Show i n1 I ! 1 v j " 1 jv Crossword 15 Classifieds 17 i' E " t'a - i 13 i ' V I ThaHerald Journal Logan Utah Wednesday March :t 11 1996 Waic hingMother Die Her mother had been having a good day Mover over she did not Mrs Hull a mother 39-year-- fay a final good-by-e of two teen- or leave a message explaining her wishes “ : Closure was a Teal big thing for her Mrs Ran-da- ll 38 said My mom would not have left this 'earth without old agers says her stepfather was fulfilling a promise he had made out of love when he fed his wife the pudding that would help end her life ’ m lly ' nd it 1 1 Mother ’s assisted suicide divides her daughters BCt ire ad In photo above Cynthia Hulbcomfortad by har daughlar Emly and a Mind on the stops of New York SUM Erie County Courihouaa on Fib 20 aflsr hsr stoodathar John Bsmsnt was oonvidsd nn mamba tchtorrhaiqna nwnont lifsrl purl ding wttti drops and ted It to htaweJudhh who ‘ Fisk auflared from Lou Oshrifl’s Jssass aid was paralyzsd In photo at lUt John md Judtti Bemsntam asalsd at MLIhey along CharfssBeck andCynMa tNt HulpaeatorofamNypIchauInDseatnbsr Daughter Susan Randal oboppratsd with a 1 poloa bwsstigsdon tat eventually Isd to a oon- J- - — — - — : ) v sal - rk er-- " Mt the ad' in - vnaniornerMHarar ' I ’?f' ' V" : yr 'Sf I I - a ’ v 8loiy by Carolyn Thompson PINS PhotosbyAssc ’ J?V ' 'r ’ ' 'v- - vis'! -- i Bcmeat sad Mis Kill : J VaJ! v" Cynthia Hul ' ' ‘ cure and a hair-d- o who had fulfilled her dream of v liaaswhatIwantyoa todohfisHiilliecaIls Mrs Hull a mother of two leeD-her mother telling him uoavaaam — V jh wjaia sim aaiai vtwrwwMf Vv her was die businem built Bement a stepfitfher fulfilling says promise agen mey began thumbing through the pages togemec hiehadinadeoutof love when he fed Us wife die V ' Wdl you aeed vodka Idoo’t have any vodka in cideV v But thea came Lou Gehrig's disease — V" the house M he said f He sat on a bedside stool die on a bedside com- - podding Oat would help end her life Mixed ia were otrophic lateral sclerosis — which destroys nerves die : cniAed sedative md antidepressant pills diat her in “Wdl I guess you've got to get some" las wife bnin and spinal conL No cure is known pode Her rianghtw Cynthia Hull looked on mother had saved for months even years 'ft-k had been seven rein since die doctors told It had made hits Bement’s hands andfeet replied ‘Whilei Bemeat went to the store Mrs Hull hw rfiwlr wntwirty flniliwl rnnllm Mwt Judidi Bemeat that me weakneu in her left foot She had gained SO pounds She had gone from the pills Soon Judith Bement would be dead jvfaich had heeagiviag her trouble handling the really didn’tnfrs Hull said “And neither did L dutch (tf her tru wss Loo Gehrig’s dife her sister is not convinced' Rv S 1 Mis Randall a mother of two sells TXipperware 'walker to wheelchair to foil paralysis ' v- She tried everything: exotic dirts a “detoxifics-- v? and does the books for her husband’s plumbing v Spsan Randall was not with her modier in her last hours on June 28 1996 She had left Mrs Bemeot’s lion" therapy that entailed capping her teeth with Q business She stops short of dauniiu her sister and eapacalyzed “We’ve managed before John Bement would stepfather foreed her mother to die But she believes toll his wife of 33 yuan “We’D manage agaia1 Mrs sws sister a arrived visit her alter for ? shortly HulLthqrcould have talked her out of it But nowacoonaag to CVadaalbn her mother Her mother had beea having a good day Mis “When someone’s nusenUe you cheer them up a medicrireceptiooist HShe couldn’t fight it irqr You don’t encourage them to take their hfe” she had given up She opened her mouth ud swallowed Randall said Moreovei she mdnot say a final longer She was tired of fighting it In her mind she foe spoonful And with that the transformation of said She has no harsh words for her sister or for goodbye Or leave a message explaining her wishes t had dooe everything she could mBement began: from hashand to widower to hi 1991 the year Mrs Bement became dependent- - the man who has been their stepfather since she v “Closure was a real big thing for hcrM Mrs Ran-' convicted killer found guilty of manslaughter on on a wheelchair she and Mis Hull bought “Final daU38said uMy mom would not have left this they were little girls But while Mrs Hull calls ' earth without dowrer i Bement “my dad” Mrs Randall inqriies her Exit” ai how-t-o paperback on suicide vy-- : Frii20 f H A’ Mrs Randall went so for as to hastate police ' It wu then too that a gulf began to open Here is how Mrs Hull describes the night her estrangement by referring to him as “Mr Bement ' " between Cynthia Hull and her sister SnsanRandall death wire the her mother died: to a investigate by wearing tape A:v m See SISTER on Page 22 sister and stejrf'ather m they relived th night Judith Bement started by telling her husband to jyho was ao distraught that she helped pohee gather I Exit” and fodow its instructions evidence by