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Show 4C THE GREEN SHEET Thursday, February 21, 1985 The After All, It Is Your Wedding So the day finally arrives when you announce to both your families that the two of you are going to get married. Oh, you two have known it for a long time, but somehow you have wanted to keep it your secret. Personal, private. Your parents may have wondered, guessed, but never said anything. But now they know. And now they know, suddenly, it is not your wedding any more. It almost seems like it is their wedding. Sound familiar??? Yes, its familiar, too familiar. All taken out of your hands. Yours no longer. But there is a way to figure it all out and make everyone happy. Even yourselves. Youve always known exactly what kind of a wedding yours would be. But now you find out that your parents, and his parents have entirely different thoughts about how your wedding should be. Egad, and all that, what are you to do. Run off and get married by some Justice of the Peace? Call the whole thing off? The answer, of course, is not to do any of those things. The answer is to play it cool, and think. If you consider your own wishes entirely, you can get your way and get the exact celebration you had in mind, but be careful. The price may be high. This may cause hard words and hurt feelings, and thats not the best atmosphere for a wedding which is supposed to be the happiest day in your life. Well, should you keep quiet about what you want, let others take charge? If you do you will end up feeling that you missed your own wedding. Heres how to avoid both those catastrophes. Find out from both parents (not just your future spouse, but his parents) what they would like. And do this before you make any arrangements. Seek opinions. Talk it over. They might go right along with what you have hoped for, but theyll be far happier if, at least, you asked for their opinion. Maybe the kind of wedding you have dreamed of is entirely beyond what your parents can afford. Maybe youve wanted a casual, fun, sort of thing while your parents would be appalled at such informality, thinking that was more a patio party than a wedding. Find out what they do or dont want. If your mother doesnt want the event in her home, maybe its just because she hasnt the time right now to cook the food, arrange the DURING THE SERVICE CHRISTIAN house and plan for guests. If you can have the food caterred it might make a world of difference to your mother. Maybe the parents think of a wedding as a religious ritual and any other kind, to them, simply isnt a wedding. Find out whether its the place you choose or who will perform the rites. Maybe having the parents favorite minister will make all the difference in the world and theyll go right along with having the ceremony out on the lawn, in the canyon or at some private club. Okay, so this way no one is going to get EVERYTHING they want, but everyone will get something of what they want. Maybe by the time youve heard from everyone and come up with a time, place, and kind of wedding that will make everyone happy you then . . . heavenly days, find there just isnt enough money. Heres where its important to figure out whats most important. If you wanted a buffet, cut the food down to finger foods, drinks and sweets. If you planned for live music for the dancing, perhaps someone will bring their stereo and play your favorite music. If you wanted floral pieces throughout the room, talk to florist and find out what pieces are the most important and stick to them. There may be times when you and your future spouse might have to quite seriously tell the others that, after all, this is your wedding and, in a tight pinch, their wishes are the ones that will go. But do this as gently and as seldom as possible. If, having your own way will risk hard feelings between you and your parents or just be sure that they will remember it forever. Settle for peace. Wedding Lineup Standard procedure for both formal Christian and traditional Jewish weddings are shown in the sketches. While the Christian bride meets her groom at the altar, the traditional Jewish bride and groom are escorted down the aisle by both families. In a Christian ceremony, the brides mother and grooms parents are seated. The parents of the Jewish couple remain standing throughout the nuptial service. PROCESSIONAL TRADITIONAL JEWISH CHRISTIAN 1. Bride 14 SPECIAL PERM PRICES n We are a full service salon which offers tanning. We really care about the service we give. 2. Groom SID'S STYLE SHOP 3. Maid of Honor m 15' 4. Best Man jSv16 4119 LOVE IS HERE TO STAY h17,' W. 3500 So. 4 5. Bridesmaids 6. Ushers 7. Flower Girl 8. Ring Bearer 11 9. Father of the Bride 5 Silk-fres- h f f:L"il25 J Weddings Corsages i : MA the Bride 10. Mother of A, , Planters Funerals s'ti f 11. Father of the Groom I 12. Mother of the Groom K 13. Clergymember 14. Cantor ,'9 : 3. tj1 Full Florist 1V Service s, Brides Grandfather 16. Brides Grandmother 17. Grooms Grandfather 18. Grooms Grandmother 15.