Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Saturday March 6 1999 — Page 13 Housework is for everyone By Ann Landers Creators Synriinata i you can hand her this column Keep reading for another family problem: DEAR ANN LANDERS: My are nice people but they cainot seem to be on time for anything Last Saturday they showed up two hours late for dinner They made the usual tiresome excuses but there were no apologies and I know it will happen again before long My wife gets annoyed but she would never confront tier parents They are extremely sensitive to criticism and sulk if anyone expresses disapproval of their behavior I don’t want to be the bad guy but this is getting to me You’ve always said “No one can take advantage of you without your permission” How can I handle this without starting a major family feud? — Too Many Times in Kentucky DEAR KENTUCKY: Hold up dinner exactly 30 minutes by the clock and then start eating whether they are there or not Leave their dinners on the table — don’t reheat anything I’ll bet after this happens once or twice they will be on time DEAR ANN LANDERS: My parents will be celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary next month This should be a joyous occasion but the truth is they have had an unhappy marriage for as long as 1 can remember My three sisters and I are reluctant to plan a big party for them or have any other celebration because we feel it would be hypocritical However not doing anything at all would make us feel terribly guilty Is there some compromise that would be appropriate for the occasion? — Rosie in NY DEAR ROSIE: Regardless of the quality of the relationship the fact remains that your parents have been married for half a century and that calls for some sort of celebration It doesn't have to be a major blowout A fancy dinner with family members and close friends would be equally appropriate I hope you and your sisters will honor your parents on their special day Maybe it will give them an incentive to get along better FOR BETTER OR WORSE fTWAftSO NICE-l- b SEE My MOM ANP DAP AGAIN Elly THAT WAS A WONDERFUL BlffTHDAy fteEGENTT in-la- DEAR ANN LANDERS: One day last weekend y parents d husband and I popped in just as fin-'he- my lunch It was one of those rare occasions when try husband had offered to do the dishes I was shocked when my mother asked Why is HE doing the dish-M- y mother has always hecn very traditional when it tomes to women’s roles and her disapproving remark annoyed me Wishing to avoid a confrontation 1 simply did not respond SHOULD have said was “Maybe because this is the ’90s and I work too” I could have added “Maybe because I spaclded and sanded and painted all the bedroom walls Maybe because I ripped up the carpet on the stairs pulled nails and repainted the stairway Maybe because I go to his shop and do sanding for him while he builds kitchens for a living Maybe because I helped him put a new floor in the upstairs bathroom Maybe because I help him unload wood from his pickup truck Maybe because I'm usually the one who hauls two large garbage cans filled with trash down the road to be collected Maybe because I’m constantly picking up after him cooking his meals and doing his laundry Maybe because we do things for each other and I shouldn't be made to feel guilty if he does the dishes once in a while” I’d love to write more Ann but I’ve got to mop the kitchen flow and start preparing Sunday’s dinner HIS family is coming over If my mother reads this I've got another shocker for her He cooks too And now if I could only get him to sew — Doing It All in Binghamton NY DEAR BING: You don't owe your mother any explanation as to why your husband does the dishes It’s not her business If the subject comes up again Specialist needed for sinus pain By Peter H Gott MD tants — notably nitrous oxides and volatile organic substances — that are emitted by motor vehicles and industrial sources According to the American DEAR DR GOTT: For Academy of Allergy Asthma and Immunology almost a year I’ve been ozone can precipitate asthma attacks worsen respitreated with various antibiratory distress and increase the risk of pulmonary otics for a sinus infection infection High ozone levels may also increase asththat causes headache and matics' sensitivity to allergens such as pollens cheek pain Finally my docmolds dust mites and animal dander Thus the tor ordered a CT scan which Academy warns patients with asthma emphysema confirmed the diagnosis bronchitis or other respiratory disorders to take preWhy am I not getting better? cautionary measures during hot hazy humid days DEAR READER: Sinus when ozone levels may be highest These measures infections can be difficult to include: the sinus cavities are blocked or cure especially if Keep track of daily air quality as reported by filled with polyps (benign growths) news media the I believe that you need the services of an When ozone levels are high — usually in the who will examine specialist your afternoon — avoid unnecessary outdoor activity sinus openings with a fiber-optscope This proce-When indoors use air conditioning which' dure will indicate if you need to consider surgery to t unblock your sinuses Ask your primary care doctor cools dries and filters the air Inform susceptible children's coaches and teachfor a referral DEAR DR GOTT: Is ozone dangerous for people ers of the potential dangers of excess ozone If symptoms of coughing wheezing chest tightwith lung diseases? ness labored breathing and throat irritation become DEAR READER: Ozone is the product of chemical reactions between sunlight and various air pollu- - noticeable promptly seek medical attention NoW WHENystlRE I CO ytxJTHAT Will MAKE you REAUy 50 WHAT CAN for HAPPy? 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