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Show The fcaft Lake Tribune, Friday, (' T-- .A A 4 1977 July 22, v 'V-- t l 7 r, , t' I OS V, -- v ? ' -- Help Teens Deal With Divorce " ? 4 . "A :': ( r , w keeordmg to statistics '' U Uf s , j , z, j "f ( 1 Ji Gardners suggestions for teen agers in part involve ways they ean best come to terms with their feelings of anger over their parents' separation If your parents are separated, you know that these situations make for hits jf V- V V "'' ., 5 : z i - a if ,' r , : ' ; irj? . r r ? 4. it - 4 f ($:. M feff A M9 t . y -- ,; v-;. 'j ' ' -- v X 4" I tfk49& You couldnt pick a lr 7 It s best to make your evaluation on the basis of what your parents do, not what they say Some parents profess to love their children, hut will always find an excuse to be absent if a child is sick or in trouble Others may grumble a lot but are always right there when you nexd them Look gain In making your own evaluatum of each parent in hisher evaluation of the other, you might want to look at your conclusions ogam You may have hidden thoughts and feelings that prevent you from being fair to your other parent Same gx-- if you see one parent as all bad and the other as all gixxl (or both had or both gexxl) It takes two people to make a relationship a Occasionally, paients are .sevciely troubled and unahle to love their children If this is the axe with one of your parents, remind yourself again and again that this is not because you are unloving or unworthy If you reach out to friends and relatives, you'll eventually discover that others will cure for you. even if a parent isnt able to This can be one of the hardest lessons of divorce, and one of the most well worth learning pirent the other as intermediary own arrangements, express vour wishes, your anger, your happiness, or whatever, directly to the parent involved This strengthens e ie h relation ship and lessens the chance of your being used as a pawn s success, or a failure e better time to buy...or save! 4 I,; ; W.,,z. Bush- on of 'Mary Tilton, left, Mary man servo as judges at : ome To Terms Dr without using Make your you ean with each th , o fstV i ef free floating anger on evervone s part and anger gives distorted pictures ed reality One of your tasks in putting your new life together will be to sift through all the pictures your parents have about each other, figure out which are true and which are distortions and try to a reahatie picture vf arrive parent Here are some hints from Dr Gardner that may help in sorting out your feelings Gexxl Relationship You have a right to establish and maintain as gixxl a relationship as vou e an with eae h of your parents It is not disloyal to your custodial parent to want to write, vis.t, or enjoy your other parent Establish as direct a relationship as parents have split up Often when divoree excuis m the family, the teen agor fe Is sad lonely, diauppointed, and espee tally angry for some time To help teen agers deal with these feelings in themselves and their parents, CO ED Magame punmned by Scholastic Magazine s Ine consulted Dr Richard A Gardner adolescent psychiatrist and noted author of bexiks on iivrce y 't; across the I niled States there are approximately h million young pople under 18 whose H Club summer horse shows. Final show will he in August. Teens Show Horses Pontinued From I'age Csession we program is the work-ou- t have every week This gives the youngsters a chant e to get used to wh.it ' it will lx like at a show And she sa s .mth a gun, it also helps mothers get used to hauling hoises, tat k and kids Although the horse progiam is one of the most popular of 4 If projects, it is only one of more than 150 offeied People seem to think that groups are only for c ountry kids That Mr Benchxsen siniplv is not true, Helpful Hand t (For the mother who is faint at the "thought of pulling a trader, or worse, hacking it up at a show there aie always people such as Chad Iirsen and I,ou Wamik to give a helpful and unt ritical hand ) This brings up an important part of the 4 H program There would be no 4 II without our leaders and parents who are often one and the same, says Slur ley Wilcock, USU Extension 4 II have over 8,000 youngsters partic ipating in Salt Lake County alone Their interests range from home an! family living to animal and