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Show Salt Lake Tibune Diz THEE MIX Friday. November 14, 2008 In the arenaofromance,play at nothing — just be yourself what? He finds out who you really are? Or youfakeit 24-5? (You will need twodays off, if you are faking.) Or some squabble-filled blend of the two? Plus, by assuming analtered identity, you are declaring that you don't believe your personality is attractive as-is. I don't know anyone confident enough to undermine herself that way ind still come out feeling good Besides, not attracting people in high school often means you have done something right So. That middle road. Whatever you do, don’t travel it just Dear Carolyn: You said ently that “good is someon who Is eager to Make tn you.” Here, then, is m3 tion: As a confident, extrovertes ~ollege freshman witha lo ng for me, should | pursue t | want, or make them ¢ me? I am not good at playing hard-to-get or being girly company grew up with the a 1and-me-downs la apt boys CAROLYN HAx of : k st in me breaks 1 io you feel about | but that’s just my little eve. More important, playing 1es the plaver that would be you s well as the person you play with ibout pl ving the know there's a mid here. I just need he Dear L.A., CA: My reac! Ik someoneyoulike andfeel good about, and from therethe right kindofattention fromtheright kindofpeople will follow. It’s true, | swear; I'mnot just sniffing rainbows Specifically if youfeel you are more feminine than yourupbringing allowed, explore that y when you | eitherfail ind end up looking like a tom oy in drag, or, worse, you will ed and find s me guy who that tare coy. Then ire not, laying the coquette niddle some Pretend to be to attract guys. Do it to become else and yot Not bygrabbing the nearest ste reotype and wearing it to a party, but by looking aroundandnoticing there are as manyinterpreta tions of femininity as there are women. Be patient, be judicious, be yourself, and find yours. Andin the meantime, treat boooyvyyys as you wouldtreat anyone: Approach them when youare interested, andthen give them roomto respond. Some will, most won't, somehurt, most don’t — and that is truefor nore them. Is that true? Mike Dear Mike: These friends wouldn't by any chance spend inordinate quantities of time making excuses not to go home to their wives and girlfriends, would they? Try spendingtime with women you find interesting, ver sus attractive, and asfriends first. versus as dates, and see if you develop chemistry that kicks in at six months, versus sputtering out bythen. It is also possible you arenot readyto be, or meant to be, monogamous; nothing wrong withthat. Carolyn Hax’s “Tell Me About It” column runs Mondays, Wednesdays andFridays. You can e-mail Carolynat tellme@ washpost.comorwrite: “Tell Me About It,” c/o The Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071. everyone, even coquettes. Dear Carolyn: | amdating the greatest girl I have ever been with, but I amstarting to get sick of her. In everysingle relationship, after about six months I get sick of them, no matter howhappyI am. What is wrong with me and howcan I make these feelings go away?I have been told byfriends that these feelings go awayif you just ig- UU Extended thru November 30 CANCUN fare HOMEMADE WN Dine In-Take Out 885 E. Buy oneplatter and receive 3900S. . 269-1177 1891 E. Fort Union - 942 50%off Best of City Search 2003 on your second platter Specializing in Mandarin Cuisine Utah's Best Hot & Sour Soup! Exp. 11/30/03 2115 E. 2100 S. 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