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Show t I Living Page 4B South Edition Lakeside Review R Wednesday, November 9, 1983 Rain or Shine '"V Kids Antics Real; Moms Can Relate V i Review Correspondent Do your kids really do all those things you write about?" HENRY AND WYNONA WILSON Whenever someone asks me that, I automatically know she either hasnt got any children, or she has got children, but theyre no longer kids, and shes forgotten that they ever were. I dont think any mother who is currently up to her neck in pampers, peanut d blue butter and jeans could read questions like the following without wondering who managed to eaves drop on her daily routine without being seen: How is it that whenever Im up to my elbows in bread dough, my son suddenly has to go, and cant get his jeans unzipped? Why is it that my toddler always manges to dump out a whole box of Rice s when company is coming in five minutes and the vacuum belt is broken? How is it that my only remembers that its library day when theres just time enough to call me from the school and say her books are still at home? Why is it that my oldest daughter only has homework when I need help with the housework? Henry and Wynona Wilson of 290 Marilyn Drive, Clearfield, will be honored Saturday, Nov. 12, with a family-hoste- d open house to commemorate their 50th wedding anniversary. The Wilsons will greet friends and relatives from 3 to 6 p.m. in the Clearfield First LDS Ward cultural hall, 326 Center Street. It is requested that gifts be omit- Lake City to Clearfield in 1943 where Wilson was g as a printing and contractor until he retired in paper-hangin- 1978. They are active members of the Clearfield First LDS Ward and have served in various leadership capacities there. Both are serving as workers in the Ogden LDS Temple for the past ted. eight years. They are the parents of eight, They were married Nov. 10, 1933, in the Salt Lake LDS children, Dennis H. Wilson, Temple. Layton; Dale C. Wilson, MorWilson was born April 17, gan; Larry C. Wilson, Morgan; 1907, in Salt Lake City, a son of Colleen Gordon, Erd , Melvin Matthew H. and Rebecca Wil- C. Wilson, Bountifjl; Naoma son. McGuire, Salt Lake City; David Mrs. Wilson was born July 4, C. Wilson, Ogden; Renee Warn1909, in Aurora, Utah, a daugher, Roy. ter of Wallace and Amanda CurThey have 44 grandchildren, tis. two and' The Wilsons moved from Salt three Why is it that the shoes on sale in the kids department are always one size too small for any child of mine who needs a new pair? How is it that a kid who can hear a candy wrapper rustle from any room in the house can not hear a single thing when Im giving him a job description face to face? Why is it that out of 15 loose white socks in the laundry, only the two with the holes in the heels turn out to be mates? Kris-pie- Why is it that a child who would eat burnt toast, if it had peanut butter on it, will not eat bread crusts spread with Skippy, Peter Pan, or Jiff? How is it that after all of the questions above have twisted through my brain with the intensity of a tornado, my can give me a giant kiss that tastes like strawberry jam, and suddenly motherhood seems red-hair- How is it that the sheets on my sonss beds could ri ed like such a breeze? Learning Your Rights Class Helps Build Assertive Persons BETTY FLEISHMAN er to express the impact it has on him and, at the same time, Assertion is recognizing that leave the responsibility for modyou have a right to express your ifying the behavior with the perown wants, needs, feelings and son who demonstrated that ideas and doing so without departicular behavior, said Mrs. nying, interfering with, or violatChatlin. ing the rights of others. An I message consists of Thus begins a course in asserthree parts:' 1.) The specific betiveness training which was of- havior, 2.) The resulting feeling fered this fall by the Davis you experienced because of the County Mental Health Center, behavior, and 3.) The tangible and held in both Bountiful and efTect on you. Thus a teacher Layton. might say to a student: When The class was taught by Conyou tip on your desk with your nie Chatlin. pencil, I feel upset because I get Its important to note, Mrs. distracted and have difficulty Chatlin told the class, that we teaching. may be assertive at work, and Mrs. Chatlin said a wife might aggressive or passive at home or say to her husband: When I try we may be passive at work and to help you and you dont say assertive at home. We tend to anything, I feel confused because I dont know how you feel about reshape our personality according to the situation. my help. Note the I feel, rath-- , Assertive people use I feel er than, you make me feel. I messages. They dont use intimimessages build relationdation or try to manipulate the ships and equally importantly, other person into feeling bad said Mrs. Chatlin. They do not about themselves. Mrs. Chatlin place the sender in the position continued. of enforcing a new behavior, as Most of the messages we send is frequently the case with the to people about their behavior you messages. are your messages, messages that In attempting to work out the are directed at the other person problem, it is the responsibility and have a high probability of of the second person to listen putting them down, making and try to understand the other them feel guilty, making them persons point of view, said Mrs. feel their needs are not imporChatlin. tant, and generally making them Some people, when feeling critresist change. icized, fail to really listen to Examples of you messages whafs being said. If we autoare usually orders of commands, matically