Show 10A Standard-Examin- er Monday September 26 1988 Horizons Adoptee found ‘real’ parents the day they found her DEAR AB8Y: I will never forget a let-- ! ter you had in your column from a I young adopted woman who asked you how to go about finding her “real” parents 1 recall reacting very strongly to that ' letter because I was also adopted — a fact that I have known all my life I can’t remember when I first found out because Mom and Dad told me as soon n as I was able to understand what meant They told me that I was a I very special child — that they had their choice of babies and I was the one they adop-'i'tio- chose When I was a kid I used to brag about it because I felt so “special” Now I realize that my parents may have gone Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren Universal Press Syndicate overboard but they didn’t want me to feel insecure or inferior to my friends who were being raised by their biological parents Because I've never made a secret of the fact that I was adopted I’ve had people ask me if I know who my “real” parents are I simply reply “I know who my real parents are They are the people who fed me clothed me and taught me take First-grade- rs EUGENE Ore (AP) — On the first day of school in Lily e class there Ota's were passport photos to be shot luggage to be packed and visas to be stamped DEAR ABBY: This is for all adopted right from wrong They are the ones who sat up with me all night when I was sick (or step) children who insist on using the and waited up for me when I stayed out term “real” mother or father later than I should have They paid for I married a divorced woman who had my education and convinced me that I two small daughters by a previous marcould be whatever I wanted to be I owe riage I adopted these little girls and them more than I can ever repay” gladly I had never been married and I’m married now and I have children could not have loved my own flesh and of my own which makes me appreciate blood more Their biological father did my parents even more because I know nothing for them He ignored his legal how hard it is to be a patient underobligation to pay child support and for standing parent So why should I go years he never sent them a birthday gift searching for my “real” parents? I found or a Christmas card However he did come into their lives just a few years them the day they found me — ADOPTED IN ILLINOIS ago full of remorse and begging forgiveness for having been such a lousy father DEAR ADOPTED: Unfortunately not ’all those years all adopted children share your beautiful generous attitude Read on: Abby I sent both these girls to college ‘trip’ to Japan m A school goal is to introduce students to Japanese customs and that includes the one that prohibits wearing footwear inendoors As the tered the room they were told to take off their shoes and put on their slippers gested A black or two-pare- nt single- female family is desired There should be structure a consistent environment and a sense of hu- - The school is modeled after the Eugene School District’s Meadowlark Bilingual (Spanish) and French Immersion schools where students spend roughly half of their class time studying those cultures’ language people and customs make-believ- case Brittany Nolan packed what looked like a fifth of whiskey It was in fact a large bottle of perfume she insisted A photo- - By GEORGE LECKY Those beloved rable jeans can dents perceive researchers have comfortable duaffect how stuteachers Ohio found school students perceive female teachers based on how the teachers dressed “You might anticipate that a teacher in a suit would get the most respect but my research doesn't show that" said Sara Butler associate professor of home economics and consumer sciences at Miami “Students said they ' had no more respect for a suited teacher than one in jeans" Butler and a former graduate student Kathy Rocscl questioned 201 high school students in Cincinnati The Students 157 girls and 44 boys were asked to examine four color pictures show 7: Teresa mor Teresa should be the younif possible and contact with siblings is recommended Adoption subsidy is gest or only child : available For further information contact The Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchange in Salt Lake City NOW 399-4S4- S NEW MEMBERS GUARANTEED RESULTS! Be A Winner Associated Press Lily Ota offers her students a passport and tickets for a happy Eric Enright packing no fewer cameras Hannah would take along a decided on than four Klausman dog And Tiffany Boehland wasn’t going to leave home without her traveler’s checks several hot dogs and some strawberry shortcake make-believ- with passports and tickets in hand the students returned to class to find their desks rearranged to resemble seats in a Japan Air Lines jet Flight attendants who included three of the students’ mothers took tickets and inspected passports and the students began their nine-ho“flight” to Tokyo ur After lunch all packed and ing models from the neck down