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Show NEWS, TUESDAY, MARCH 26, 1974 DESERET week to pay tribute to foster parents A J Bob and Audreys - rcpport with teens Then along came Jerry Jerry won the hearts of Bob and Audrey Rushton. He was just like a younger brother and someone they wanted to give a chance to succeed To just help him out for a short while in a shelter situation was not enough They wanted him to be a part of the family. So they applied to be fos- By Rose Mary Pedersen Deseret Nws staff wnter Jerry is 15. His Mum is 21 His Dad is 25 When they sit down together to discuss motorcycles or rock, they talk each other's language. There's no generation gap at all. Jerry (not his real name) is the foster child of Mr. and Mrs Robert Rushton. The Rushtons, who like to wear jeans just like their son, are involved with a special section of the local foster parent program a section that teams up young mameds and teen-agchildren e The innovative program operates under the auspices of the Itah Division of Family Services and has been going, on lor nearly two years now. At first, sceptics shook their heads and doubted it would succeed But, in most cases, it has. For instance, consider the case of the Rushtons Theyve been foster for about two months now Before that, they were on the lota! shelter parent list, taking kids in trouble under teens who other-.wis- e their wing would have had to stay at the Detention Center They got on the shelter list because they felt they wanted to do something to help others Life, for them, just had to be more than a d expenence So Detention Center personnel began bringing them teensome who had been agers some who caught stealing were familiar with the drug some who came scene . . from broken homes i The kids stayed untd it was time for their court hearings, or until things were patched-uat home p terparents. He came to us with just the clothes on his back he didnt have another thing to call his own, recalls Audrey, who is originally from New ... v ,.s , ah ...k v' But Mrs Andrews is above all a loving woman, ana second to that a practical But I have somewoman and so she adds thing these kids want and need Four foster children, all of them emotionaldisturbed little boys, share her modest home on Highland Dn e Over the last H years theie have been four times as many more foster children plus four of her own, one child she anil tu r husboiid adopted, and four ur five who adopt- York ly Yoj could tell he'd had a rough time and had been shuffled around a lot But we have been able to relate well, and we seldom have any hassle Adds Bob, a native of who works at Taylorsville Kennecott: Hes a good kid who's happy to have security and companionship And it gives us a great feeling of satisfaction to know he calls our place home This is the same story you hear from most all of the young parents involved with the program, according to Family Services personnel. In f3Ct, Wanda Clayton, who is facilitating unit manager, and Esther Burbidge, who assists her as social worker and foster parent trainer, are completely sold on the idea of teaming up young mameds and teen-ag- e children It really works. says Mrs. The enthusiasm of Burbiage these couples most of them m their twenties is beautiful to see They arent in it for the money. They couldn't be . . it doesnt pay that much. They just want to share, help, make the world a better place These aie their major goals There are ul) young couples -- $k mm, Srlf v&S i who now work with the special section of foster parents. to Mrs And, according their ratio of Burbidge, success with teens is high Very seldom do discipline she points out. Often, I think, there's a bit of hero wor-loinvolved The teens admire their young parents, think they are anything but old fogies And they want to be like them' problems anse, tank with pressure does a Be sure to spray enough to insure complete coverage of the eggs While the diazmon kills the g A Family Services look for. By Abigail Yao Burcn g Bumingham 19 pio-gra- Some, admits Mrs Burbidge, decide the program sounds too tough or that it is just not their thing But at least 25 percent of See YOUNG on Page 7 in your garden DEAR ABBY: I play cards with several different groups of women who Everyone owns a car leaves it home I always seem to be the one who has to pick up three or four women and dnve them home With fed the energy crisis, this is unfair How about a comment transportation I on moochers? CONSTANT READER DEAR CONSTANT: Next time you have all the modellers in your car, try this: Girls, this Is your chauffeur Because of the speaking. energy crisis, we must all take turns driving. Bell start Applebaum, youre adults, the oil coats the eggs and suffocates the embryos inside. Thece cannot survive without the breathing process. This spray is especially good for black cherry aphidton cherry trees, and scale that attacks lots of plants and trees. Scale is especially bad on lilacs. So dont wait, spray now before the eggs start hatching. And just a word of caution: be sure to keep all spraying matenals tightly covered and out of reach of small children secono NEXT WEEK: Planting group of vegetables. For a free copy of Fmt Spray Program for the Home Orchardist," write to GARDEN, care of the Deseret News, PO Box 1257, Salt Lake City, Utah R4110 I am a d His nonsmoking righteousness makes me just as angry as my smoke makes him SICK OF NONSMOKERS IN ONLY smoker and I enjoy has long order to survive the world todav one must learn how to give and take in If ! stnse that someone really objects to my smoking, I