Show IF YOU MEAN no SAY no when a man has made up bis his mind to do or not to do a thing he should have the pluck to say BO so plainly and decisively it is a mistaken kindness if meant as kindness kind to meet a request you have determined not to grant wl wi h lii ill see about it or pil ill think the matter over or 1 I cannot give you a positive answer now call in a few days and ill let yon know it may be said perhaps that the of object eject of these ambiguous am ing expressions is to iet let the a down easy east 1 I but their tendency is to give him useless trouble and anxiety and possibly to prevent his seeking what he be acquires in a more propitious quarter until after the golden opportunity has passed assed moreover it is questionable wh whether e tt er the motives borsuch for such equivocation are as philanthropic as some people eople suppose generally speaking the thein individual who thus avoids a direct refusal does so to avoid himself pain men without decision of chari character leter teter have an indescribable aversion to say no they can think linkk no sometimes when it would be more creditable to their heir courtesy ana and beneo bene otence olence ence to think yes yea but they dislike to represent their thoughts they prefer to mislead and dece ve it is true that these bland and considerate si Bi people are often spoken of as very gentlemanly gentle gentie many but is it gentlemanly to keep a man in suspense for days and perhaps iwerks weeks merely because you do not choose to put him out of it by a straightforward declaration heis hels he is only a gentleman who treats hl hig his fellow men ina lna in a manly straightforward way y never seem by ambiguous words to sanction hopes you do not riot intend to gratify it if you mean no out with it |