Show SO Sunday February Ogden 22 1987 lidl Horizons M! Jealousy of husband normal B ABIGAIL VAN BUREN Universal S Press up in a religious home believing it was a sin to smoke drink or dance My husband didn’t grow up with those beliefs We love each other and have a good relationship until party time then I have trouble accepting his slow dancing with the women in his office There are eight of them and he says their feelings would be hurt if he didn't ask them to dance at the Christmas parties etc I notice not all the men in his group and dance with their I can’t understand why my husband thinks he has to I trust him but just don’t think God meant for a man and woman to rub their bodies together in slow dancing with anyone except their own spouses Am I normal to feel jealous? If most wives feel jealous when e their husbands with other women then I’ll say “Thank God I'm normal!” — JEALOUS DEAR JEALOUS: Rejoice you’re normal Moderation and discretion are recommended at these dancing parties Your husband DEAR ABBY: I grew ‘Be not BY JUDITH MARTIN United Feature Dear Abby notate shouldn’t leave you sitting while he slow- - (or fast-- ) dances with other women Neither should you expect him to give up dancing entirely if he enjoys it DEAR ABBY: I am really hurt! A friend and I decided to go out together to celebrate a special occasion because neither of us had a date (We are both females) Three hours before we were to leave she called and said that a guy she used to date called her and she accepted a date with him She said her date wouldn’t mind if I came along but she didn’t sound very sincere so I declined Am I being overly sensitive or do I have a right to feel snubbed? — Snubbed? Maybe maybe not You may have misjudged the depth of your friendship Ask yourself: If a guy you used to date had called and asked you for a date what would you have done? If you would have turned him down then you have a right to feel snubbed DEAR ABBY: May air my pet DEAR gripe? It’s when visitors come to my home and decide to take a quick tour through the place when I haven’t offered one Very often I will return from fixing refreshments to find someone wandering through my home — looking into each room (even those with the doors shut) Isn’t it bad manners to explore private areas of someone’s home without having been invited to do so? Very often those doors are shut for a reason — to present a neater picture when visitors drop in on short notice So please remind your readers not to wander around someone’s home unless invited to Thanks — IN IOWA DEAR OFF: I’ll “remind" them but I can’t guarantee anything Incurable snoops will not be deterred by a gentle reminder Only a locked door will stop them DEAR ABBY: There is a woman who belongs to our club who brags constantly about her children Now she’s bragging to everyone that her son (he just turned 17) tells her and his father everything including the fact that he is having sex with his girlfriend who is his age The problem is that everybody in this small town knows who his girlfriend is Shouldn’t somebody tell this woman to keep her big mouth shut? — SMALL TOWN TEXAS DEAR SMALL TOWN: wet?e fighting fo? American Heart Association YDusuFE Yes Why don’t you? DEAR ABBY: The letter from “Goldilocks” really ticked me off She’s the gal from Sarasota who (according to her) was just one of the crowd until she dyed her brown hair blond — then men started to stop her on the street and in stores just to make conversation with her (They probably thought she was a hooker) Listen I am a brunette and have never had any trouble getting attention I’ve always been popular with girls and boys (now men) and it couldn’t have been my looks I was friendly outgoing and natural Just being myself appealed to people I’m 28 and married to a wonderful guy who all the girls used to fight over All of his were blondes and look who got him — a and a brunette to boot — I GOTTA BE M-SA- V 350 1475 SOUTH STATE CLEARFIELD 825-217- MAIN NORTH KAYSVILLE 546-616- 7 2 ME IN PALO ALTO tedious’ says Washington Syndicate Today is the birthday of a great chronicler of etiquette No no not Miss Manners Very kind of you but goodness gracious not at all If it were she would certainly not have mentioned it No it is the birthday of another great — oh dear — of another It's George Washington’s birthday Perhaps you already knew that But perhaps you did not know of the great man’s interest in etiquette Always happy to honor another toiler in the sacred field Miss Manners presents here in no particular order some of her favorite rules from those that George Washington copied out in his schoolbook having adapted them from Francis Hawkins’ classic of 1664 “Youth’s Behaviour or Decency in Conversation Amongst Men” “Cleanse not your teeth with the Table Cloth Napkin Fork or Knife but if Others do it let it be done wt Pick Tooth” “Put not off your Cloths in the presence of Others nor go out your Chamber half Drest” Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of Miss Manners Others and ask not how they came What you may Speak in Secret to your Friend deliver not before others” “In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet” “Kill no Vermin as Fleas lice tick &c in the Sight of Others if you See any filth or thick Spittle put your foot Dexteriously upon it if it be upon the Cloths of your Companions Put it off privately and if it be upon your own Cloths return Thanks to him who puts it off” “In visiting the Sick do not Presently play the Physician if you be not Knowing there- in” “When you see a Crime punished you may be inwardly Pleased but always shew Pity to the Suffering Offender” “Be not tedious in Discourse or in reading unless you find the Company pleased therewith” “Being set at meat Scratch not neither Spit Cough or blow your Nose except there’s a necessity for it” “Let your Discourse with Men of Business be short and Comprehensive” “Run not in the Streets neither go too slowly nor with Mouth open Go not Shaking yr Arms kick not the earth with yr feet go not upon the Toes nor in a Dancing fashion” “Reprehend not the imperfections of others for that belongs to Parents Masters and Superiours” “Make no Shew of taking great Delight in your Victuals Feed not with Greediness cut your bread with a Knife lean not on the Table neither find fault with what you eat” “Sleep not when others Speak Sit not when others stand Speak not when you Should hold your Peace walk not on when others Stop” “Use no Reproachful Language against any one neither Curse nor Revile” “Shake not the head Feet or Legs rowl not the Eye lift not one eyebrow higher than the other wry not the mouth and bedew no mans face with your Spittle by approaching too near him when you Speak” Divorce affects children according to ages decade found in fear if make one mistake Chicago Tribune Young children react much differently to divorce than older children do a University of Michigan professor says Children under 8 “feel the loss of the family unit more keenly than older children who have support groups among their friends" says psychologist Neil Kaltcr who Michigan’s psychiatry and divorce clinic Kalter who has studied the impact of divorce on children for a to they their lives could be similarly devastated Kalter says As a result young children of divorce often are very cautious and comply with the wishes of others a recent survey that almost of blamed themselves for their parents’ divorce Because of this guilt children under 8 generally become quiet and depressed about divorce Children over 8 who realize that the divorce is not really their fault get angry and aggressive Younger children usually believe that a single event ruined their parents’ marriage and begin Denial of divorce is also common among young children One bit of good news Kalter reveals is that children under 8 — and especially those under 5 — are much more accepting of stepfathers than older children We Cordially Invite You To Our Semi-Annu- al TIMBERLINE CABINETS ANNUAL MID-WINTE- us La SALE R 2 WEEKS February 23rd Through Saturday March 7 1987 Monday ONLY! 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