| Show 1 6W The Salt Lake Tribune Sunday July I 16 1989 I I 1 7 Expectations can spell a really big difference ' ered the effect of modifying expectations A group of college freshmen at Duke University was told that it is common to have some trouble adjusting to college that it is normal to have some failures and that it is a part of adjustment to college life Those students actually did better than other students When they had trouble with school they felt justified in thinking that they were not uniquely dumb or lazy They expected things to get better Unfortunately most attribution research has not looked at processes within the family It seems reasonable to believe though that giving children the benefit of the doubt when they make mistakes and believing that they are fundamentally good is important for their healthy development It may be important for parents to help children appreciate their own abilities and know how to deal with their failures without becoming discouraged In particular the labels that parents use are important In every child we can find qualities to emphasize For example maybe Johnny seems clumsy but is a hard worker We should help him feel pride in his ways If Suzie is stubborn we can help her see herself as a strong person and we can teach her how to use her strength As parents we play a crucial role in helping our children understand themselves It is important that we see and that we help them see all that is good within them Graduate Student ' College of Family Life Utah State University LOGAN — Several decades ago Fritz Heider observed that different people had different perceptions of the same event Heider developed a theory t known as attribu- - r tion theory He defined "attribu- tion" as the process by which we 1 4 decide why some- one behaves as t 4 they do He sug- gested that each ot us has a unique Mr Goddard way of interpret- lag the world around us and that our interpretations have an important trnpact on our behavior ' —An important attribution experi- ment was done by Rosenthal and Jaeobson u ill San Francisco school Children in 1968 7:1he researchers gave teachers the names of students who they predicted would perform extraordinarily well during the course of the school year An fact the students had been randomly selected and were no different from other students in the school But the teachers did not know that The researchers found that the students from whom high performanc was expected did indeed do well during the school year Their achievement scores at the end of the tear were surprisingly high There was another surprising find mg When students who were not expected to do well did well their teachers reacted in ways that dis- - 1 - 1 A 4 THREAD ROLLED HEM EASY THREADING CLASSES 2 YR WARRANTY RETAIL 569900 A I NI A Mrs McLean Moser-McLea- n Texas — Beth SAN ANTONIO Anne Moser and Sean Aaron McLean were married Saturday in Trinity Baptist Church A reception was given at the Oak Hills Country Club The bride is a daughter of Dr and Mrs Royce Moser Jr Salt Lake City She graduated from Baylor University Waco Texas with a bachelor's degree in business administration and a master's degree in education She affiliated with Chi Omega Delta Psi Kappa and Gamma Beta Phi The bridegroom a son of Mr and Mrs Kirby Algren McLean Whitney Texas graduated with a bachelor's degree in education from Texas A&M University College Station and a master's degree in education from Baylor University He affiliated with Phi Epsilon Kappa The couple will reside in San 0 fer-- 4004041406 ydk A 84401 3925081 A - t - J i- t 1 ' ' -- fii Kieffer-Roy-lan- ce afterward The bride a daughter of Mr and Mrs RF Zeigler Centerville grad- uated from Oregon State University Corvallis with a degree in hotel management The bridegroom a son of Mr and Mrs Hank Van CaIcar Edmonds Wash has a degree in electrical engineering from OSU The couple will reside in Portland Ore THREAD DIFFERENTIAL FEED GREAT FOR ALL FABRICS -' 4 : 4P sp l's39 RETAIL 01 v $89900 II Mr and Mrs Linford Gootiell-Linfor- d PLAIN CITY — Trisa Goodell and Scott Linford were married July 8 in the Plain City 1st LDS Ward A garden reception was given at the home of the bride's parents Mr and Mrs Jay R Goodell Ogden Ruth's Diner Salt Lake City was setting for the wedding breakfast The bride is employed by the Bank of Utah The bridegroom received a degree in bioveterinary science from Utah State University He will study veterinary medicine at Kansas State University Manhattan in the fall The couple will reside in the rehearsal dinner The bride a daughter of Reinhold Sommerstedt Costa Mesa Calif and Mrs Marsaline Meyer Ridge-creCalif is a flight attendant with st Delta Airlines The bridegroom is a son of Mrs Valene Burrell Roy and the late Ronald Harker He is a pilot with Rocky Mountain Aviation t343 ' ' 3t 03 713 i "" T s" 'NA ow I i 9 o 414 1 ) LAYTON IVY 21 E GENTILE LAYTON UT 84041 CENTER PLACE 35 S STATE SIC 4742 S 900 E UT 5444911 3281631 2824055 Ste 89117 WESTWOOD 2575 w 4700 S UT SIC 1 ' F t f I 7 Mr and Mrs Smith u 84111 656-061- 0 spend some of their