take mvstlf and my cigarette mto another room our children SOLVED hmk II Reorganization of the local government will be tne subject to be discussed Thursday at a the of general meeting State Womens Legislative Council of Utah The meeting will be held in the auditorium of the State Office Building, 9 30 a m Speaking Co !V untv in favor of the Government Charter V Pete of the Com- of the Mane of the Com- After the general meeting committee sess.on, wil, be held. They include Dean Health and Welfare Baxter, director of Child Welfare Services at the Utah Division of Family Services Region III, will discuss The Rights of Children Environment and Development Paul L Howard and will E Gordon Harmston speak concerning tKe Bureau cl Land Management c! are MY PROBLEM HOW ABOUT YOURS DEAR ABBA I am 26 not bad looking, have a college degree, and a very good job However, I have a 'erious problem Due to an accident I have ABBY habit he either cannot move. will control-l- et trouble controlling my not or HIM DEAR ABBY My oldest tAo children attend public school in West Los Arptdes, and also raced home to me the bathroom because of conditions m the restroom., at school Concerned Parent s letter, printed Jan 15, didn t mention restrooms in junior high school, due to knifings, fires in trashha,kets and violence ts tne nensmoker should have the same consid My youngest son attends a eratmn for the smoker, arid if the smoke bothers him, HE private school and mere are I restrooms be closed, and that teachers use the same restrooms students use The inconvenience and lack of privacy for teachers would be more than compensated for by the safer and more sanitary conditions for students The restroom conditions Theres about as much substance to your must be of great concern to argument as there is in a competent teache rs cloud of smoke. It seems to me that the only If one deliberately elects to question is "are school restpollute the air because of a rooms unsafe for teachers' If so where does that leave no restroom problems, so it is apparent that the problem can be solved if school administra0 There should be a tion wants to solve it The smokers compromise I sugge-- t that the (cache rs have been made to feel guilty should move v s .. M. 1 in 1964, after three foster children, I said no more And then my phone rang again It was Family Services and they said This one needs you. We need you She was eight and came m with a dress almost down to her ankles, and stnngy hair She reminded me a lot of what I musl have looked like when 1 was a little girl She was pitiful She couldnt say anything and she didn t know how to play with the other kids. Two weeks later I called Family Services and said I wanted to adopt her She touched my heart, I guess Mrs. Andrews thanks Lehi, her hometown, for giving her the empathy to know what these kids need It is not exactly a compliment se Have you ever gone to school for one whole year in the same dress Then youd know what it means not to be accepted " Mrs Andrews tries to tach her foster chilShe also stresses self control and a respect for dren self-estee- other's properly One day she came home to find the boys throwing sticks of butter out the window at p isstng cars "I try to teach them that we have what we take care of, and if we fail to take care of what we possess, we go without Wc managed one whole month eating dry bread Two of Mrs Andrews own children also live at home lake their parents, they must put up with hair curlers down the bathtub drain, an occasional broken window, and crowded bedrooms that also serve as storage places for cans of wheat and rice. I love order, but this is the contusion I live in," says Mrs. Andrews. But its a home. 1 heres a heart beat bladder During the daytime I control it by going to the restroom often but I cannot control it at night Because of my bed wetting, 1 probably never 'ill marry unless I find a girl who has the same pioblem It isn t easv to find such a girl because she piobably would be too embarrassed to admit it flow can I my aae who If problem you, we could meet girls about also have this thiy wrote to correspond not to rush into marriage, I would be very cautious and be ure we loved each other first Thank vou I promise DEAR WANTS: Instead of looking for a girl with the same problem, look for a girl who qualifies in every other way, then deal with the problem later. A possible solution is the wet alarm, which awakens you during the night and helps you to keep dry. Another, twin bed,. DEAR I ain a girl who is considered quite popular (I am not bragging, but people tell me I am very pretty, and I know I have a good figure ) 1G ABBY don't feel obligated to give fellow his hard-earne- a d moneys worth. You may know when to stop, but he may Insist on calling the signals. CONFIDENTIAL TO Better start looking around for another Job. From too much Yes Sir, No Sir, a nun can eet an LI sir. J.W G.: year-ol- d My problem is that I dont want to damage my reputation. whirh is bkay, but its getting tougher to keep it that way You st when a fellow bikes me to a show or some place nice and spends Ins miney on me I feel that I cant turn him down when he wants to park and make out Vou II teel belter Problems you set it oft your cSejt For a personal reply, write to Abby, co Deseret News, P 0 Box US7. Salt Lake City. Utah Enclose (4110 stamped, envelope, please if I aw to For Abby's booklet, send Have a Lovely Wedding, St to Abigail Vi.n Buren, co Deseret News, P O Box 1JS7, Salt Lake City, Utah 04110 i hard-tame- I dont go too far, Abby, but afterwards I feel so cheap