Show Page 12— The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday June 6 1989 ' V’ V &' t '' BY DOYLE & STERN EQKY POGO v1 ’ '' better but you must get help — iYiTiiTi DEAR ANN LANDERS: I was a battered wife and didn’t know it I told myself he didn’t mean it that he had been under a lot of stress He had always been domineering but never violent We had four kids a nice house and looked like die perfect family We were married 20 years before he put me in the hospitaL I had seen battering on TV Batterers are portrayed as bullies Thu is not always die case Batterers can be ordinary everyday husbands and d crazies Battered fathers not monsters or women are simply wives and mothers who are trying their damdest to keep their family together These men can be romantic and charming They are the world’s best can artists When die neighbors would call die police my husband was calm and congenial He’d say in a yoking manner “See how crazy she is!" I began to think that I really was The story is always die same He says it’s his money and his house If she were a good wife and mother there would be no problem Because most women want to be good wives and mothers they think maybe he’s right so they try harder and harder Things get worse and worse There is no solution for a battered woman except to get out “Where can I go?” you ask Look in the phone book for a crisis line number CALL! You can be anonymous There is help for you legal financial and emotional wild-eye- I know this letter is king Ann Maybe you can cut it so it will fit into your space It is terribly important that you get die message across to these women I went through plenty of hell before I found the courage to leave I am now divorced graduating from college this June and planning to do my doctoral thesis on domestic violence I am living proof that life can get Y ii T T v"‘ ““ i — - Wife from Sacramento WIFE FUTURE PHD: DEAR Thanks for a splendid letter What you’ve done with your life should give others hope and courage Bravo!!!! DEAR ANN LANDERS: These days many couples are adopting minority babies Of course these little ones do not resemble their adoptive parents The problem I am writing about needs die exposure that your column can give My husband and I adopted a Korean child It doesn’t matter if we are hi a supermarket shopping mall or on die street — total strangers come right up to us and say “Oh how cute Is he adopted?" Or worse yet “What is he7” At first I was shocked that a stranger would have the nerve to ask such personal questions but it kept hanoeninc over and over htowwhen people ask “What is he?" I reply “He’s a human being” and walk away When someone asks “Is he adopted?” I reply “Are you adopted?" The clod finally gets die message and moves on We worry about the day when our son will be old enough to understand these inquiries Please tell your readers how damaging it is for a child to repeatedly hear that he is “different” — Colorado Couple DEAR COLORADO: You made die point in a way that I never could Thanks on behalf of all adoptive parents who are fighting die same battle I’m glad you wrote STAR BREAK is how he any good BY CHARLES PEANUTS SUMMER SCHOOL CHUCK! THEY JUST TOLP ME I HAVE TO 60 TO SUMMER SCHOOL! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?! SIR A5K HIM IF HE’S 60IN6 TO CAMP MARGE ASKS ARE YOU GOING TO CAMP WITH HER ANP EVERYBODY ELSE WHILE I’M STUCK IN 5UMMER SCHOOL? i M SCHULTZ 1M SORRY ALL THE PHONE UNE5 IN THIS HALF OF THE COUNTRY HAVE 60NE PEAP ARE YOU CHUCK? ARE YOU? BY JIMMY JOHNSON ARLO AND JAN IS® who can’t possitSydoMm treatsofde 0 1 989 Lm Angela ed Times Syndcato and Creators Syrataat methods you might employ could antagonize those with whom you’ll have dealings Do nothing to tarnish your image Your Birthday ts in SAGITTARIUS (Nov for in the could times be 21) you offing Exciting must not be allowed to erode your confidence the year ahead where your social life is concerned It looks like you may become involved with a new today If you dwell too heavily upon negative adventurous group thoughts it could induce you to do counterproductive tilings n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) It might not be GEMINI (May 20) There’s a chance you take chance wise a to user skillful of could be wMnipiinwd today by a doing business with a today with a more be better off You’ll being questionable reputation You don’t responsive person flattery want to learn the hard way how that label was to people you know who always level with you CANCER (June 22) Be a bit more earned in the first Diace matters today financial 19) There’s a likelicautious than usual in AQUARIUS (Jan to get along be difficult will more hood boss rides elements of obvious have those that your especially If you are impulsive or careless your bank balance with today than usual if it is felt that you are not will reflect your poor judgment being as cooperative as you should