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Show paqjmtpKSfm WIVES OF THE POLICE CHIEFS hk'Y 'Y '" ' "SVV,'V - They're Proud Of Their Men By ROSE MARY PEDERSEN Deseret News Staff Writer When youre the wife of a police chief, your days are filled with a variety of emotions pride excitement . enthusiasm wor. . cold, dark fear. ry . . . . . . .. . And you have to learn how to live and cope with all cf them if you want to be a real if helpmate to your husband you want to be the kind of wife every man in needs. This is the opinion of Mrs. j. Earl Jones, wife of Salt Lake Citys chief of police, and Mrs. Edward M. Davis, whose husband heads the Los Angeles Police Department. the During an interview other morning, the two women exchanged ideas about the law enforcement profession and how it affects family life. (Their husbands were in meetings attending the 79th annual conference of the International Association of Chiefs of Police, being held at the Salt Palace this week.) deeply-involve- Said Mrs. Davis: Ed has been in police work ever since we first were married 32 years ago. And over those years Ive worried a lot about him. I guess worry is the curse cast upon every policemans wife. And By MARTHA PATTON DEAR MRS. PATTON: My husband and i have been married for 22 years and have four children at home. He wont buy life insurance. Can I insure his life without h is knowledge? insur-ancLife ; 1 e requires signature A' of the insured Martha and medical data on the insured . the In addition, married 22 Patton if youve been years, chances are ' ' s '" s 'S' 'Ns By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN TO "I COlLD WRITE A BOOK. IN You did. And the next time you cry over spilt milk, please condense it. CONFIDENTIAL YAKIMA: subjects. The problem is not that I was antago- rized by this young womans extreme rude- ness, but my husbands organization holds many social when you're the wfe a and Mrs. J. Earl Jones discuss the of and there are tears There are smiles policeman. Mrs. Edward M. Davis, left, subject. added Mrs. Davis of Los Angeles, it means that the wife must become very and capable, because there will be lots of times when Daddy just wont be around. as well as praise and adula- tion. Said Mrs. Davis: a police When youre chiefs wife, you must realize that youre in the public eye because of the position your husband holds TODAY. When tomorrow arrives, he just Whats more, a wife of a police chief must get used to criticism, jibes, and prejudice Life Insur ance your husband is too old to qualify for coverage without a physical examination. you dont know why the cost of food makes people so angry, I can tell you. DEAR MRS. PATTON: My husband and I have separated and both want a divorce. I am five months pregnant and he says he wont give me a penny. What can I do? Food is a necessity of life like air and water and like air and water should be free. Now, what do you say? Now wait just a minute. Surely you mean reasonable. Even the proponents of free medical care have never suggested that food be free. DEAR MRS. PATTON: I and my param ents wont give me an allowance. They give me money anytime I need it so dont . . . think that I should care. Can you help? Tell your parents that this is very generous but it is not the best preparation for the years ahead. were grown, we must make our Income stretch to meet living costs. We cant get money on demand. Living with an allowance now will help you prepare for this. Once courtesy YARN MART rookies men who are fascinated with law enforcement and want to make it a lifetime Fame is fleeting. Wives roust keep this in mind and not learn to like it too much. career? And wives of law enforcement officers also must learn that not everyone likes a cop. MRS. JONES: Let your husband know you back him one hundred percent. Whatever he does, be his staunchest, most loyal supporter. Listen Back when my husband first started out on the force, said Mrs. Davis, many people were very biased and suspicious. Cop, was a dirty word in their vocabularies. Our poor youngsters really suffered through a lot of teasing. . . . Give him the MRS. DAVIS: strength of your devotion. Dont let him know that youre often afraid. Instead, just live one day at a time. to which the wives are invited, and Because wives are now being carefully looked at before promoting their husbands, should I tell my husband he would be making a big mistake to promote that voung man? BOSS DEAR WIFE: if xou really wnat to help your husband, put the kibosh on a bright young man who could be an asset to his organization. Instead, tell the wife in a friendly manner