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Show APRIlITJ WEDNESDAY, 6 - DIXIE SUN shouldnt stop Dear Kate: Vanishing, friend possibilities man likely dishonest Age BY SHANNON JOHNSON Dixie Sun Staff Writer happiness. Not only do relationships make you week my boyfriend left me at the Harmons deli give you self. BY KATE SEMMENS Dixie Sun Lifestyles Editor dating this guy http:www.happi-nessproject.comhappi-nessproject200902- fri creating strong social ties is the key to cult; it doesnt hurt, and it requires very little effort. After putting too much energy into futile relationships with people my own age, befriending seniors is a much-neede- breath of d fresh air. With the years of experience life has granted them, they are en route to their dreams. They have discovered what is important in life, and they clearly know what they want. With drama, immaturity and games aside you get to know genuine people who have a whole lot to offer. Ask a senior a question about his or her life and I can assure you that they will have plenty of details to share. They are a living bank of stories and advice, and they are eager to lend a listening ear in return. My best friends in life have been those senior to me. The person at work that I get along best with is in her 50s. The person at school that listens to my worries and triumphs is 20 years older than me. Its my grandma or my mom that are first on speed dial when I need to talk. Call me kooky, but I have a true fondness for the elderly. Just last probably shocked we didnt exchange phone numbers upon our part-- , ing. An innocent trip to TJ Maxx led me to another friend. As I browsed the beauty of the purse aisle, I noticed a woman strugthe choose to gling winner between two purses she had slung over each shoulder. I offered my input and a full-blow- n conversation erupted between the two of us. She must have agreed with my advice because she proceeded to follow me around the store for the remainder of my trip. By that point I wouldnt have been surprised by an invitation to lunch. While these momentary friendships did not last years, months, or even days, I walked away from each situation with a smile across my face. I was in high spirits from my short encounter. I was not doing them a favor, but rather they were helping me. Next time you run into someone with a few years on you, dont rule out a possible friendship. They have a whole lot more to offer than you think. We were happy and made each other laugh. After three months, he left me a message saying he had to go out of state for work and would call when he got where he was going. All I got was silence. Days turned into weeks and eventually into five months. Even though I loved him and he had claimed he loved me, I started to accept that things were over between us. Just as I was getting over him, he called. He told me he still loves me and is sorry he hurt me. Something does not add up. He doesn't have a cell phone, so there's no way to reach him. When I call him at the number he gave me, he's never there. I care for him, but something is not sitting well. What should I do? Confused and Mystified Dear Confused and Mystified, Girl, you have written to the right advice columnist to discuss this problem. Strangely enough, I have a similar story in my past. In my case the magician disappears for years at a time only to pop up when least expected. With that being said I hope you understand that the advice I also give my- - My immediate response to you, Miss Mystified, is to pay attention to your intuition. The fact that something is not sitting well with you should speak loud and clear to your heart that your magician is no good. Since he has already pulled one disappearing act on you, he is likely to perform another. There will be no end to his inability to be there for you. I find it interesting how little we credit that inner Dear Kate, When I me three and Ill tell you why you should too. Lets face it. St. George is a Mecca for the elderly. We are living on the land of our elders. For students, southern Utah is most likely a temporary home where we live among the elderly. Seniors are shuffling around the grocery store, theyre leisurely driving in front of you on the way to school, and theyre out to eat at the nearest steakhouse. With seniors so abundant in St. George I wonder how many students really take notice. Could we be too focused on our own lives to see someone in need of a friend? Are we too proud to lend a helping hand to someone a few years our senior? No one has too many friends. There isnt one person that couldnt benefit from an additional friendship. So why would we rule out a friendship based on something as insignificant as age? According to I voice, our intuition, with things in our lives. Sure, it could be superstition or paranoia that is putting thoughts into our heads or feelings into our hearts, but it could also be a part of us that is able to clearly see a situation for what it really is. All too often I have been so close to a problem that . my cognitive eye