- Then, when everyone has told you what they like and the plans have been made, dont forget all those people. Ask your sister to take charge of, perhaps, getting the boutonnieres for the men. Ask your to be in charge of the future drinks. Let one of your future sisters-in-lafollow up on ordering the bridesmaids dresses or your - DURING THE SERVICE in-la- fiances brother making For The Bride To Be . . . j TRADITIONAL JEWISH 569-177- 7 ar- for the going-awa- y car. rangements ' Share all the plans and arwith both families. rangements Make it a family affair and if they have ALL contributed to putting on the show they are bound to think it was a good show. After all, they helped put it on. And then . . . youll feel like your wedding was the best wedding, after all. floral 7770 South 3900 West citatum tofe cjeville . The Perfect Wedding Reception Center A Wedding Cfiapet TAYLORSVILLE AREA Begins With Perfect Planning Arrange transportation and any accomodations for wedding party and guests. Most brides find planning their wedding both exciting and complicated. Here is a check list to aid in this labor of love: out-of-to- Two Months Before Wedding 4 to 6 Months Beforehand Plan rehearsal dinner and invite Determine your budget and decide on style and location of the ceremony, Send engagement announcement to Green Sheet newspaper. Set the date with your fiance and decide on particulars of ceremony with clergyman. If you plan an LDS Temple ceremony check with your bishop for your initial interview. Plan your reception and, if possible, arrange for all the services youll need. Decide upon bridal attendants. Draw up invitation list. Select your wedding dress, veil, and accessories. Select florist, musicians, and photographer. 3 Months Before Wedding . Order invitations, stationery, and notepaper. Begin shopping for first-yea- r trousseau. Have both mothers choose their gowns.' Visit your doctor and if necessary, check on rubella immunization. bridal party. Arrange recording and display of wedding gifts. Address wedding invitations. Choose wedding ring. Obtain marriage license with fiance. Decide upon and order attendants gifts. One Month Before Wedding Have hair styled as you would for your wedding and have final fitting on your wedding gown. Prepare newspaper announcement of your wedding. Arrange fittings of bridesmaids gowns. Order wedding cake if not included in other preparations. Attend parties in your honor. Plan seating arrangements. Captains Marriage Green Sheet newspapers. Go over personal trousseau for last minute needs. If you plan to change your name, arrange to do so on social security card, drivers license, credit cards, bank accounts, etc. Arrange to move all of your belongings to your new home. CALL ANYTIME FOR FULL INFORMATION AND AN APPOINTMENT 4897 So. Redwood Rood A very colorful example of an old marriage contract is one that was Have final consultation with caterer, florist and photographer. Give bridesmaids luncheon. Confirm rehearsal plans with clergy and attendants. And Afterwards a personal, handwritten thank-yo- u note for each gift, even if its from a close friend youve thanked in person and see every day. Keep up with your notes by writing as each gift comes in. And do try to within two weeks send a thank-yo- u not later than after a gift arrives one month aftaer your honeymoon. - Two Weeks Before Wedding Record each gift as received and note promptly. write a thank-yo- u Send wedding announcement to ILENE A DANIEL McDOUGAL 15 drawn up by a Scottish sea captain during the 19th century. In nautical terms, he outlines his and his spouses duties to each other which include the traditional concepts of wifely obedience in exchange for a husbands care and protection. . . . I explained to her the conditions under which we were to sail in company on lifes voyage, states the sailor. She is to obey signals without questions when received. She is to steer by my reckoning. She is to stand by as a true consort in foul weather, battle .or shipwreck. I am to keep her in due repair and see that she hath her allowance of coats of paint, streamers and bunting as befits a saucy craft. I am to revictual (feed) her day to day. Should she be blown on her beam ends by wind or misfortune, I am to stand by and see her righted. 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