secretly taping her conversations with Bement was once a dynamo with a mani-“Final Judith up pick ' ! ' r ' 'C ' i ( ‘BUFFALO NY-- Joha Bement heid sraoaofiil iFs Ups It wit laced r wifh Ae dnifs she had been be - W y: y f ft 'y m 1 news Q: What do I tell my children after the : evening news? : £ Answer by: Glen Jenson Utah State University Extension Family and Homan Development Specialist The media often provides parents with I j The discus sion will likely be easier if bom ' parents are present If that's not i possible one can - family values Though the discussion may be more frank man some parents feel comfortable ia bringing before dw family it b important that parents talk to there children and youth and answer — to ijcjp clear up possible coo-Outsider these discussion ideas ? ‘ v - have a pretty good of the fundamentals of SGXU itiitminQ hnnM be short — I not should turn into arguments about Make as the time discussion ality relaxed and as possible by not lecturing Tty to make it a time of listening learning from guilty or not guilty Thb and subsequent openers might include any of the following questions: How do you feel about what b being alleged against uality within your family's values what choices bring people the most happiness and why along with how to make good choices If bad choices have beea made by family members k might be good to the President? What if accused of things they didn't do? What impact does it have on the individual? discussions should focus not just on what prominent figures are doing or not doing but rather on the meaning of sex- discuss what the consequences have i i- been and how future problems can be avoided Spend time trying to lean and What does our constitution say about “innocent until proven guilty T What does our religion teach uout r activity universally wrong ie rape date rue incest pnor to marriage outside of marriage? What problems often come from engaging in sexual activity at the wrong time? What might be the result and consequences of sexual infi- - ""'W: : T knowledge Thursday Religion: A seed Is planted 't v 3R COPY j:? ii11 What b honesty? As we discuss what a person in the public light b doing eqpalfy important b asking what is appropriate behavior on die part of anyone pertaining to human sexuality? When b engaging in sexual Be surtlo excellent opportunities fas discussion :dolL ' Ranting family values and human sex start the discus-uuit- y With the allegations of extramari-- 1 sion when you tal sexual behavior on the part of die : have1- time to UA President and die dialog between reend listraing the experts as to what is proper improp- iTiulorlthe discuser truthful ties private puhlic or none sion to the age of of oat business many of us feel con' the children or fosed But when duldien and youdi get outh:By age this information they have an even more 10 most flifficuh time processing and undctiOmd- ing the things they see and hear These types of issues however can provide a great opportunity for families to dbcuu morel and ethical matters and to include "s X share with each other Hopefully future family discussions can be held as the issues change and children or youth have further questions Discussions regarding tun— sexuality should be nBfnnr nH not something parents do onceand conVv ” sider taken care ot leaves and eqjoy subtle lighting The Aluminum plant has silvery foliage and requires less light The Snake punt b upright with a yellow variegation on die leaf edges r ' Some plants that may require a bit -- more attention include die Nerve (dam which has a deep green leaf with red to pink veins the Watermelon Peperomia r which b gray-gre- en with unusual color theFoIkaDot plant which Q: Haw can I brighten up a dreary winter home! pink splotches They all need to be Answer by: Jerry Goodspeed Utah kept moist State University Extension horticulturist The Qoton b one of the most color-fi-ll indoor plants The leaves can display tt your borne seems dreary thb time of year consider an exotic plant to help shades of red yellow light green orange spruce things up Many indoor plana are and almost black It needs plenty of light easy to grow and will lighten a room and should not be moved once a penna-nelocation b found The Tricolor Drawith splashes of coioc ' :v: Consider these choices Av caena also needs good lighting to keep The Chinese Lantern also called a its colors of green pink and white The appearance makes upright and palm-lik- e flowering maple has a maple-shapleaf with a white edge variegation It : k a good choice for a comet produces a striking orange blossom peri' Dfeact quanta toe Jutana Raaaa Utah 8Ma odically and prefen a cool room (around Extension Logan UT S4322-060- 0 Unlvarsity 63 degrees) md indirect southern light PKons (435) toe 797-12nt ‘ ed ' The Bloodleaf and Purple Heart plants both have red to purple colored 797-142- 9: Jutonarbi J i f j- t jw t - - Features: 752-212- 1 1 it - - -- - - L - - - - |