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Show Page S6 The Sanpete County Messenger, March 4, 1982 pow to talk to an adoptive parent (and come away alive) by Randa Bliu'k Having a baby naturally or adopted is a wonderful : becoming but since an adopted Even prejudice, an ugly criticism, but in the hope parent, it has come to my attention that most peo- - word at any time, surfaces that it would give to others a new understanding and and becomes more pie, however ing. just do not know or able. Therefore, 1 wrote appreciation of adoption. understand adoption. this article, not as a Definite Donta When talking to an adoptive parent 1. Never ask how much did the baby cost you?" Its really nobody's business and we feel that a dollar value should not be placed upon a human life. well-mea- notice-experienc- e, 2. "Your babys awful- dark! Is he from Africa?" No. But if he were would it make a difference in the way he was treated? We hope not! A baby is a baby, beautiful. . period! 3. "My, he sounds just like an American baby! Of course he does! What did you expect him to do, gurgle in Hindu? 4. "Ill bet he just loves spicy food. Isn't that what they feed them in India? He likes regular, plain old formula. A babys tastes are developed; he isn't born with them. 5. How wonderful you are to take this poor little orphan and raise it as your own! (A real blood ly boiler) And were not wonderful. We needed the baby far more than he needed us. 6. Im sure that youll come to love him after you get used to him." Listen, we loved him from the moment we heard about him. I spent many sleepless nights worrying; is my baby hungry, wet, sick? One of the hardest things about adoption has to be knowing that you have a baby, but that you cant touch it, or see it or hold it. When adopted babies arrive, their very scream and smile is appreciated. Sleepless nights spent holding your baby are much better than spending them with your arms empty! 7. Hes so beautiful! How could his mother not want him? She probably did. But she was smart enough to realize that she couldnt care for him. What better way to prove her love than to give him to someone who could? Although I have focused mainly on the Dont, there are many Do's also; He is our own! Medical Society 1. Treat the baby as you would any biological child of the parents. 2. Do comment if you think the baby bears a resemblance to his family. My mother has a wonderful friend who has two sons. One natural, the other adopted. The adopted son looks exactly like her and is very dark, while the natural son is blonde. 3. Be supportive and accept the child. Isnt it time that prejudice was put where it belongs (on the shelf). We are all God's children, regardless of color or race. There is far too much hatred and ugliness in the world already without allowing prejudice to rear its ugly head. It is time that something was done to stop the horrible things that happen. For example, were you aware that over children a in starvation of die day India alone? Its inexcusable. While hundreds of couples sign up and wait and wait and wait for white, blond, blue-eye- d babies, thousands of dark, little brown babies die. Is this right? 4. And most important, always remember that adoptive parents forget their children are even adopted. And bear in mind that they may not care to If we can help any ents, please be reminded. prospective adoptive par- - to call us! 1 dont hesitate cjpnorrjincjT OTcaa 52 West Mein Mt. Pleasent Wrangler Boys School Clothes Jeans & Shirts 0'S ftsfiiacetiteat Safe! honors specialists Members of the Skyline Medical Society gathered recently in Provo to host an appreciation dinner for the medical specialists in the Provo, Payson, and Salt Lake City areas who have referral relationships with Sanpete Valley physicians. Speaking at the dinner. p p p pA p p m p p p ala p pm p p p p p p pA A p p m p p p J p p p Dr. Bruce Burnham, MD President of the Skyline Medical Society, expres- sed the appreciation of the group for this profesWhen sional assistance. we must refer patients to specialists, they often are concerned about physiwhom cians they may not know. They often say, I want the best. We are confident that you are the best, Dr. Burnham told the assembled physicians. physicians and their wives attended the dinper-- . Medical specialties represented included: radiology, orthopedic surgery, general surgery, neurosurgery, urology, ear, nose, and throat, cardiology, gastroenterology, pediatrics, pediatric surgery, dermatology, thoracic and vascular surgery, obstetrics-gynecolog- in- y, ternal medicine, ophthalmology, and neurology. Medical is comprised of physicians from Mt. Pleasant, Ephraim and Manti. All are members of the medical staff of Sanpete Valley Hospital, Mt. Pleasant. 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