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Show October 2, 197 THEHERALD, Provo, Utan—Page17 Tax Specialistto Speak Self-Analysis Chart Will Show How You Do With Others In ‘Y’ Executive Serie Ray M. Sommer If you've ever wanted to iron out the kinks in your relationship with your spouse, you'll beinterested in aself-analysis chart drawn up by a Brigham Young University professor Its purpose is to help people analyze their relationships with others, and how to improve them,” explained Dr G Hugh Allred, pr of marriage and family counseling Dr. Allred will demonstratethe useof the system at a meeting of the National Council on Family Relations Oct. 14 at the Sheraton Harbor Island Hotel in San Diego “Some mendon't disclose their emotions, andtheir realtionships with family suffer because of that Others don’t give support to their spouseor chilren Tax Reform’ ecutive Lecture Series i 7 : While on campus Mi The Promised Land of Sommerfeld willy classes and confer with faculty and students of Oaks Honors the College of Business and the Graduate School President of Management The Executive Lecture Club Group Fortheindividual who sincerely want to improve Over 200 members of the Brigham Young said Dr. Allred. Youcanuseit to identify University President's precisely where you are in your communication and Club from throughout the personal relationships, the analysis can be very useful,” where you need to go to improveit will be the Reston, Va., director of Subject of Mr. Som tax education for Arthur merfeld’s address, which Young & Company ac- Will be given ai 4 p.m. in coun irm, will speak room 184 of the Jesse Tuesday on the Brigham Knight Building. Thelec Youiig University Ex- ture is opento the public United States were Series is intendedto bring business students in con RAY M. SOMMERFELD tact with national business leadersfor first- Jectives, significance hand information about 2"4 their chance for current problems, trends, Political acceptance. and developments Mr. Sommerfeld is a The visitor indicated former president of the Sometimes couples fall into a very competitive honored at a dinner and that hewill analyze and American Taxation As relationship, DON LOSEE,15-year-old son of Mr. and Mrs. Ferril Losee,is aboutto be airborne after zooming up a ramp for a calculated jump on his skateboard. Proficient in riding wheeled plat- form, Don wascited this week for going 40-miles per hour in a 30 mile zone. His mother wasglad the youth had to pay a fine to help him realize the value of safety. 15-Year-Old Nabbed Speeding, Judge and Court Laugh it Off By PATRICK CHRISTIAN “ Don Losee, 15, received a speeding ticket and appeared in court this week. He said he was sorry for the offense, but added that heintended to frame the ticket and add it to his trophy case. Part of the problem, hesaid, wasthat his vehicle wasnot equipped with a-speedometer Whenstopped andticketed for going 40-miles-perhour in a 30-mile-an-hour zone, Don — wearing a helmet and padding — pickedhis speedingvehicle up and shyly walked up to the officer who had stopped him Provopolice officer, Robert G. Dyer wrote Don a ticket. It was not your usual ticket, Most of the blanks had ‘‘DNA”’ written in them, meaning does not apply. About the only thing written in the vehicle description blanks was ‘‘skateboard.”’ To add insult to injury officer Dyer was Don's mother’s cousin. "With all his hair sticking from underneath his big helmetI didn't even recognize him until I wrote his nameontheticket.’’ Officer Dyer said he would have probably given him a ticket anyway, becausehedid representa traffic hazard to other drivers traveling Rock Canyon Drive. The ticket was a first for both Don and officer Dyer. This wasthefirst ticket for the boy and the first timetheofficer had everticketed a skateboard Donis the son of Mr. and Mrs. Ferril Losee of3145 Bannock Dr. in Provo. The boy's mother said that juvenile court was another intere: experience. She said that Don had to go up before court referee Leslie Dean Brown, Because of tradition and to emphasize the seriousness of offenses, juvenile court referees are usualystern-faced and quite serious, So was the case when Don stood before Referee Brown. But as the referee read the ticket he found it harder and harder to control himself ; and finally he and others in the court enjoyed a good laugh — not because the speeding offense was funnyin itsself, but mostly because of the unusualness of the violating vehicle Don wasfined $10. His mothersaid the entire experience was well worth the $10. For one thing, she said, it taught Don to be more careful on his skateboard and to realize that he also had to obey traffic laws. It was also slightly entertaining, just because of the unusualness. asked the judge if we could submitthe incident to Ripley's Believe it Or Not,’’ Mrs. Losee said. She also said that maybe skateboard manufacturers should install speedometers on the machines Don's mother said that her son would notbelieve Allred calls ‘‘vertical,”’ in heard a message by BYU comment on the Carter S0ciation andis oneof the President Dallin H. Oaks administration’s this week Wilkinson “It’s a self improvement programin which you can tax “ation’s foremost tax in the reform proposals, their @uthorities Center Bal- inom The President's Clubis made up of alumni and fr iends who cone 0 or mo! BYU. These funds are used to upgrade and maintain the University’s efficient communication going on. These too can be Instructional research noted on the chart programs. ‘Couples can lookat the nine categories for analyzPresident Oaks suming both vertical and level relationships, and marized the state of the measure how open the communication in their mar- University and outlined riage is. A spouse may want to refer to the chart BYU's influencein higher regularlyfor a reading on progressin his or her com: education. He also munication, or the individual might even want to described new campus memorize the nine areas of self-analysis,” said Dr buildings underconstrucAllred tion or in the planning ae find out where the gaps are, where you're being destructive, and where you can enrich your communication.” Not onlyis theii iment valuable for improving spouserelatioships, it’s heipful in other relatinoships as well. One young woman who memorized the chart was able to analyze her communication with another woman around whom she felt uncomfortable and confused. She identified the power moves of this person and gained the understanding necessary to terminate the relationship. The other woman was later found to be a con artist. Although useful in manyclose relatinoships, the chartis not a cure-all for problems, Dr. Allred cau- stage, problems exist, and couples need professional faculty and administra- nanot CALCULATOR DISCOUNTERS HEWLETT-PACKARD FINANCIAL CALCULATOR HP-22 and reported on the status of relations with governmental agencles. The President informed the visitors of the football team's forthcoming trip to Japan, anddiscussed the considerations that went into the decision over the remote possibility of a bowl bid. The dinner was preceded by a reception in the Wilkinson Center tions. Memorial Lounge for “It’s not a panacea for all problems in a human President's Club relationship. Thre are situatinos where severe members and BYU = counseling tion members A Special Limited Offer... that he was going that fast. 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