was seen as possessing the image One was a teacher wearing a oxford cloth shirt d and jeans The second was a teacher in dark corduroy slacks and coordinating ski sweater The third was a teacher wearing a seen as unapproachable not especially fun and an authority figure long-sleeve- long-sleeve- A study at Miami University in Ohio looked into the way high i BRING THIS COUPON FOR A BIG DISCOUNT SALEH OCT COAL Lose 20 lbs 30 inches One Month trip to Japan e Swimming Nourilus Slim Trim Classes Diet Cenrer Free Boby Sifting Low Impact Aerobics There was a stopover (afternoon recess) and even a midflight movie — a children’s video produced by Japanese public television Everyone landed safely and happily including a pair of students who had started the day in tears Fortunately two of Ota’s classroom assistants were at the ready to provide comfort and assurances Morris-A- sk tan and black d striped dress The fourth was a teacher wearing a navy skirted suit and white blouse The students were asked to rate the models on perceived knowledge respect and overall acceptability “The teacher in jeans was generally viewed as fun approachable not especially knowledgeable not looking like a teacher and generally preferable" Butler said The same teacher was also seen as the least fair when it came to grades she said speculating that the students suspected this teacher of playing favorites "In contrast the suited teacher of a teacher but was the teacher students preferred not to have” Butler said “This teacher was who assigns homework" Donnie Size 20 Now Size 9 Rmdy 5ize 18 Now Size 9 Debbie Size 16 Now Size 10 Billie Size 16 Now Size 10 Chorlene Size 20 Now Size 10 Audrey Size 22’y Now Size 8 Foster Travel Presents a FREE 7:30 29 1988 products safe for pets By DEBORAH LAWSON Knight Riddet Newspapers Butler emphasized that the study focused on the students’ first impressions “We don’t know if the (impressions) hold all through the school year” she said “I think the important thing is that teachers’ clothing does have an impact” More formal wear does help convey the image of knowledge Butler said “The most interesting part for me was that students generally Mr Be A Loser! rhereso 5ze 15 Now Size 5 cm (stoose m§m pm September Dress affects perception of teachers Lawn care Scripps Howard News Service is W Body by LI’L AUDREY’S HEALTH SPA USA 441-20t- h St OGDEN LLLAUDAEY The school's first class of students put scissors to a stack of Japanese magazines and cut pictures of items to take with them on their imaginary trip The travelers then pasted the pice suittures onto a — UNREAL FATHER Bright-eye- d and outgoing is Teresa a black teenager who was born in July 1974 Outdoor activities top her interest list but she also is fond of crocheting Potential long-tergoals include bea or social teacher coming worker as she enjoys being able to direct people She has mild cerebral palsy Teresa is conscientious about completing her school assignments and she is managing to keep up in the classroom Spelling causes her the most problems and she is receiving special help in this area Teresa can exhibit oppositional behavior and she has experienced mood changes too Trusting is not always easy for her therapy has been sug- Having barely found time to stake out their desks Ota’s 25 students at Eugene’s new Japanese Immersion School learned they would be spending their first morning preparing for an imaginary plane trip to Japan The Japanese school will add a grade each year through the fifth grade with a maximum enrollment of about 250 students anticipated by fall 1992 her-dow- A Child Waits 1 r first-grad- in style Neither one of them finished which was a big disappointment to me' The oldest girl ran off with a flake and got married That marriage lasted a year Well she is being married again and this time she is going to have a lovely church wedding Can you imagine how I felt when this girl informed me that she wanted her “real” father to walk - T the aisle! Well all I can say is I am about as “real” as I’m ever going to get I’m signing my real name to validate this letter but if you publish the letter in your col- umn please withhold my name Every-- ” one who knows me is aware of la- beled the teacher in jeans not very knowledgeable yet that is the person they’d rather have sacrificing knowledge for fun” Butler said The Miami study will be published in the Clothing and Tex- tiles Research Journal next Pet owners concerned about the danger to animals and people from chemicals used for lawn and garden Care may be in- terested in Ringer lawn and garden products Pets The company offers a catalog of products made from natural substances For example their herbicide is a blend of fatty acids It is biodegradable and contains no petrochemicals 24-pa- full-col- gc or non-selecti- For information write to Ringer 9959 Valley View Road Eden Prairie Minn 55344 Phone: summer she said BUSINESS SUITS TIES CUSTOM CLEANED JUST LIKE NEW! 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