Show A30 The Salt Lake Tribune TRENDS Friday October 2 The good news for struggling mother is that there is only 1 teen who is Irving at home "Do you have to sing to the music on the radio?" I was told I was an embarrassment I didn't dress as nicely as the other mothers Our house wasn't as nice as the other kids' houses EDITOR'S NOTE — The Salt Lake Tribune Lifestyle departwork from Utah writers Include ment accepts address telephone and Social Security numbers with story e Corner The Salt Lake Tribune Box and mail to: 867 Salt Lake City Utah 84110 Stories not to exceed 750 words are chosen for subject matter and writing ability Regular space rates are paid If work is published do not submit new work for six months free-lanc- e Free-Lanc- "You never let me do what I want" "You never let want" "You never let me have any fun" These were common comments She decided she didn't want her friends over to meet her mother I was too much of an embarrassment because of my weight or I didn't wear my hair right What's a parent to do? I had always thought s were people not critics Deciding to live my life the way I wanted was more r so I important than trying to please a stayed the same Was that so wrong? Even if I had changed for her she wouldn't have been happy I would have chewed my food in a humiliating way or laughed at the wrong moment So I did my best coping with her r The next came along He never gave me a moment of trouble I never embarrassed him Nothing about me upset him Why the difference? Did I treat him any different? I don't think so Then again maybe I did After all it is so much easier being with someone that doesn't criticize your every move isn't it? r The third came into my life It was haptoo was always critical of This one pening again every move I made Only this time it was worse She argued constantly with everyone in the house or shut herself in her room for hours How was I to live with this? I found myself trying to please her but still it wasn't enough "What if our daughter isn't our daughter?" I me wear the clothes I By Irene W Thomas It wasn't that I planned on having teen-ager- s My children I thought would never be "one of those" They especially would never be the kind that dis liked me tneir motner and re" teen-ager- teen-age- belled against everything that meant family As they grew I nev-- ' er let it enter my mind that someday I would be living with that group of people that was dreaded by most parents From the first note from my eldest that read "I love you very very very very (with so many verys they filled the page) much" to the last one from the vounpest Ms Thomas that said "Just because you are I love my mother and you" it never occurred to me it I Benetton's unisex carryall is totally totable in class By Scott Walton became the reason for blues can be as Beating the challenging as chemistry class It helps if one heads back to the classroom in style Enter the "Let's Go Colors!" unisex carryall from Colors de Benetton Made of 100 black cotton canvas with vivid blue piping around the edges and a bright red interior flap the bag features several large zippered and flap pockets And the soft wide shoulder strap makes it totally totable even when it's loaded with books study guides and completed homework assignments (We threw that in for your par-- '' ents) For the the carryall also features a prominently displayed Colors de Benetton crest back-to-scho- teen-age- teen-age- Irene Thomas Riverton has been writing children's stories and books for three years She enjoys reading browsing through bookstores and watching old movies 0 0 EXTENDED SAVE 20-4- 0 STOREWIDE Solid Oak & Pine ir II rat Deseret Book locations See our unique blend of styles r III including Mountain Contemporary Southwest Country Shaker Lodge & Mission and SAVE BIG IM iitlKHW J A Queen Springle Bed I YOU'LL I tu- - VJ- for women and young women at several Wasatch Front EIJ0Y Handicraft demonstrations Book discussions with authors r fa Special readings v 1 Autograph parties J T J comtorr Bedrooms Dining rooms living-room- s (sofas sleepers sectionals) entertainment centers bookcases Refreshments Door prizes bar-stoo- ls wall-unit- Salt Lake City Utah 2 FAX 4 (801) Mon through Thur 9:30 am - 6:30 pm Fri & Sat 9:30 to 8:00 office s THE WORKS DESERET BOOK AT n r- - THE TIMES LISTED BELOW ' — 2tJ ! 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Christmas with Mormon A NEPHITC NEWS SERVICE KNIGHT-RIDDE- teen-age- Saturday October 3 the activities are abundant ' asked my husband "What's that?" he asked He stopped shaving and looked at me like I had a loose screw "What if some UFOs came and switched their daughter with ours? She looks exactly like ours They couldn't deal with their daughter and decided to exchange her for ours" "That would explain the difference" he said after he stopped laughing r With the fourth I had given up My sweetest child had changed overnight There was no living with her I decided to do as little with her as possible through those years Maybe things would go smoother But they never do And they didn't After a lot of heartache and pain the children finally do grow up Letting them live their own lives is after all the only way I could show them how much I loved them I will never be considered a great mother in some people's eyes but I cared enough to let them become their own person and live their lives how they thought best r to go! 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