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Show 73 SAYS SHE Ive been reading with interest over the past few months the debate and justification over adopted children wanting to find their natural parents. I feel I have some expertise in this matter, having been adopted as an infant by two of the most wonderful peo-pl- e in the world. If that sounds like a cliche, so be it. Ive not shared some of the feelings that have been brought out in the recent articles - about needing to find out who I really am. I think I know who I am. Ive lived with myself for quite a few years now and have never felt that I had a problem in this WEST VALLEY VIEW Thursday, Apr. 8, 1982 by Michele Bartmess I'm sure my life is better than it might have been and for that she is owed a feeling of gratitude. respect. My finding myself, so to speak, did not appear to be different from the struggles my friends who were not adopted had. not think of her as my mother. My mother is the woman who sat up nights when I was ill, who taught me right from wrong, who educated me sometimes hand on my with a bottom and who never gave up on me during some rather difficult teen-ag- e times. Who loves me today as if I were still an adorable baby. Which Im not. My father is the man who struggled so that I could have a college education with very little effort on my part, who patiently tried to teach me to drive and who insisted that I exercise respect for others. Hes the one who took me aside as a teen and suggested that I learn to control my temper before I got my self into water so hot that I might be scarred by it. I do I have to admit to a certain amount of curiosity when I was younger. But thats all it was, simple curiosity. Certainly no longing to know. - well-place- - brother wasnt even My curious. Youre my parents, thats all I need to know, he once said. My mother knew the answers to my questions and shared them with me. Almost from infancy, I was told I had been wanted twice. That may be true, but it didnt take a genius to figure out who wanted me most. Still, theres never been any bitterness on my part toward the woman who bore me. Im frankly glad she did. Thank heavens abortion wasnt considered an option. Id hate to think I might never have been. d These are the people who made me what I am. Im not an accident of nature. No child is or ever was. Adoption, at least in this state, doesn't have a stigma. And it shouldn't. life without up in a any of the humor Annie brings into that term. Perhaps Ive been lucky. If life had been less a joy, then maybe I would be joining that group who is seeking the right to know who they really are. I dont know. My parents tried as I neared adulthood to provide an opportunity for me to meet my natural mother. My father had died aboard ship prior to my birth. She, who had forged a new life for herself, didnt want to face that. I can accept that. I think it would have been a most awkward moment for both of us. Being a writer, Ive had a wild imagination at times. I formulated a fictional piece once where the heroine fell in love with someone and then discovered he was her half brother. I suppose something like that could happen, but I dont know any publishers who would like to pay me to tell it as a story. Im delighted it was available both for me and for my brother. Think of the countless families who would never be families but for the courage of a mother to do what she thinks is best for her child. And Ive watched some of my friends as they struggled with the realization that they can not Many of my friends tell me there was a point in their lives when they were just sure they had been adopted. hard-knoc- k They tried to find out the real truth. I can relate to that. There were times when I was absolutely certain that I had not been adopted and that the whole thing was just a story. Kids are like that. As an adult, I find the best course is to let well enough alone. I firmly believe that environment has much more to do with how we turn out than do our genes. We inherit characteristics and talents, but without opportunity, they would lie dormant. But whatever forces made me the way I am, I cant complain. While you may not think Im wonderful, my Mom and Dad do. bear children. I cant quarrel with birth control, but we all know what abortion has done to the numbers of babies available for adoption. It means that many potential families will never be. I dont have a very high opinion, either, of those young women who are, as we once phrased it, in trouble, and decide to keep my baby at all costs. Once the child is no longer a cuddly baby, it is often cast aside. Many are mistreated and grow thats good enough And for me. V. In Meets Cyprus Chess, FBLA Honored MAGNA. First place went to East high with 24 Vi. Kearns was in sixth place with 21 points, Granite eighth with 17 Cyprus highs chess team placed fourth in the state chess tournament. Kyle Johns received the trophy for best junior student in the event. The team took fourth place with 23 points. and Cottonwood 11th with eight points. Cyprus team members include Ted Hege-maMike Crump, Victor Parry, Steve n, Healey and the Johns lad. There were 133 players representing 19 schools participating in the event, said Cyprus adviser Robert Jones. Cyprus also had several winners in the District FBLA competition last week at Taylorsville high. Teammates Shirlene Fry and Kathy Inkley took second place in the executive decision making event. Jamie Anderson took a honor able mention in economics; Shirlene Fry second place in job interview, with Doreen Brock getting an honorable mention. In clerk typist I, vice will be held in the fellowship hall. Young adults of the church will sponsor an received third place, with Heather Barker gaining honorable mention. Shirlene Fry took honorable mention in steno II. Easter breakfast Jamie Anderson Service Slated received second place; Denise Anast, third Tonight At and Wendy Larson honorable mention. In clerk typist II, Pauline Turpin had a first, Marlene Pino and Debbie Gatherum, honorable mention. In the steno I category, Tina Sirianni Area Church held An vice. GRANGER. Sun- day between 8 and 9:30 a.m., with Sunday school starting at 9 : 30. An Easter egg hunt for the children will be immediately ser- after the church up- per room communion service will be held to- FAIR night (Thursday) at (From Page4B, Col. 9) Granger Community tricts. Christian church. The 7:30 p.m. ser Trophies went to the top 70 according projects, to Jess Brown from Salt Lake district who was chairman of the fair. He noted that participation was up 15 percent from last year. Edwards Youth Is New Eagle GRANGER. Steven Edwards, Hiland Kent, historian. church, has written a number of books, particularly on the Doctrine and Covenants and wrote the spiritual living lessons for the Relief Society for 17 years. Those attending the affair are being asked to bring their own dishes, cups and utensils. Music will be provided by Devon Hess Timothy at the harp. The SUP chapter organized about six months ago by its pre- Others are Robert landmarks and trails; Edgar Soderstrom and Farnsworth, William Bailey, buildings; Felix Lee Laboto, chaplain; Robertson and Merrill Hymas, wagonmas-ter- s (in charge of trips). The organization has as its goal to help preserve the pioneer heritage of its members. and sent Walter Larry S. Edwards, has Ewell, head, more than has been awarded the 50 members, 41 of Scout Eagle badge. whom are life memson of Mr. Mrs. Presenting the award at a court of honor was Larry Riddle, scoutmaster of troop 597. Members of the troop were organized to do cleanup work at a new unit of Girls Village in Kearns, providing 42 hours of service, by the new Eagle Scout to complete a service project. He has been patrol Utah Boys Ranch THRIFT STORE bers. Were looking for more members, Mr. Ewell remarked. He said the chapter will be taking a trip to Lake Powell April 28 through a May 1 . tour was Recently taken to Ogden to the Browning Museum of firearms and of old cars, loctated in the old Union Pacific Depot. Members CDB the of chapter are preparing a monument to commemorate mills that were operated in Parleys Canyon in the early days. Officers of the Oquirrh Mountain 3681 chapter include Mr. Ewell, president; Harold Dangerfield, president-elect; Jed Hart, 967-543- 7 Derrell Michaelis, treasurer; DISEASES & I I I Honor. The Valley junior high student takes Spanish. His interests are the and motorcycling. He has one younger sister. (From Page IB, Col. 9) potluck dinner. 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