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Show Standard-Examuner HORIZONS It's 6 p.m., and we're waiting for our 12-year-old son, Rob. to return from a son’s tiny hand squeezed ourfinger But the cine of vulnerabili ly didn’t quick bike ride. We're going to go out to pp © celebrate the fact that, for the away. It only got worse, always ierkiie inside, forcing me to accept that I wasn't in Right here, on the roadside. My heart breaks for these parents. I don’t knowthat ty Consecutive night, we havefigured control any more, not when I knew my I could survive it We're locking up the house when a young man comes to the door and asks if because of unpredictable, uncontrollable developments on this newborn comet, sight wehavea There's son. been zooming through. When he was happy, 1 was out of the car toward Rob. He’s moving his right hand. He's waving at me. He's reassure me. “It’s my fault,” he’s saying. “I’m sorry wang Gia i SP ee. e : It's my fault.” “It's OK!” I'msaying. “It's OK!” Please let it be OK “I’m sorry,” the bloody-dress woman is saying. “I’m so sorry.” She was driving the car that collided with Rob. He went through the windshield, then was thrown back out onto the road, 40feet, according to the ambulance guys. “This is my worst nightmare,” the woman is saying. “I'm sorry,” Rob is saying. “It’s OK!” I'm saying. “You're going to be OK!” eee, iE ORRNMMONCRIE m (ACOIRRNRI seme: 888OS TARRAGONA NEG CEL Yl Out an excuse to not cook at home. le, an accident,” he says. “Is it bad?” Beth asks he crying?” The nurse said sometimes they don’t cry, but I could see that the doctor “There’s blood everywhere,” he says. *_*s universe could be trashed at any moment Sometimes I wonder if parenthood is such a good idea. Sometimes I envy fish and frogs and lobsters and other animals that just emit their young in egg form, then swim or hop or lobster-scoot away from the scene, free of responsibility, immune from anguish. I can remember when there was nobody in my world as important to meas me. Oh, I lovedother people — my wife, my family, my friends — and 1] would have been distraught if something bad happened to them. But I knewId still be here. And that was the really important thing. Rob changed that. Right at birth. When he came out, looking like a cranky old prune, he didn’t cry. Beth, instantly a mom, kept saying, through her haze of labor pain, “Whyisn’t he crying? Why isn’t n. re SE ny r- Q. Please set my motherstraight on mammograms. She just turned 50 and says she doesn’t need an annual exam because “she’s still too young.” IN YOUR A. Two-thirds ofall breast can- Bard Lindeman PRIME has blood on her dress, a lot of blood — and lying in front of her, on his back, his face covered with bloodis ... years.” Further, any woman having an exam should choosea clinic or hospital with machines that are used only for mammograms, and she should ask if the machines are frequently calibrated. After all, the last thing any woman wants is a false positive result — or perish the thought, a “false negative” followed by unnecessarysurgery. Bottom line: Read, ask questions, read some more, and be aggressive as your own best doctor. For information about an accredited testing facility near you, call the Cancer Information Service: (800) 422-6237. my best times was during our campaign to increase public awareness on this issue (the magazine gave out donor cards). There currently are 23,533 people on waitinglists for kidney transplants and, according to the United Network for Organ Sharing (Richmond, Va.), an estimated one-in-three people who need life-giving organs will die while waiting. PRIME NOTES:The quoteofthe week belongs to Dr. Lorraine Hale, 53, pyschoanalyst and sociologist, ceeds $100,000 a year should NOT receive Social Security benefits.” Note: 99,744 readers took part in the survey (there were four questions in all) and one respondent, in particular, caught the spirit. “Fat cats like myself should not get any more raises,” declared Robert Arnold of Glastonbury, Conn. “I'd gladly return the past two or three increases, and I know manyothers who would do the same.” who, on explaining what turning 50 Of course, what we’re talking means, states: “I became an adult in my 50s. I became responsible for who I am, for what I do, for what I say. And, I’m laying plans. Your 50s are a wonderful time to make plans.” ... Why don’t people exercise? One of the wildest excusesreported in Physician and Sportsmedicine goes: “I don’t want to give my mother-in-law thesatisfaction of saying how I’m taking about is deficit reduction — and yes, time is running out for the United States. We no longer canafford Medicare Millionaires and Social Security Spongers, not while 37 million Americans have no health insurance, while our schools, brid- ite those of us who earn $100,000 or ges and roads are falling apart, more should not be collecting Social Security. Where do you get such harebrained ideas? A. You, sir, would be amazed at while the homeless inhabit our downtowns and drug dealers and gun merchants own too manyof our city streets. And definitely not she how manyright-thinking Ameri- while long-term care for our old- cans have reached this very same conclusion. Not long ago, Parade magazine invited readers to speak out on the issue, and 77 percent agreed “a retiree whose income ex- est-old remains a hope and a dream. care of myself.” ... “Setting a good example for your children,” explains comedian Henny Youngman, “takes all the fun out of middle age.” ... A reader writes ask- Q. Can someone older than 50 ing for a definition of “entitlement.” Martha A. McSteen, of the or 55 actually be an organ donor? A. Yes, provided that the do- Committee to Preserve Social Secu- © | Tembiors are not tremblers © one ‘ i. Ht ssi dheTha Hi . Q. About that question on the meaning of “parabellum,” which you couldn't answer — Many, many members of the National Rifle Association, and some others. A. Wow. Although a number of the writers were kindly and generous. others weren't. I sensed that, if the NRA could revoke citizenships, I would today be a man without a country, probably posthumously. Among the morekindly and authoritative answers wasthat of Les S., who said that a fourth-century strategist named Vegetius originated a saying commonly quoted as “Si vis pacem, para bellum,” or “If you wish peace, prepare for war,’ and that since World War I the term “parabellum” has been used to identify various forms of armament and ammunition. Ql read an article about a public figure’ s “tact” of damning someone “by skewering his ae Should “tact” be read as “tack,” was he thinking of “tactic” — or have I once again failed to under‘stand simple English? — William H A. The writer may have meant “tack,” which can mean a course oF method of action, But the skewering probably wasn't very tactful, so the inte nded word could have been ‘tactic’ as you suggested, This “question has nothing to do with the ‘discussion of * ‘parabellum.” Hon¢st. to arc his way |i 2 Me who - streakéd back from my hand will never . let go _— I'msorry. This was supposedto be¢ events. But this is how the column turned out. Next week I promise to return to Booger Journalism In closing, here's a Public Service Message for you young readers from RobBarry, who won't be walking for a while, but can still operate a keyboard * “I knowthat bike helmets lookreally nerdy, and that was my argument. but | don’t think Ill ever say that again. Make SURE you wear your helmets.” He was OK. A broken leg, some skin scraped off, a lot of stitches, but nothing that won't heal. He'll be getting out ofhis cast in a couple of months, getting on with Anti-cancer vaccines seem to work Scnpps Howard News Service rity and Medicare, answers: “An entitlement is a government service to which Americans have legal right.” For example, food stamps, Medicaid, farm price supports. ... Here’s a shameful statistic: A full set of children’s vaccines costs about $244, not counting doctor’s fees for giving the shots. Secretary of Health and Human Services Donna Shalala says: “The rising costs have led doctors to turn away increasing numbers who cannot pay.” Now, there’s a cause for the Gray Panthers to take up: children’s health. The AARP is too large, too cumbersome and unsmart to see the merits in this example of intergenerational advocacy. ... Finally, it was author James Thurber who, at 59, wrote: “With 60 staring me in the face, I have developed inflammation of the sentence structure and a definite hardening of the paragraphs.” Scientists are encouraged by experimental tailor-made vaccines that prevent recurrent melanoma — a deadly skin cancer whoseincidence has doubled during the past decade. The vaccines, being developed at Thomas Jefferson University in Philadelphia, have been 70 percent successful in protecting people who have suffered one melanoma and almost certainly will be attacked by the cancer again. Melanomas — which look like black moles — begin in the skin, then spread to other organs, nota- bly the brain, lungs andliver. If un- of two years, Jefferson researcher David Berd told the American Society of Clinical Oncologists. Berd said there is a chance breast cancer and other tumors might-be prevented. @ FINE FURNISHINGS, DRAPERIES @ CARPETING, ACCESSORIES UNIQUE GIFTS, ETC. ETC. ETC. Bard Lindeman welcomes questions from readers. Although he cannot respond to each oneindivid- ually, he will answer thoseof general interest in his column. Write to himin care of this newspaper, P.O. detected or untreated, the cancer 1s usually fatal. In a novel approach, Jefferson researchers are using individualized vaccines for each patient. Thetherapy provides a “cocktail” that includes killed cells from the patient’s first melanoma and the drugs DNP and cyclophosphamide. 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And a tremblor is nothing in the world but a misspelling. If you read an account of an earthquake that calls it a trembler or a tremblor, then you should tremble for the writer. el-boy Ss a ENTIRE STOCK He ‘ A. No, they’re not. A temblor (a But that ving bright ae g my finger Please. LUapace me Q. I have read accounts ofearthquakes that call them either “temblors” or “tremblers” or “tremblors.” Are all those words correct? — George H. ad ier f giving me a weak, bloody smile, tryingto ** De s Now I’m opening the door, stumbling ALL IN STOCK SIZES By LYDEL SIMS Scripps Howard News Service « eyed * the road, and a woman is kneeling —she tor of 50 PLUS magazine, one of Tribune Media Services Q. You have advocated that eT- ** Now Beth and I are in the car, and I’m driving too fast, but I have to; I have to see what I don’t want to see. Up ahead some people are gathered on the side of nor’s health is good. It’s a little known fact, but older Americans can become donors of skin (the largest of all organs), corneas and, in some cases, kidneys. As the edi- nN- m detail of the time when, at 10 months, he got a bad fever, 106 degrees, his tiny body burning, and | carried him intothe hospital, thinking J can't takethis, please, let me be able to stop this, please, give me this fever, take it out ofthis little boy and put it in me, please.... But you can’t do that. You can’t makeit happen to you. You have to watch it happen to your child, and it never gets any easier, does it? was trying to do something with Rob's mouth, and he was having trouble. He whispered something to the nurse and took Rob away, and the nurse kept saying this was routine, but we knew it wasn’t. I stood there, wearing my goofy hospital outfit, holding Beth's hand, trying to cope with two staggering thoughts: First, I had a child — J had a child — and second, maybe my child was in trouble. That was the most sickeningly vulnerable feeling I'd ever felt. And I didn’t even know Robyet. It turned out he was OK — just little blockage. The doctor gave him back to us, and we quickly became traditional firsttime parents, wrapped in a woozy cocoon of joy and exhaustion, taking a genuine intellectual interest in poop, marveling at the thrill we felt, the connection, when our “Oh God.” says Beth. “Oh God.” This is where it ends, for some parent An annual mammogram is a wise plan women should obtain “screening mammograms every one or two of 1iin happier than I'd ever been; but when he was in trouble I can remember every thought something was wrong, because he * cers occur in 50-plus women, and according to the National Women’s Health Network, post-menopausal he S- 4, 1993 SC HOURS: MON. THRU SAT. 9:30 a.m.-9:00 p.m. e CLOSED SUNDAY @ 4050 RIVERDALE RD., RIVERDALE @ 627-6228 @ 717 N. 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