that her conduct last weekend is no way to help her husband to get ahead. Perhaps she didn't intend !o be rude, but was overwhelmed and frightened by the boss wife and look refuge behind her books. DEAR ABBY: My husband and I went to a place that sold yard ornaments concrete bird baths, ducks, deer, etc. A teen-ageboy in charge said his parents owned the place, but both gone, and we were welcome to look around. were they We found a deer we liked and asked the boy how much it was. He looked up the price in a book and told us it was dont d $19.95. We gave him the cash, he gave us a receipt, and we took the deer home. few days later we received a postcard informing us of the deer we purchased should have been $22.95 and we should either send them $3 or bring the deer back. A But, happily, things are changing. And today policemen are much more respected in all circles. Live one day at a time. This seems to be an Important part of the formula the police chiefs wives have hit upon to get them over the rough spots. And do the two women, one from Salt Lake City and one from Los Angeles, have any of advice for the wives The other part: All jobs are difficult at times it isnt just police work. And few jobs are as important. that the price Abby, if their son quoted us the wrong price, it wasn't our fault, was it? Do you think we should send them $3 or return the deer? We think we are . . IN THE RIGHT . DEAR IN: I think you are in the right, too. Furthermore, theyre lucky they didnt have to pay more deerly lor their sons mistake. IOTMMQMJ ETHE GMW The more is having a fish VM1IIIE-ILM- you buy the more money you save. SALE RUG PATTERNS O Spinnerin O Bernat O.Bucilla tinnersn Pre-C- ut The Gorton's Fish Fillets 1 RUG YARN The Gorton's Fish Cake k 1 MATCHED DYE LOTS No need to buy your whole rug at one time now! Buy as you can afford and need, with Spinnerins 00 wool rug yarn. 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I was amazed, as I am considered good company, and can converse on any number of And. PATTON: If This Advice j daughters.) It really doesn't matter what he says. What matters is what your lawyers say and what the judge says. According to the attorney who heard vour story, the amount of alimony you may-ge- t will depend upon several things, most particularly on the other income and assets 18, 1972 DEAR ABBY: My husband owns several large lactones and he had in mind promoting a bright young man to a responsible executive position. We invited him and his wife for a weekend at our summer place. The wife arrived with an armload of paperback books, and during the time she and 1 wore alone, instead of visiting with me. she read continuously, stopping only for meals! It takes dedication part of the man involved: understanding on the pail of his wife and family. (Chief and Mrs. Jones have two and I seldom talk about what goes on at headquarters either. L see my role as a supportive one to MRS. :n i'x on the My husband Wednesday, October Cl happy. Jones agrees. DEAR NcrU. cl nine-to-fiv- e Salt Lake Citys Mrs. Speaking Of DESERET NEWS v- - ''"X $ encourage him and take pride in what he does, but never to probe for information or get caught up in his business." When she met her husband, Ethel Jones really had no idea that law enforcement would one day become their way of life. At that time, the Chief was a career Army officer. Then, little by little, he became ..lore interested in police w'rk. And in November of 1971, he took over the reigns of the Salt Lake City force a squad that watches over the welfare of 175,000 people. Were relatively new to this said Mrs. Jones, business, but Ive still had time to learn it isnt just a job. And it isnt a profession in could be which everyone Los Angeles is a big. teeming city (population: 2,816,061). An officer runs into almost every kind of crime there is if lie stays in the business a long time. And often it isnt easy on him I remember the first suicide case Ed ever handled. He came home, his face ashen. I could tell something drastic had happened a' work, but for days he couldnt even talk about it. Mrs. Davis admits that she seldom has talked shop with her husband over the years. And when her friends ask her to tell them the inside story of a case, she can honestly say she doesnt know. We made an agreement when he was a rookie no police talk at home. I try to make our home a place for him to relax, enjoy himself and his family. (They have three children.) I believe every officer needs a change of pace and the opportunity to get away from the tensions of his job and the troubles of the outside world. ' '' 4 |