Show I The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday November 16 1995 — Page 25 Is kissing on the lips a Masonic thing? By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc older woke me up If I can do the same for some of your readers it will be a gift they can use today and every day till the days arc no more DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband and I I was young (age 25) and just married On my attended a funeral for the mother of a male friend of way to lunch I was rambling on to a friend about his This friend is married how annoyed I was by my dad’s phone and has several children calls especially when he rattled on about trivia and Both my husband and his things I had no interest in friend are in their late 40s There was silence in the car as my friend slowed In an emotional moment down I could see him fighting back tears as he the man whose mother had delivered a heartfelt message that I have never fordied embraced my husband gotten My friend asked me how it would feel if the and kissed him on the lips I phone didn’t ring anymore He told me how my was shocked and offended heart would hurt and how that pain would be one of the hardest to put to rest by this and just stood there embarrassed wondering I grew up that moment and understood what he who had seen it and what they thought meant I thought about that message every day until I later asked my husband about it and he said it my dad passed away To this day I thank my friend was a Mason thing Both men are members of the for the gift of that lesson That night and every night Masonic Order At the time I accepted this explanaafter I shared a phone call with my dad — sometion but I am still confused and doubtful times brief sometimes long but he heard my voice I have shared some emotional experiences with and that is what mattered It’s been nine months women friends over the years but have never kissed since Dad passed away and believe me Ann I them on the lips would give anything if that phone would ring so I Will you please comment? Is this a Masonic could talk to him just one more time — Peter in thing or was he trying to put one over on me? — Plainview NY Still Wondering in St Louis DEAR PETER: You have written a letter that is DEAR ST LOUIS: I checked with the Masons sure to send millions of sons and daughters straight the Elks the Kiwanis and the Rotarians None of to the telephone at some time during the next 12 them kiss each other on the lips It may be a local hours AT&T should love you custom but it is definitely not national Thank you on behalf of all the dads whose lives I would not make any blanket assumptions based you have made just a little bit brighter because you on that one occurrence but you might be alert to took the time and trouble to write other signs of “Masonic brotherhood” your husGEM OF THE DAY: People who stand in front of band exhibits in the future the refrigerator and don’t know what they want DEAR ANN LANDERS: It has been said that aren’t really hungry They just want something that youth is wasted on the young and in many cases tastes good (This Gem is the result of home I’m sure this is true I am glad the wisdom of an research) FOR BETTER OR WORSE er nt DILBERT SOTMTIttE NEXT LJEEK LOOKS LIKE A HOLE IN THE SPACE-TIM- E DID SNAP? CONTINUUM ARLO AND JANIS Living with the effects of chemotherapy By Peter H Gott MD experience the neuropathy of chemotherapy usually disappears in a matter of weeks after the cancer treatment has been stopped Newspaper Enterprise Association The side effects of chemotherapy arc very unpleasant — so unpleasant in fact that some DEAR DR GOTT My wife recently underwent a scries of chemotherapy treatments for lung cancer Although the cancer is now in remission she is experiencing persistent tingling in her feet and hands Is this from the medicine? DEAR READER: Probably Chemotherapy refers to patients may refuse treatment rather than risk weeks of feeling sicker than they would from the cancer itself However these side effects arc inevitable: the price one has to pay for drug therapy To my knowledge there is no standard treatment for the neurotoxicity of chemotherapy If your wife is patient her symptoms should diminish with time DEAR DR GOTT About two years ago in a column about the diuretic Lasix you mentioned that the drug can cause liver damage I would appreciate a reference on this side effect because I know many people who take this medication DEAR READER: Lasix is a widely used kidney stimulant that is prescribed for heart failure hypertension and other disorders Although for most people it is a safe and effective drug its manufacturer lists (in the Physicians’ Desk Reference) many side effects that occur in a small number of patients Such complications include nausea vomiting jaundice (from liver inflammation) kidney damage mineral imbalance dizziness vertigo anemia rash and numerous others Again let me emphasize that the medication is harmless for most persons when used according to the manufacturer’s directions and under medical supervision Nonetheless like all powerful drugs it can cause side effects And patients have a right to know the nature of such reactions treatment of malignancies using powerful drugs In essence these ite compounds are extremely poisonous and affect cells’ ability to reproduce and grow Because cancer cells divide and grow uncontrollably and much faster than normal cells the theory is that chemotherapy selectively alters and kills cancer cells However healthy cells arc unavoidably poisoned as well This leads to malaise nausea hair loss anemia and a host of other expected complications including neuropathy (nerve damage) Your wife who has completed a course of chemotherapy over what I assume to be several weeks may well be suffering from neuropathy In general it’s the nerves of sensation not muscular movement that arc affected thus she is experiencing numbness tingling and pain without weakness or loss of coordination You should ask her doctor about this but in my drug-induc- ed Horoscope Your birthday In the year ahead you will find that things are the same everywhere PISCES (Feb 20) Make every effort today to follow through on the promises you made to your mate If you renege you may have difficulty eradicating the ill will you have created ARIES (March 19) Today you might think you’ll have adequate time for work and play but the clock may prove you wrong TAURUS (April 20) When shopping for special merchandise today don’t impulsively buy the first thing that catches your eye Try to bargain GEMINI (May 20) Convincing others of the merits of your cause today will take solid presentation Make sure to do the required homework CANCER (June 21 July 22) You might have to deal with a person today whom you've not yet forgiven regarding a past transgression Old grudges could stifle your collective endeavor jj LEO (July 22) Extravagant spending could wreak havoc on your budget Don't today waste funds earmarked for something important VIRGO (Aug 22) If you pursue your in a objectives disorganized manner you might not realize your full potential To give yourself a lighting chance plan every move LIBRA (Sept 23) If you're unduly suspicious regarding the motives of others today you might find something that would distress you even if your evaluations are erroneous than you have entertained in the past You can accomplish your goals if you don't SCORPIO (Oct 22) Try to avoid manipula- -- 24-N- ov tive acquaintances today You might overreact if thev rub you the wrong way SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23-D21) In an arrangement that requires a collective effort today make sure your ideas are in harmony with the other perec son involved Unity will be essential n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) Maintain a sensible schedule regarding the tasks you hope to accomplish today Do not begin a new chore until an old one has been satisfactorily completed b 19) The grass on the AQUARIUS (Jan other side of the fence might look greener to you today If you stray from vour back yard you may 22-Ja- 20-Fc- 23-Sc- pt 23-O- ct FRANK AND ERNEST SI Lao IS Cara mosquito ? 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