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Show 4 role. They dont know what theyre missing. Yes, it was hard to answer some of their questions at first, but I had made up my mind to answer anything they asked, and now its getting easier. After all, if they cant come to me and get a straight answer, who are they to go to? Ive gotta be the mother too, and Im trying the best I know how. I doubt if Ill marry again soon. This has been such a big change in all our lives . . . and its working out beautifully . . . that I dont want to add anything new to the relationships. Thatll just have to wait for another time, but of course, it isnt out of the question. if 4 B WTSr Thursday, June 16, VALLEY VIEW We as a group are taking Inner Awareness classes and what we are learning is helping us become a family, and changing our lives for the better. Being father and mother to these three children Is miles from what I ever thought of, but thats the way it is, and I think Im a positive influence on their thinking and lives. I know theyre doing that for me. There are books telling women how to be mothers and books telling men how to be fathers, but there are no books on how a man can be both. Its new ground so I try a little of this, a little of that, and then the 1983 whole bunch of us talk it over and decide whats best. We might be missing one person the average family thinks vital, but were getting along, our problems are being taken care of and, centering our lives along spiritual lines, were finding it the greatest help there is for successful living. And thats what its all about. So . . . Russ Martin . . . trail blazer. One of a growing group of men who are saying, Yes, I can raise these children. Theyre mine, and together well find our way and make not only a good family, but good lives. tOPKMSIGRV MiMn:! & . SPECIAL PRICES THRU JULY 3 1 ST I Mi) and mother to his youngsters. neighboring children. The Russ Martins and a neighborhood friend, discuss plans for the weekend. Russ is both father Russ Martin Finds (by Ethel Bradford) now Fathers Day, but theres never been a day to honor Fathers who are also Mothers. In fact, not too many years ago youd seldom have found a man who was also the mother of his children, and when it did happen it was usually the result of the mothers death. And even then, the children usually ended up living with either an aunt or a grandmother. Men just didnt count when it came to being the mother image for the family. But changes come, thank heavens, and it's quite common for men to female assume that proverbial role, and theyre doing it right nicely, too. Per Gallon of Gasoline FIF With This Coupon Such a man is Russ Martin. His life isnt as he had expected, and when he and his wife, Christine, divorced, it seemed the natural thing for the three children, Casaun-dra- , Joey and Justin to live with the mother. No one even questioned that decision. But situations and needs change and now all three of those youngsters are living with their father, and the four of them are creating a family that is united, loving and happy. The first move was made by Justin, who, after a summer visit, asked to stay permanently. And Christie, wanting whatever was best for Justin, agreed to give it a try. Then Casaundra chose to make the shift of home-bas- e and finally, the move. So suddenly Russ, who had become a single man-abotown, found himself fathermother to three active youngsters and, while loving it, was also facing drastic changes in his life style. I spent four years alone, Russ tells, and it was hard when the children came to stay. It changed my life entirely. Ball games, bowling, tennis, soccer, running and softball had all become vital parts of my life and I didnt want to give them up, realizing that if I changed my life too much I might end up resenting the drastic changes. So I didnt give it all up, but now there are four of us going instead of just me. Ive been careful to include activities that girls like, too, but now whatever we do, we do as a foursome. In fact, its working out so well that a couple of the neighborhood children have adopted us and are almost part of our group. I had to keep in mind, too, that it was a drastic change for the kids also and that I was now responsible for forming their thoughts, actions and lives. It frightened me and so . . . we began another big change centering our lives around a spiritual teaching and find it is giving us a firm foundation for all other activities. One nice, unexpected happening is that my former wife and I have become friends. We wont ever marry again, but the relationship is better now than it ever was as man and wife and she even asks me for advice and help with her life. The hardest thing about being a mother? Well, thats easy. A man, at least I was, was trained by family and culture, to hide the emotions. Mask all tenderness. That was for women and men were supposed to be stern, manly and big boys dont cry Joey-mad- i rani ngaaDGD 0C WILL BE CLEANER WE GUARANTEE YOUR CARPET A FURNITURE fort and help. Its allowing what I always felt inwardly, to be expressed outwardly. Gosh, Ive learned so darn much from them and now I feel sorry for men who let themselves become trapped into the traditional father LOVESEAT cm dr am 03B ams Well Ive learned, and am learning, to give that tenderness and love not only verbally but physically. Letting them know that I love them and that they can come to me for com- Dads Also The Mother Mothers Day and WUB ROOM and a friend of stuff. - A We had . . GM (SB GGGEB AND BRIGHTER SAFETY AND QUICK DRYING CONVENIENCE! 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