Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday June 9 1994 — Page 17 lAnnLanders — — r 1 : L - Fto6£ CMori'VMCE DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am a pediatrician who would appreciate the opportunity to chare a sad and unsettling story about one of my patients In my practice there are babies and young children who are infected with HIV the virus that causes AIDS Recently a patient informed me that she is switching to a new doctor because she has learned that she and her baby often sat in my waiting room next to children who might be infected It breaks my heart that such ignorance exists after all that has been said and written on the subject Ann please tell your readers they cannot get HIV by sitting in the same room or reading the same magazines or even sharing the same toys with someone who is HIV positive Also tell them that if they or a loved one is two new brochures entitled “Understanding HIV” and “HIV and Your Child” can help them understand the important steps they need to take Your readers can get these publications FREE by or by requesting the specific calling brochure from: GDC National AIDS Clearinghouse PO Box 6003 Rockville Md 20849-600- 3 One of the most effective weapons against any kind of disease is correct information Thank you Ann for your help — Dr Jim Oleske New Jersey Medical School Department of Pediatrics Newark HIV-infect- ed NJ DEAR DR OLESKE: I’m glad you wrote AIDS is such a terrifying illness people tend to become totally irrational about it Thank you for a letter that will help enlighten the public And thank you too for telling my readers about the free booklets that are available from the Agency for Health Care Policy and Research You can be sure the phones will soon be ringing continuously DEAR ANN LANDERS: My fiance and I are getting married this summer' We’ve been planning our wedding for two years and are paying for everything ourselves It will cost us $11000 For Friday June 10 1994 Your birthday In the year ahead try to become more actively involved in friendly competitive social sports These could prove to be healthy outlets and also enable you to meet a new circle of friends Theproblem: We do NOT want any children at the reception My siblings and my father are up in arms There are eight children involved The oldest is 7 and the youngest is 3 Dad says that they MUST be invited and mat they will play and dance together nicely I say maybe for five minutes but for five hours? No way I can just see them running around jumping on each other playing tag screaming and wrecking the buffet table No thank you We do not want that My father just phoned to say he will not be coming because his (from his second marriage) u not welcome I explained that we’ve engaged baby sitters for anyone who has children My fiance and I are both standing firm We love our nephews and nieces but a five-horeception where people will be drinking is not the place for than I’m very upset and wish my family would stop trying to bully us Are we right? Whose wedding is this anyhow? — Long Island NY DEAR LL: This is not a matter of right or wrong it’s a matter of whose wishes should prevail I say it’s up to you to decide who should be present If you and your fiance don’t want children that should settle it If your father continues to bug you let him stay home with his DEAR ANN LANDERS: I have been going with a wonderful man for two years We get along beautifully and my family is crazy about him He speaks voice which is the softly and has a 100 is not problem My hearing percent snd I am too embarrassed to ask him to keep repeating things Last night I think he asked me to many hum but I’m not sure What should I do? — Ibmato Face DEAR FACE: If he’s serious he’ll ask again T-wwir-r ur UHtfDO I HAVE THE FEELING SOMEONE IS throwing ROCKS AT OUR FRONT POORTj t - ws w 4 1 X 4 t t t fj j 1 well-modulat- ed emmm 0U All TUCK Yihat I PEOPLE ABOUND WH0BD1KE5E AMUT THE WORLD MARK GENERATION IS PW0D OF rra It unique ppemou AMAZlUfilUIUG&J Meanwhile get your hearing checked Heaven knows what else you’ve been missing GEM OF THE DAY: Most of the troubles in life are the result of saying “yes” too soon or “no” too late 6 1904 Craakn Syndicate Inc will begin to fall into place today mice your general outline is dearly perceived Keep the broad picture uppermost in your mind at all times SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) It could prove wise today to keep your ambitious intentions to yourself What really matters at this stage is action not