put ourselves on the Stop doing that! Get into the defensive and begin hurling accar! Or blaming or name calling cusations when someone exstatements, You are a baby! presses hurt or anger, we both You are driving me crazy! lose. An I message, on the other According to Mrs. Chatlin peohand, allows a person who is af- ple we can help the situation by fected by the behavior of anoth stopping, putting a halt to their Review Correspondent , - , automatic response, and hearing other person out. If they cloud the problem by putting their own interpretation on his statements, everything will be blown out of proportion. Mrs. Chatlin said dont magnify, and dont over generalize. Keep in mind that criticism is not always valid. The person criticizing sees things from his point of view, according to his past experience. Assertively coping with criticism means maintaining your self esteem by giving yourself permission to make mistakes. ' The class was reminded that people have the right to say no to any request. You deny your own importance if you say yes, when you really mean no, said Mrs. Chatlin. You demonstrate that the other persons needs are more important than your own, she added. Mrs. Chatlin said, when people say no they shouldnt make excuses for their refusal. This gives the signal that you doubt their own conviction and are open to being convinced. There are many irrational beliefs connected with the refusal to be assertive said Mrs. Chatlin. Following are some important ones, as taught by her: Irrational belief 1: If I assert myself, others will get mad at angry with me, I will be devastated. It will be awful. Rational counterpart to 2: A. Even if others do become angry and unpleasant, I am capable of handling it without falling apart. B. If I assert myself when it is appropriate, I dont have to feel responsible for the other persons anger. It may be his ithe . v USU Extension home economist, will demonstrate Yule Logs. This will include a chicken filling and a sweet filling for jelly rolls, and also some fun ways to decorate them for the me. Rational counterpart to 1: If assert myself, the effects may be positive, neutral, or negative. However, since assertion involves legitimate rights, I feel that the odds are in my favor to have a positive result. Irrational belief 2: If I assert myself and people do become I holidays. At 11:30 a.m., Alene Macfar lane will demonstrate, Christ- mas Centerpieces and Decorations. Jill Holbrook will demonstrate How to Dough It This Christmas" at p.m. She will show how to make Christmas breads 1 and salt dough figures. At 2 p.m., Yetta Burrell will demonstrate No Cook Candies. These are easy recipes that require little or no cooking. In eluded will be chocolate truffles, carmel chews, candy bars, white velvet fudge, etc. V;: tY' ft 'W ... , - , '! " . ! : . r;: , & 1. . 4 m , f There will also be a display of inexpensive Christmas gifts and available extension bulletins. The schedule will be the same for both days, so participants may pick the day that is best for them. , - r t ; i i MR. AND MRS. MICHAEL REMY T emple Was Site Of Remy Wedding BOUNTIFUL Mr. and Mrs. Robert Stringham of 1073 N. 200 W Bountiful, announce the marriage of their daughter Marian Stringham to Michael D. Remy. The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Dennis G. Remy of 4607 S. 2325 W., Roy. The ceremony was performed Friday, Nov. 4 at the Salt Lake LDS Temple. Reception guests were greeted at the Rock Chapel, 275 North Main, Farmington. Serving as the brides maids of honor were Michelle Remy and Wendy Stringham. Best man was Paul Remy. The bride is a receptionist at South Davis Medical Center. She was graduated from Davis High School and attended Snow College for one year. The bridegroom is a sign constructor for Young Electric Sign in Salt Lake City. He graduated from Roy High School and LDS Seminary and has served an LDS mission to the New York Rochester LDS Mission. The couple plan to live in Bountiful following a short wedding trip. Charlie Brown Auditions Set for BCT Production BOUNTIFUL Auditions should be able to do a short for the Bountiful Community dance. Theater production of Youre A Rehearsals, Collett said, are Good Man, Charlie Brown are scheduled for Tuesday, Wednesscheduled for Thursday, Nov. 10 day and Thursday evenings and from 7 to 9 p.m. at 1351 East Saturday mornings. Millbrook Way, Bountiful. Performances, he said, will be Dan Collett, play director, 19, 20, 21, 23, 26, 27, January said that those who wish to au- 28 and 30 with matinees on Jandition should be at least 16 years 21 and 28. old and be prepared to sing a uary vocal number of their choice For further information about and read a few lines from the auditions, call Dan Collett at play. In addition, he added, they 263-101- Extension Plans on Open House FARMINGTON November 15 and 16 are the dates for the third annual extension holiday open house. The open house will be held at the Utah State University extension office (sheriffs annex) in Farmington. Demonstrations will start at 9:30 a.m. Judy Starkey, USU Extension home economist, will teach you how to manage your time during the holidays with her demonstration, Twas the Month Before Christmas. At 10 a.m., Teresa Cooley, if d, pint-size- Couple Celebrate Golden Anniversary ' V., val the Sahara when it comes to shifting sand? Why is it that beverage glassses filled with water are so much more stable at the dinner table than those containing grape juice, lime Kool-Aior orange soda? How is it that my precocious baby only sings the national anthem for people who have left the room? SHAROL STEELE , tfd 4 'v 1. |