veterinary scienee anei aerospace and rocketry -l secretary AND THESE AT sav s We 5 Automatic Washing Cycles Super Wash Normal Pick Any Subject youngster is interested in any subject, he ean call USU Extension and well try to help find a group or find a leader to stait a group "Parents shouldnt be nervous about leaders We have plenty of training material and moral support Our motto is to make the best better and we are available to e veryone " 'If could not be found Gentle Knit Permanent Press wol k u a S H have seen groups m other states fart, not because the youngsters were unwilling to work, but because leadet s I T a 4-- Model EET 151DT cu ft refrigerator-freeze- r 3 88 cu ft freezer section 2 Adjustable temp control slide-oenspers 3 shelves Porcelain-enamele- d reinterior 14 6 Automatic cool-dow- n care for Permanent Press fabrics n Automatic custom dry control gives you the dryness you select ut h frigerator section - Super- 5 Automatic drying 369.95 temp settings bleach and fabric softener kH dispensers Full-wid- th 3 hamper-typ- e Model SDU-500- dishwasher with Super Scour cycle Energysaving Dry Selector Switch Exclusive silverware basket Porcelain-enamele- interior door and convenient Washes up to 18 lbs. of heavy denim and twill garments 0 d drying rack. selected load Laundry Guide) (Whirlpool Rmse-condition- - see dispenser $319.95 Hock music dominates the teen- age music scene and according Gallup OMlll Stints o Kiss First Place Dr George Gallup Rock totally 'PRINCETON, NJ dominates the teen age musical scene, with a relatively new group "Kiss" the runaw ay first choice of both girls and boys as their favorite musical group By - - One enthusiastic supporter said of Kiss" "They re a unique group, they do what they feel on stage and show you a good lime Thov paint their bodies and shoot off roe kots and things like that " Roi k groups account for most of tli top 20 chones The exceptions are singer actress Bjrl ra Streisand and John Denver who wi re picked lath and ?0th, respectively Only six pen cent of teens interviewed were unahle to nunu a favorite These findings aie based on i nationwide poll conducted bv the Gallup Youth Survey A total of IX, (i teen agers were questioned on then favorite musical group or personahtv In the runner up position in the to choices is a Calif irnia based roi k group. The Eagles Tins despite the fait that they have not recorded as a gioup since 1970 The Beatles are third on thi bst A junior said this alut The Eagles Theyre easy listening compared to a lot of the roc k you hear .Their music is very relaxing and jusi flows They have a dear nice sounding tone Ifi year-ol- d girl was e static ovu the Beatles They re in a (lass t , themselves They are not oiilv top musicians but they cennposed alnio-- t she said all of their songs tbemse Ives Nev m order among the t p li in tn lut parade of favoi ite mix ie d gi oups m high-scho- is1 Mi wokla'dStS',T to national poll. Kiss, with wild act dominates the rock siene Model RDE390P Pyrolitic oven Digital MEALTIMER clock Adjustable broiler control 'Infinite heat controls Lift-u- p Black-glas- s top See-thrTm oven door personalities are Led Zeppelin Ui Boston (5), Chicago (t), Aerosnnth (7) Peter Krampton (8), Earth, Wind and Fire (91, and K C and the Sunshine Band (lOi Judging bv the urvey findings rex k and roll will be around for the foreseeable future Many social obser vers feel that rex k has particular appeal to young audiences lx cause the intense and fr e wheeling music is their own arising out of youtliful frudr itioii' w itb sex loty and expi essmg the ir mm r most feelings Here is the question asked u. lla survev Who is vour fjvonte or personality Here are the top Kiss miMe il hpr 30 electric range aso paw no-iro- n g s,ab"c -- WSSkS SPILL-GUAR- u savings $449.95 TOLL-FRE- E on w NATIONWIDE COOL-LIN- E 11 TECH-CAR- E SERVICE ORGANIZATION for information about operating maintaining or servicing your Whirlpool home appliance (In Michigan 253-130- 1 r irtiiUrrirTiitfi TELEPHONE SERVICE Dial 800 hiih" "1 A Whirlpool franchised anej trained TECH-CAR- E servee representative is near you if your Wh rlpool appliance ever ncods service S-- rip ui nun titiiTiifn 'i imp mm WhirlpooL.We believe quality can be beautiful. 20 1 2 Eagles ! 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