conversation CAPRICORN (Dec 22-J19) Do not be coerced into making a hasty decision today Thke ample time to weigh all of your possibilities especially if this judgment affect a friend as well b AQUARIUS (Jan 19) You might be lucki23-D- ec an GEMINI (May 21-Ju- ne 20) Your material prospects look quite hopeful today provided you’re prepared to work hard for what you get A concerted effort encourages Lady Luck to intervene CANCER (June 22) An involvement you er than usual today in fulfilling your ambitious can share others with presently perform better if it is objectives Begin by zeroing in on the target that is properly organized You’re the one who can do it not the most worthy of your efforts and energies PISCES (Feb your associates 20) Today what might LEO (July 22) Those sporadic hunches appear to be a moderate gesture of good will by a upon which you’ve learned to depend can be an asset friend may in reality contain beneficial elements again today if you blend these perceptions with quite grand in scope ARIES (March lift jf you’re not satisfied logic Tbgether they make a powerful tooL VIRGO (Aug 22) If you find it necessary with the status quo yccaitjfgm taking measures to influence a particular group today single out the today to transform situatwns Wypur satisfaction Be key people and aim your proposal at them rather a victor not a victim than taking scatter shots at the majority TAURUS (April 20) Paint your mental LIBRA (Sept 23) Hopeful conditions precanvas with bold strokes today because the larger vail today where your finances and career are conandjnore graphic your ideas the greater your cerned Increases are possible if you do things the chances are for success Faint impressions have no way you know they should be done impact SCORPIO (Oct C 1994 Nwnpapar Enterprise Assn 22) The smaller elements 20-Fc- 21-Ju- Iy 20-Mar- ch 23-A- ug EXIia STUDY' 21-Ap- ril 23-Se- Kwvr StSSWftt pt i 20-M- ay 23-O- ct 24-N- ov iTugBOBM LOSER DEAR DR GOTTi Please give your opinion on the pros and cons of hormone therapy and if you feel the benefits outweigh the dangers I’m a female on Proven and Estratest HS DEAR READER: This is a complicated topic about which I’ll give merely a brief summary hormone therapy appears to prevent osteoporosis and protect against heart disease It also sustains die normal reproductive tract by alleviating shrinkage and dryness Obviously the therapy neutralizes the symptoms rtf menopause such as hot flashes irritability and moodiness The use of estrogen thenpy alone (“unopposed therapy” in the form of patches pills or injections) is associated with uterine cancer Therefore in women who have not had hysterectomies progestin (a second female hormone) is usually prescribed in cycles to avoid this complication as is true in your case Unfortunately the combination therapy often causes regular vaginal bleeding (an unacceptable consequence for many women) and is expensive in part because such women must undergo periodic gynecological examinations Also dual therapy is less protective against heart disease than is single therapy ld with estrogen Therefore the preferred cstrogenprogestin combination is a nuisance costs more and has fewer beneficial effects Crcccvord ICIIOSS For this reason the decision about whether to take hormone therapy should be made basis Each woman must decide on a with the help of her gynecologist DEAR DR GOTTi What advice would you have of kin being CU when it is not known how to locate next of kin? I believe no one should have to die alone DEAR READER: I’m aware of the traditional hospital regulation that limits visitors to family only when the patient is seriously ill or dying And I agree with you that flexibility is crucial In particular some gravely ill patients have only close friends or “significant others” such patients should not be isolated from warmth and caring — or — just more importantly from a because the letter of the law prohibits visitors who are not blood relations or legal spouses In my experience many hospitals are willing to bend the rule depending on circumstances I believe this is appropriate Remember however that dangerously sidt people have a right to privacy and do not wish to have reporters acquaintances interested parties and other unsuitable visitors In addition really sick patients are often particularly susceptible to infections that may be inadvertently transmitted by 8VABT5AN5QMT1 post-menopau- case-by-ca- patient-advoca- well-meani- ng EXACTLY! se rucsts te i' wn ggrn-HO- H kk wphsf BY LYNN J6HNSTON |