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Show Page 16—THE HERALD. Provo, Utah, Friday, July 31, 1981 Overinvolved Parent May Provo to Finance Medical Office Defeat Her Own Purpose PHILADELPHIA — Mrs. Johnson believes sheis a terrific parent. She considers her daughter a close friend They talk about her depressed? — Do you make plans for your child? Do you — Are you embarras. sed by your children” Are you concerned what choose his hobbies, in: everyone will say about you as a parent? terests, education? By LEDA M, TULLY Herald Staff Writer Res an Hospital Mayor Ferguson thinks the project Provo City has issued a letter of in- \V ducement to Intermountain Health J Care Corp, would be good for the city “‘and doctors in the area. We are encouraging it,” he to purchase an Industrial said problems at school, with boys and her taste ir clothes. Mrs. Johnson drives her daughter to ballet lessons, which she insisted she take. She knows exactly what courses her daugher has in school and who her teachers are. She is try- ing to convince her daugherto go to college and majorin art. A Temple University professor believes a parent like Mrs. Johnson is not all that terrific. “The overinvolved parent looks like a good parent,” says Dr. Susan Wheelan, a professor in Temple’s psychoeducational processes department and coauthor of ‘‘How to Discipline Your Children Without Feeling Guilty.” SHOW 9:00 e 19), HENSON ASSOCIATES, See other ad KARR ENTERTAINMENT AANULILS AL peanee CoManeAe 165 Main, Spanish Fork oe ae Gi[GENERAL 794-6008 Ages 3-11, 1.25, BYU Students 1.75, ages 12-up 2.50 Steve McQueen [eee iratea LAST BIG WEEK! SEE OTHER ao! Astory EveMMs 7:15 ; ‘hey were :15-9:00 SAT. MAT. 1:45-3:30-5: «ss OX: ¥UEE -1255 &tit “THE LAST FLIGH DAILY 1:00-3:00-5:00-7:00-9:00 rte “pound,OF NOAH’S ARK” “An overinvolved relationship is one in which an adult is emotionally entangled with a child and uses the child to achieve his or her personal needs. “But the result is one of tremendous pressure on the child. The cost children pay is a lack of space in which to grow independently. “Although children surely benefit from the push adults provide to work hard and develop new skills, the push of an overinvolved adult is often too forceful.” Although there is no stereotype of an overinvolved parent, the tendancy for a woman to become overinvolved is greater because of the traditional roles women have always played in child rearing. Dr. Wheelan adds that single parents are more likely to be overinvolved because there is no Spouse to meet the adult’s needs. The single YOUNG FRAMBESSTEIN GENE WILDER: PETER BOYLE AR AA CROC RU ERED KENVETH MARS MADELINE KAHN rns TNS NS) MARK CAN HARRISON FORD. CARRIE FISHER WILLIAMS parent, she says, looks to the child for companionship and friendship. In some families, one parent may be overinvolved to compensatefor the other who is not around,because of work, or because the other Or THE NOW IS THE TIME FOR HEROES. parent is just not in- terested in child rearing. Because getting involved with children is considered a positive part of parenting, many adults don’t realize they are doing something wrong. EEDI. | Donald SeanNT Based on the novel by Ken Follett Of United Arnsts ATransamerica Company Juniper Films. All Rights Reserved. DAILY 1:00-3:00-5:00-7:00-9:00 “Overinvolvementis sometimes difficult to recognize because on the surface it looks like healthy caring,’’ she says. “Adults are convinced that all the time and energy given to their childrenis vitally necessary.” Because it is difficult to detect, Dr. Wheelan has a checklist for parents which mighthelp identify overinvolyement in their families. — Do you complain about your children’s behavior but take no action to curb or controlit? — Do you experience intense emotion with your child’s behavior: Are youecstatic with an “A” ona report card and in a rage with an “'F’'? — Do youfind yourself saying things such as ‘‘We're such good friends,” and want her to bea...""? — Do you talk about yourchild a lot? Is there a “‘you"’ anymore? Do you, as a parent, haveinterests and friends your own age? — Do you resent the lack of privacy at home because of your children's activities, but makeno attempttoalter schedules? — Are you VICTORY LORIMAR PRESENTS A FREDDIE FIELDS PRODUCTION A JOHN HUSTON FILM SYLVESTER STALLONE MICHABRL CAINE MAX VON SYDOW PELE VICTORY Musice by BILL CONTE Director of Phot phy GERRY FISHER. B.SC. Screenp! by EVAN JONES! and YABO YABLONSKY Produced by FREDDIE Story by YABO YABLONSKY FIELDS 1D and DIORDIE MILICEVIC & TEFF MAGUIRE OUN HESTON [PG[penta come suesio >) LORIMAR ca VEARAMOUNT PICTURE ON FI reer MARK HAMILL HARRISON FORD CAR seabss eee ole iPavA Ira too overprotective and say things such as, ‘He can't do it; “She's so sensitive,’ or ‘‘He’ll get hurt"? — Do you accommodate to your child’s moods? Are you depressed when your child is 224-5112 309 E. 1300 So. MATINEES DAILY! 1:30-4:15-7:15-9:45 1 I TWIN DRIVE.IN 12555. Stote, Provo, 174.0521 =| | ! 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