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Show Page 6A South Edition Lakeside Review Wednesday, October 10, 1984 Rain Or Shine Just Plain Gum Has Little Appeal SHARON NAUTA STEELE Special to the Lakeside Review But thats just plain gum, son said with as my much disdain as he could pack into five short words. . I had offered Michael a whole package of chewing gum, by way of a bribe to clean his room, and there he was telling me it wasnt worth the time it would take to pick up two shirts, a pair of socks, and a Hungry Hungry Hippo set. Four years ago, when my , oldest child was 6, no kid that age would ever turn down a proffered piece of gum, unless it had already been chewed. But now a days it isnt enough to have gum that just tastes good and maybe freshens your breath in the bargain: What do you mean its just plain gum? I said pointing to the famous name label on the Know the Difference To Communicate ' The All this leads girls to become reason couples have marital- problems might not be because they can't communicate, But because men and women seem to live by different sets of rules. Thats what a psychologist told participants in the recently completed fifth annual Families Alive Conference at Weber State relationship oriented and boys to become achievement oriented. Thats where the reinforcement is, 1 1 College. Dr. Marilynne Glatefelter, a psychologist from Utah State University, spoke on the psychosocial development of men and women and told those gathered at address that marital the communication problems are often the symptom of basic differences in the way males and females think. Dr. Glatefelter said, The systems that men and women are raised in are very different. Were not paying enough attention to the systems that go along with gender. She said that the different systems are introduced shortly after the child is bom, often in the hospital nursery. She said nurses, as a rule, tend to let boy babies cry longer, while mothers will talk more to baby girls- than they do to boys. Parents cuddle boy babies less, but are quicker to praise boys for doing something like throwing a ball, Dr. Glatefekey-no- te i she said. She said girls become better at reading and responding to nonverbal cues and so do better in school. Boys, on the other hand, will come into class and immediately look for something to do. Dr. Glatefelter said, If you ask a woman to tell you about herself she will most-ofte- n do so in terms of relationship-w- ho shes married to," how many children she has and possibly who her parents are. If you ask the man hell tend to talk about his career, his church responsibilities and others things that he is doing. , ... lter said. She noted that thinking in terms of relationships causes women to feel a great deal of pressure. They must consider how each decision will affect a wide variety of people. How will mother feel if we go on vacation then, she may ask herself. The man, on the other hand, is and sees decisions as making a choice and moving straight ahead. She said, In the past weve called the way women think scattered thinking and the other has been the logical. One has been good while the other bad. goal-orient- ed The NORTH SALT LAKE Bountiful Group of La Leche of to miss the intimacy stage. It is method not until later they realize the psychologists thinkinga produces guilt in the women. Ive yet to meet a woman who does not have guilt. Were trying to please everyone, so consequently we feel guilty, she said. But the male approach is not she added. The same gut feeling is going on with men, and that is fear-n- ot just fear that all the points not hitting theyre cost-fre- e, Well, no. Does it have a candy sucker coating on the outside? Errr, I dont think so. Does it make magic miniexplosions in your mouth from the moment you bite down? Is it shaped like a ring, rocket or radar gun? Does it come in a , thousand little confetti bits, shreds, shavings or shards? Can you thread it on a string for an edible pendant bead? Does it come with a special stamp for reuse as sealing wax? Oh dear, I had to admit, I dont think it does any of those things. Then I dont want it, my son said firmly. Who wants a piece of gum if all it does is chew? n, non-prof- the Leagues purpose is to help good mothering encourage through breastfeeding. For information meetings in Bountiful about the or for ques- tions about breastfeeding call 1 leaders, Araina Thorsness or Kay Gerber 292-345- 292-645- 2. macy. stages. about. ge The name La Leche is Spanish and means the milk. A it organization, different things are happening to the women. They do not address the indentity issue in early adulthood and jump straight into inti- ing the right goal." She said that some researchers believe human development does not end after the adolescent years and they have divided that development into various post-teena- League will hold its second meeting in a series at the home of Gloria Fullner, 22 North Acorn Dr. North Salt Lake at 7 p.m. omission. She said, Somewhere in midlife the man returns to the intimacy stage. Unfortunately very Then later on, sometime in they return to address the issue of identity. So here they are at odds. Just when the man gets ready to talk shes back in school and has homework. Shes ' now able to say who she is and hes left without someone with which to establish intimacy. crisis we talk Thats the mid-lif- e towards accomplishing their goals, but fear of maybe not hav- hype. Bountiful La Leche League Plans Meeting She said that the female way now term multivarient thinking pack. gems Does it have jewel-lik- e of jelly on the inside? Mike piped up in TV advertising mid-lif- e, The first step is when adults Its all normal and it happens all define themselves the time, but ask anyone and to try achieve some sort of identity. whos going through it and they The second state intimacy is will say it hurts. when the person is confident The solution, she said, has a enough to share himself with lot to do with individuals undersomeone else. whats happening to It may not be just in mar- standing as well as comprehending them riage, Dr. Glatefelter said. It the developmental stages their can be any relationship that is are experiencing. spouses built on trust and where the person can be totally himself and not She said, The first step is to be afraid of rejection. understand that there is a differThe problem, she said, is that ence. 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