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Show WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER ' DIXIESUNNEWS.COM - 9 Holiday pressure ushers breakups ES BY CANDY ROLAND cassandrarolDSN might be more likely to give you a broken heart than a partridge in a pear tree, according to a study observing Facebook relationship statuses. Breakup tunes on Facebook occurred frequently around holidays, according to the study done by Lee Byron and David McCandless in 2008. According to the study, breakups were most frequent around spring and winter breaks, but breakups were also common around Valentines Day, April Fools Day and during the summer. However, people seemed to keep Christmas Day special because the study reported it as the lowest peak in the the entire year. Dannelle Larsen-Rif- e, an associate social and 1 behavioral science professor, specializes in parent-chil- d and romantic relationships across lifespans. She said people tend to have positive regard for the holidays, there are pressures that with on but come them. said popular pressures are gift and meeting families. giving Larsen said some people dont feel comfortable moving to the next step in them relationship by making a financial and intimate Students holiday lows" lilts" iriggs commitment that goes along with The media tells us that if you love someone you are going to spend a lot of money on them, but that isnt necessarily love, Larsen-Rif- e said. Love is about caring, time, thoughtfulness and human connection, she said. Larsen-Rif- e also said, for couples involved in newer relationships, meeting each others families puts pressure on the relationship by forcing another level of commitment. She said individuals in long-terrelationships often feel pressure when deciding whose family to spend the holidays with. Larsen-Rif- e said this problem correlates with higher divorce rates around this time of year. Kelly Feyen, a sophomore medical radiography major from Bullhead, Arizona, said technology also affects modem-da- y relationships. We dont update Facebook about our relationship because that gives everybody a say in how your relationship is going, Feyen said. Larsen-Rif- e said relationships and technology is a fairly new phenomenon that has caused relationships to speed up. Dating is a lost said. art, Larsen-Rif- e Young people dont date anymore, (and) they have serial relationships one gift-givin- g. On the first day of Christmas, your true love i tips 18, 2015 m relationship after another rather than dating multiple people at once. Larsen-Rif- e said serial have relationships changed the level of commitment and expectations within relationships, and people date less before they make the commitment of marriage. Technology has also made millennials lonelier, Larsen-Rif- e - 7 yi A ii AT' k r said. I talk to students and young people all the time about how lonely they are, and almost nobody talks about it with each other, Larsen-Rif- e said. Young people have their friends on social media but actually have fewer real friends than generations before them. Students need to reach out to family and friends and build a good support system, she said. Relationships are like nutrition, we cant have one relationship meet all our emotional and intimate said. needs, Larsen-Rif- e Larsen-Rif- e said couples need to talk about their expectations for the holidays in order to avoid those pressures. People may or may not even know they have those expectations until they arent said. met, Larsen-Rif- e She said these expectations come from the individuals experiences when he or she is 5 years old and shape future relationships. 3-- ute Vj, - r vyt f 'A :vv At d SA & ; ? r L s K - I t X w z. 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