Is this wmng when I know when CANDY to stop DEAR CANDY: When a fellow asks you out, all he is entitled to is your company. And unless you want to risk your J hard-earne- d reputation, A O V t R T I S t WENT GET RID OF UGLY FAT Fnjoy eating the foods you choose e while you excess ugly fat X 11 Reducing Plan can help you slim down 11 is a tiny tablet, easily swallowed that combines ingredients to combat hunger, appease appet te, supplement vitam rs No dangerous drugs No strenuous exercise Over 500 million ot X 11 tablets used a!! over America Company founded in 1923 X 11 Re ouemg Plan costs $3 latge economy size $5 Oct X 11 now Your money refunded by your druggist if you don t lose pounds no questions asked - - DELUXE NAUGAHYDE SOFA! WANTS TO MARRY 50-5- finance Proposition Two Lending of State Credit for Industrial Development will be the topic of Ron Swenson, vice president of Tracy Collins Bank and Trust Company Education Contract negotiations will be discussed by a panel of educators including William L Hutchinson of the Granite School DiMnct, A .1 Limb director of In-er- Whan you need APPLIANCE SERVICE On review: pros, cons of government reorganization local Although Mrs Andrews is pioud of such successes, she is the first to admit that there have been times when she has had second thoughts about being a foster parent DEAR SICK: first! smoking Smoking been one of lifes pleasures, and to deny it is absurd In long enough, and it time the nonsmokers learned to cope w h a smoke-fillesociety Mrs alphabetically. DEAR ABBY Its high tune you published something in defence of smokers modernized plan tor will be government, Grundfossen, chairman County Reorganization mission Discussing the cons matter will be Mrs Bagiev, also a member County Reorganization mission There was this voice on the other end ironi Family Services and ht " introduction was Hie first thing 1 want to tell you, Mrs Andrews, is that our agency doesnt usually work this way The woman told Mrs Andrews that there was a girl in her offire who was pleading to be sent to live with Mrs Andrews, whom she km w through an aunt I told her If that child wants to come into my horn- - let her come into my home. " The girl a sophomore at East High, had a report card with a T) an F and the rest hs She had been put into foster homes already, but they didnt work out Three years later she graduated from Last with a B average jt Mrs. Katherine Andrews: dry breed and other lessons of love. The transportation moochers' Do not drain the tank completely while spraying, he cautioned, Decause you may get down to where there will be just od, and this will bum the trees. weather Mix the oil and diazmon with water, follow mg directions on the package for correct proportions. (Dormant spray oil is a refmed oil for this purpose, and may be purchased at nursenee or garden centers ) These spray matenals are safer to use in home orchards than some of the others, and also can be purchased m smaller amounts. Commercial orchard growers use stronger sprays that last longer and come m larger amounts. Od doesnt mix too well with water, so good agitation is necessary if youre using a hose attachment on a drum, That adds up to somewhere aiound SO, and there probably w ill be nmre Mrs Andrews 6 is one ot 44 fos'er parents in Salt Lake County Because of her years of experience wath emotionally dis turbed children, she was one of the first chosen as a specialized treatment parent m a program begun in Her involvement in the foster parent began in I960 with the first in a succession of what she calls "cray phone calls that have changed her life When these qualities are found, the young couple go through an orientation session learning what is expected what help they can get from Family Services, what emotions teens coming mto fostei care usually have for the good without preaching to them. Of course, not all men and women in their twenties have the qualifications to be mother and father to a teen There are specific things Marepresentatives turity . . . people who like themselves and know who they are and where they are couples who are going neither permissive nor rigid young men and women Its an excellent chance to who have confidence influence these foster children Controlling garden insects starts early , ui the season However, spray shouldnt be applied if freezing weather is anticipated within a day or two," advised Melvin S. Bumingham, Utah State University area wanner for Wait horticulturist ed me W4 p better job. The purpose for spraying at this time is to kill eggs and overwintering adult insects, such as spider mites, scale, aphids Because apneots bloom so early, they should be sprayed with diazmon immediately after the blossoms fall All other fruit trees, and any shade trees needing it should be sprayed now, just before color shows in the buds. P Robert Rushton, left, ond his wife, Audrey, have fun talking about motorcycles with "son", Jerry. The Rushtons are young foster parents. Deseret News staff wnter In fact, nght now is the time to apply delayed dormant spray od and diazmon to all fruit trees, except apn-cot- s w vl cylinder-typ- e I 4 By Lillie Robertson Mr. wnter l.n A" ' v The easy chairs have lost some of their case, and the sofa, too, has seen better days Sitting m her living room, Kathenne Andrews reflects that shes never had fancy furniture or rugs, although there have times, she admits, when she has wanted them yi iShf - v-rsrrv "TT" Elaine Jarvik Deseret News staff from early spraying explained iA . . . . 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