to help curb this destructive behavin' ' Tapeworm test cheap and easy By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: I love sushi I've read that raw fish may contain tapeworm What are the symptoms of tapeworm? I can't gain weight my nose itches constantly I feel weak and I often experience choking spells DEAR READER: Raw fish can indeed be contaminated by tapeworm Most people with tapeworm don’t realize they have it however until they pass segments of the worm or have massive infestation that causes bowel problems weakness weight loss and anemia I suspect that your symptoms result from another source Nonetheless a stool examination for tapeworm can easily and cheaply he performed by most hospital labs Ask your doctor about this but request a full examination first DEAR DR GOTT: My mother died of colon cancer a few years ago Following this my older brother was diagnosed with colon polyps Last month my younger sister was found to have a polyp At age 44 1 suppose that I too should be examined but frankly I'm not thrilled at the idea I'm afraid to have a colonoscopy Do I really need it? DEAR READER: There is no question that you must overcome your fear and have the procedure Your family has a genetic tendency to colon polyps which are small growths in the lining of the large bowel For reasons that are not completely understood families with this inheritance tend to develop polyps that will turn cancerous unless they are removed While I’m not suggesting that you also have such polyps the risk is there If you are free of polyps lucky you However if you do have them they should be eliminated The best way to do that is by colonoscopy Actually colonoscopy isn’t such a big deal After appropriate preparation you will be given a sedative and the gastroenterologist will examine the lining of your whole colon using a flexible fiber-opti- c tube The procedure isn't comfortable but it taken only a couple of hours following which you can return home Don't procrastinate Swallow your fear (along with the bowel-cleansiliquid) and have the colonoscopy It could save your life DEAR DR GOTT: Please toll me about Ativan Does it cause side effects? 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