shopping dollars at a convenience store at least once each week the study shows Americans spent nearly $66 billion in such stores in 1987 the most recent year for which full annual figures are available What once were small outlets where a customer could make a late night stop for a quart of milk and a pack of cigarettes have evolved into stores reports almost the communications company breakfast The bride a daughter of Mr and Mrs Jost E Madrian Salt Lake City attended Brigham Young University and will continue studies at Ameri- can River College Sacramento Calif She filled an LDS mission to North Carolina The bridegroom a son of Mr and Mrs Robert Craft Chino Calif graduated from Brigham Young University and will attend the University of California at Davis where the newlyweds will reside He filled an LDS mission to Indiana L t' mw'''' 1 I " i' 4-- '— ! 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Bowen-Lindhar- LIN OODLN -- j it l'i -- - 1 wt 1 hoxr 400 :doV100171 3-- r ' - - A f 6 ' - -k Mrs Lindhardt F — :t 4- i ''' f? t - q r 1 - - "' Oarents often neglect to communicate our delight and satisfactions to isur children Much of the time we only communicate our anger There may be another problem With family expectations Maybe we have expectations that family life should always be happy As a result we may always feel disappointed 'An interesting experiment eonsid - - -- I 'i - - I It nur worst Some research has shown that children are more likely to blame themselves for mother's anger than or her happiness or sadness We as - - -a Vh -- home life In families we generally see each other a lot Sometimes we Vet our hair down" so much with family members that they only see ore - tf0 v - hard-workin- g couraged the students Apparently the teachers only encouraged excellence in the students from whom they expected it This study known as "Pygmalion in the classroom" taught us the importance of our expectations Other researchers have found that Children's beliefs about their ability as students are more influenced by the parents' statements than by report cards Even students who have good grades sometimes see themselves as only average students when their parents have not acknowledged their accomplishments Parents help children interpret their successes There are special applications of these principles of expectation to 't - k 7--- Mit4 - By H Wallace Goddard ' I I I I e ner Angela Bagley and Kelly D Foote were married Friday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple A reception was given at Stevenson House Reception Center MullBoon's was setting for the wedding The bride is a daughter of Dr BlaMe H and Mariean C Wilcox Salt Lake City She received a degree in physical therapy from the University of Utah where she affiliated with Kappa Kappa Gamma and was elected to Mortar Board Skull and Bones and Owl and Key She was elected to represent the College of Health on the Assembly of the Associated Students of the U of U The bridegroom a son of Lowell G and Miriam F Anderson Salt Lake City received bachelor's and master's degrees in English from the U of U He was elected to Phi Beta Kappa and Phi Kappa Phi and filled an LDS mission to Canada The couple will reside in Rochester NY where Mr Anderson will continue studies as a doctoral candidate in English at the University of Rochester The bride a daughter of Dr and Mrs Ronald N Bagley Salt Lake City is majoring in public relations at the University of Utah where she is public relations director for the Public Relations Student Society of America i a member of Pi Delta Phi and Kappa Tau Alpha honoraries and is a reporter for the Utah Daily Chronicle She studied a year in Paris France The bridegroom a son of Mr and Mrs Paul A Foote West Valley and maCity is majoring in pre-meterial science engineering at the U of U where he's of the Honors Student Advisory Committee and is a member of Golden Key Honor Society Pi Delta Phi and Phi Eta Sigma He filled an LDS mission to France classes and activities related to good health and fitness for children years uf age breakfast d A week long program of 2 tgrt :11V Two sessions will be offered August 7 llth and August 14 18th from 8:30 am-4:0- 0 pm Monday thru Friday Volunteers are needed to participate in an investigational for the of hot flashes Participants will treatment drug study FREE medical and treatments plus up to $225 exams receive for their time compensation 'Ouolified volunteers must be ' experiencing hot flashes 40 years or older post menopausal For more information regarding this investigational drug study please call 532-452- 6 AAAA Medical Research Group I a tJ: A f 4 Dental 'Health Basic Nutrition Safety Decision Making Stress Management First Aid Self Esteem And much morel Tuition: $6500 (includes lunches snacks materials and FOR FURTHER INFORMATION AND CALL 268-742- r! trA rs il 40110-- St Mark's Hospital COMMUNITY EDUCATION 1200 EAST 3900 SOUTH SALT LAKE CITY UTAH 84124 f a lp 1 4 wit To Include: Fitness Yr" 111 Al Happily Married with McKay Diamond Rings! 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