couldnt see a solution. Had I paid attention to my intuition instead of dismissing it I am certain there are situations I wouldnt have had to go through. Another aspect of your predicament is honesty. The magician has not been honest with you. Are you even sure he is where he said he was going and that he is doing what he said he was going to do?l am willing to bet you Krave the answer is no. When a man isn't where he says he'll be, odds are he is either married or involved with someone else. Of course he called to apologize and tell you he loves you. You are an amazing, beautiful, intelligent, and caring woman. You are everything he wants, and he doesnt de Americae empire detrimental statement is makes us less safe as a n. nation. According to the same article, Sen. John said McCain, Lets start by discussing blood. According to Statistics about the Vietnam War on z., Obamas statement is one of the most incredible statements he has consequences of America as a super power, and while some conser- vatives are angry at a perceived condemnation of American supremacy, I actually find myself agreeing with our president. According to Obama: America a Superpower Whether we Like It or Not." published on April 15 by foxnews.com, Obama said: "It is a vital na- tional security interest of the United States to reduce these conflicts because whether we like it or not, we remain a dominant military su- perpower, and when conflicts break out, one way or another we get pulled into them. And that ends up costing us significantly in terms of both blood and treasure." The statement was in response to a question about the downsides of America being obligated, as a superpower, to intervene in conflicts, and some conservatives feel like the www.History.com, 58,148 American soldiers were killed in the heard a president say, and that it is a direct contradiction to everything America believes Vietnam War. According to in. I have two responses to McCain and the other folks who are so violently opposed to this statement. - Obama simply states the facts regarding the consequences of being a superpower. He does not pass judgment on American exception-alisthe idea that 1- m America as a super power is a great thing or say he wants America to stop being a super power, so stop freaking out. 2- If he was implying either of these two things, he would be right on the money. America as a superpower is not necessarily about 83,983 gallons of blood. That is not including the number of people who died who were not American soldiers, and it doesnt include the lives lost in the other places our soldiers fight that arent actually considered war icasual-ties.or- g, 1,044 Americans have been killed in Afghanistan since 2001. The body count for Iraq is much higher because 4,390 have been killed in Iraq since 2003. If we wanted to express these deaths in the amount of blood lost, based on an average of 5 liters of blood in the human body, our last three wars have cost us zones. WWII was the last truly necessary war waged by America. Everything else has been the result of ambitions of imperialism, irrational fear or war profiteering. Thousands of people are dying, and they are dying for a faulty cause. Now let's talk about treasure. According to costofwar.com, the total cost of our two wars since 2001 is around $983.2 billion. And thats just for the direct cost of the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. According to U.S. Military Spending, 1946-200- 9 published by infoplease.com, the U.S. has spent over $4 trillion on our military from 2001 to 2009. hear people complain about our economy, our debt and a whole slew of other We money-roote- d serve you. He probably m'Ia some floozy and ran avaug with her. After a couple 0f lb months of being cheatedea by the one he cheated on burI you with, he was defeated por His tail went between his legs, and he came whi ing back to the most a ing thing he ever had: y0ll Do not give him the of spitting in y0llt face, treating you with suc disrespect, and then snivel, ing back into your life. Trust me, you can do better If you are anything like me, the most difficult thin with this whole scenario the lack of closure. When there is a breakup, there closure. When someone dies, there is closure. Wher someone disappears and then reappears and then dJ 3 appears, there is no closure ixcii In this situation you need; tat create your own closure. oul You could send an t han him ending the relations! eed If he calls you again stick tere up for yourself and end the relationship. Have a bunis is ' ting man ceremony oi nec- - essary for you to do whatever it takes to purge yourself of the magician who is never there. Thank you for writing P - in, Confused and Mystified.lt is reassuring for me to know that I am not the onl; human on the planet who has experienced the disappearing magician. I bow there is a kind, stable and charming man out there who wouldnt dream of disappearing on you. Please understand you deserve all that and more. 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