be have Associates LEO (July 22) may PISCES (Feb 20) Keep a weather eye difficulty discerning your true motives today and peeled for unexpected developments today where for this reason they might not be as supportive of your work or career is concerned Something might your interests as they usually are Try to be explicit popup that will require a quick response in order to pt VIRGO (Aug 22) You are endowed avoid further complications with remarkably sharp critical faculties but ARIES (March 19) Think twice at this unfortunately today you might use them more additional funds into enterprises virtues time before others’ for Look putting negatively than positively or projects that have yet to yield a proper return It not their faults LIBRA (Sept L 23) Be shrewd enough to could be unwise to put good money in after bad TAURUS (April read the signs today if friends appear to be put off 20) Instead of operating will in from Persistence offer to have what negotiations your strengths only you by Ktrain relation riiipn today there’s a possibility you might emphasize SCORPIO (Oct 22) You shouldn’t have your weakness instead Do not cater to defeat 01 969 Newspaper EntarpriaaAasn any trouble being an achiever today but the Far Wednesday June 7 1989 Self-doub- 23-D- ec BYALCAPP Meanwhile- the - 22-Ja- 21-Ju- ne 21-Ju- rr- - thars shocks NO WORKIN' SENSE MAM EYES TH' BONE WOCTCHIN ' ly 20-F- eb 23-A- ug 20-Mar- ch BY DICK CAVALLI WINTHROP 23-Se- 21-Ap- ril 23-Oc- 20-M- ay one-to-o- ne 24-N- ov tttvl DEAR DR GOTT: Does the daily use of iodine in our drinking water present a health hazard? Are there any advantages to the use rtf iodine? We have recently moved to an area where all water must be treated with iodine to remove bacteria We mmimH it was safe until we put several minnows into a pail of iodine-treatewater In just a few mining they all were dead DEAR READER: Municipal water supplies are chlorinated to kill harmful bacteria snmetmwMi fluoride is also added to retard tooth decay I have not heard of the practice of adding iodine to public water supplies Although small amounts of iodine in drinking d 4wCw frv water would not be harmful I do not believe that adding the substance would be healthful or necessary If there was iodine in the bucket of water the unfortunate minnows may have been unusually sensitive to it even though die water was safe for human consumption Extended use of high-doiodine can cause thyroid problems in humans Municipal water supplies are carefully regulated for purity I suggest that you ask your town administrators if iodine is added to the drinking water — and if so why Let me know what they BY ART THE BORN LOSER SANSOM se y- - 01969 Newspaper Enterprise Assn fAlmanacl By United Buddhists in 1933 (age 34) and tennis player Bjorn Borg in 1936 (age 33) Press International Today is Tuesday June 6 die 137th day of 1989 with 208 to follow The moon is waxing moving toward its first quarter The morning stars are Mercury and Saturn The evening stars are Venus Mars and Jupiter Those bom on this date are under fee sign of Gemini They include Spanish painter Diego Velasquez in 1399 American patriot Nathan Hale in 1733 Russian poet Alexander Pushkin in 1799 British Antarctic explorer Robert Falcon Scott in 1868 German novelist Thomas Mann in 1873 vaudeville bandleader Ted Lewis known for asking his audiences "Is everybody happy?” in 1891 Indonesian dictator Ahmed Sukarno in 1901 California Gov George Deukmejian in 1928 (age 61) tire dalai lama exiled leader of Tibet’s BY LYNN FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE JOHNSTON On this date in history: In 1933 tire first drive-i- n movie theater opened in Camden NJ In 1944 hundreds of thousands of Allied troops began crossing the English Qtmel in fee invasion of Europe tire greatest invasion in history In 1972 a coal mine explosion in Rhodesia — now Zimbabwe — trapped 464 miners underground More than 423 died In 1982 Israeli forces invaded Lebanon “D-Da- y" Nazi-occupi- ed A drought for tire day: Author Thomas Mann wrote “Young years pass slowty white later life flings itself faster and faster upon its course" KIT 'N' CARLYLE'S BY LARRY WRIGHT SNAFU BY BRUCE BEATTIE Crossword ACROSS 41 Fooraudue 42 Holer Iran to PmU 44 Til uln 44 Rm SODmcr ITmmI 12 EiDruw CtrenK 130farcrofl UtaMMIf IS OranUl uoti IS Micnoryan 21 55 Form wM onra 51 Sower Union 2Ennncnonnno 57 Arm frmlond p nnn Fortify ODD one DOWN Mt 27 nonnn Uteri SO 22tep conn on dood cncn reio HUcW 15 Roms mom IIThwfN 20 Omm’ MUntoi 1 AcmmSuc Kimyto MWflteto 32 VM ooraloiod riCmfci IGM 8 4 nWRw9R9 MtaMMraf 0 CacUport mural 3S Grate Utter XMM 37 Cry of p " WlMmdw 7 1 Dnpot SFraidiyct lOlokaif pit 11 Fi take WlUn tout Ctaw 37 Stop tete 52 The IFr ) 53 labor op 0217 kl'tMhiMO toe ll “Is that for security or does it tHne-lans- e photographs to show that ttw Hne actually moves? 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