Show m wmbrnmemm Page 20 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday August 13 1998 Epidemic of deadbeat mothers By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: We hear a lot about deadbeat fathers What about all those deadbeat mothers who are collecting huge amounts of child support but rarely spend any of that money on the kids? Their children go to school with holes in their shoes and clothes they outgrew two years ago Meanwhile the another voice to the argument that “once a cheater always a cheater My husband and I have been married for nearly 20 years The early part of our marriage was good but gradually our relationship deteriorated Our attention to each other was diverted to our children and my husband’s demanding medical career “Marcus” and I wert in our own little worlds feeling lonely and misunderstood Both of us took solace in the arms of another person When 1 discovered my husband's affair I was hurt but 1 could hardly he since 1 was in the same position myself 1 confessed my affair so he would know he wasn't the only one who had behaved badly We agreed to forgive each other and find out what was missing in our relationship and fix it That was two years ago Our marriage is now stronger than ever because of our honesty and willingness to forgive and we are grateful to have gotten through this together 1 would like to know how others managed to maintain a long-terrelationship after things had gone sour — Still Married in Vancouver DEAR VANCOUVER: Your candor is refreshing And now 1 hope others will accept your “invitation" to share their “forgive and forget" stories DEAR ANN: You recently printed a “how we met” letter about Blanche who sat on Harry’s lap in a taxi on a hot summer day and left the imprint of her polka dot dress ort his trousers My wife and 1 had a great thrill out of that story even though it had nothing to do with us You see our names art also Harry and Blanche In our case one look was enough to know we wert in love So far we’ve been welded together for 47 yean — Harry and Blanche in Oregon DEAR HARRY AND BLANCHE: I'm sure that same-nam- e couple Will get a kick out of your letter I certainly did ex-wi- fe iiMil fMrlNEIOMJ AND ANOVELI ' TROUBHTi UKE LUT HOWVbUTOA 'IferKHROOEfi-FwwevbunsnLF- AND'RyWB UDUWEREnNI-- I 6NELEL£Et9d ANQOriHOUM J wwodlcndcN WpfiKflND'fte toprove90F jl mirum By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: I’m interested in all aspects of the sense of smell Do you have any references on this subject? DEAR READER: “Smell: The Secret Seducer” by Piet Vrootl Anton van Atneron-ge- rt de Vries was first published (in Danish) in 1994 Recently a translated Version has been released by Farrar Straus & Giroux for the general public The book received rave reviews and contains interesting tidbits such as: There are 400000 distinguishable odors If you talk with your mouth full you will reduce the perceived intensity of the food's taste ‘ The intensity Of diforsis enhanced if thesub-stariee-s are presented ft colored bottlii:'' j: Many odors influence sexual arousal The ancient Romans kept their togas white by bleaching them in ammonia collected from public urinals DILBERT NASA PUT AIL The woiaen who love ENGINEERS ON THE NOON THEY SAY IT'S AN IMPORTANT WEEKEND THEY SEND A shuttle FULL OF MALE NASA TO CHECK ENGINEER ON OUR STAtUS EVERY u TIT UH-O- K WE HAVE COMPANY EXPERIMENT m Exploring sense of smell aspects H - fertoSAf self-righteo-us mothers ate dressed to kill and I My decided it would he best for our children if they lived with their father on his farm I live in the city and pay their father child jpport He takes very good care of the boys It is evident that we made the right decision They are growing up beautifully Their father's schedule is more flexible than mine He is able to help with their schoolwork which I am not This arrangement is wonderful for me since it allows me to pursue my career I am now dating a wonderful man He is art excellent father who is paying a lot of money for child support Unfortunately his children are not having their physical or emotional needs met by his It is obvious that she is incapable of raising them and the only thing she wants is the money He has tried to get custody but has failed Why can't society see that sometimes the best place for children when there’s a divorce is with their father? — Sick of It in South Dakota DEAR SOUTH DAKOTA: I agree wholeheartedly and hope your letter will open some hearts as well as some eyes For the sake of the children I hope all divorced mothers will read this and learn from what you have written DEAR ANN LANDERS: 1 would like to add and FOR BETTER OR WORSE The religious practice of burning incense probably originated as a means to mask the smell of retting corpses — If you wear perfume only when you go out your children may come to dislike the scent because they associate it with a feeling of abandonment Most medical professionals lack knowledge about the sense of smell became it isn’t really taught in medical schools “Smell: The Secret Seducer” was written as much to educate doctors as to inform the public DEAR DR GOTT: Do you know what Sweet's syndrome is? My doctor says 1 may have the start of it but admits he knows little about it DEAR READER: 1 can find only one entry in my resource books: acute febrile neutrophilic dermatosis of Sweet What this mouthful describes is 6 hire skirt disease characterized by fever and painful nodules occurring on the extremities face and neck It may follow an ordinary infection and is thuught to be due to sn allergic reaction Unfortunately the condition may also be the first sign of an unsuspected malignancy like leukemia or a severe malfunction of the immune system It occurs most women and usually commonly in middle-age- d requires a biopsy for diagnosis GRIZZWELLS 53TO51 im UKEHDBWY ms ABOUT Amwi fiW upper-respirato- Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osoi Newspaper Enterprise Association uct today Do not underestimate your value if your service is for sale n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) Something you cannot accomplish on your own can be achieved with the assistance of a competent partner today It’s a person who was lucky for yon on two previous occasions b 19) Where your finanAQUARIUS (Jan cial affairs are concerned you might ne luckier today than you will be tomorrow Don’t waste time on matters where the yield is questionable PISCES (Feb 20) Your popularity and charisma are brightening rather than diminishing today Friends who share your company will really appreciate these joyful qualities ARIES (March 19) Success With two endeavors is a strong probability for today One involves your family the other contains someone ou have hot openly acknowledged TAURUS (April 20) An opportunity you’ve been treating indifferently is nigger and more advantageous than you thought Ybu’d be wise to reexamine its merits today GEMINI (May 20) Your chances for personal accumulation are strong today When opportunity knocks respond is quickly as yon can — or else it may go awry CANCER (June 21 --July 22) Leadership judgment and luck are your force most dominate dualities today If you do not achieve something worthwhile you won’t be able to Name others 22-Ja- For Friday Aug 14 1998 Your birthday New ambition will awaken in you in the year ahead You're in a cycle where you could really make your mark in the world provided you're bold enough to seek what you hope for 20-Fe- ch LEO (July 22) The harder you try today the luckier you'll be This could be especially true in matters pertaining to your career Go into the ring expecting b knockout! 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