Show for the deseret news items EDUCATION by sirius Siri sirl ug no 2 obedience is the first principle that should ie be instilled into the mind of a child implicit obedience to the m wishes and commands of its parents arents this is heavens first law atun it underlies herlies the foundation of all society whether in heaven or on earth without it the universe would be reduced to chaotic confusion and the family in which this principle does not rule is but a type thou though 1 on a small scale of what a world or the universe universe would be be discord contention quarreling confusion i and wretchedness prevailing yet how often ofte n is is it the case that instead of parents governing their children the children govern the parents young mr charlie or orl ori larry or jemmy as the case may be has it all his own way the whole household is sub subject eject to him and everything must end to his will IE if a the hous chis voice is the first and loudest heard he considers it his right to interrupt any conversation no matter how flow interesting P and important if his wishes are not immediately complied with he pulls pulla at his moth mothers erys sleeve and keeps up an eternal din until they are gratified he stamps about the house as though he were nv re lord of the manor handles and pries ries rles into everything he can see annoys every tody dody and renders himself a general nuisance until a visitor is glad to make escape from the mt minson manson ruled by such a little termagant yet his parents will call him a smart boy hla hia very peccadilloes and vices bein being so many evidences to them of his juvenile precocity and of his future eminence I 1 have had some little opportunity of observing the internal condition of quite a number of families and the course pursued by many mothers towards their children As deanin leaning on in my stick I 1 frequently peregrinate ate round among thy them em they regard me as a sort of harmie harmle harmless s old bachelor 11 and consequently admit me toe into the cami family ly sanctum where I 1 often see and hear some exceedingly interesting things I 1 should the dear creatures creatures find out ver vig who had so I 1 shamefully abused their confidence I 1 expect I 1 should be greeted by an application of the broom stick on my next visit but as I 1 am safely entrenched behind my nom HOOT de pl plume I 1 suppose I 1 may courageously fire away knowing in that I 1 am out of danger ganger tiow ilow how many parents especially mothers are er preparing ep epil i 7 for themselves trying scenes and i itter t te e experiences g erien erlen ces in the future by the manner in which ich they rear their offspring how often have I 1 heard them through ta the importunity of their children finally give them permission to do what but a few minutes before they had positively forbidden them yes yes go along anything to get rid of you and your noise sa bays says the gitles and indolent i in mother other never bilking thinking of ie the evil and dangerous principle she is establishing in the heart of her child in order to save herself a little trouble and the exercise of a little firmness now she is laying up for herself perhaps years of remorse and anguish the time will come when the child must be subject to his parents are s or leave their roof and fostering care what at a severe and trying struggle it will be for both the slender sapling may be bent and trained rained bogrow to grow as we will but the sturdy oak yields not a hair to our efforts the little rippling dancing mountain brool brooklet let iet is easily turne turned dout out channel but the foam ing in rushing raver arver is uncontrollable the youthful mind is pliable and easily governed N arned if a proper course is is commenced aap and pursued towards it but if not controlled now by and bye your efforts will be fruitless A short time since I 1 was stopping with some friends who had an exceedingly interesting little family but the mother Tio however wever many other good qualities she possessed lau lac lacked lacu u the firmness and moral co courage urae urao necessary to en eni i able her to command obeda obedience ance and maintain order in her family on one occasion h her er little girl a very smart observing child between three and four foil years ears of age asked for something thim on the byble ta table tabie which her mother refused to dve ove give her but the child continued perin gly and importunately to ask for it lbs ltd its no use W 21 again spoke the mother for you shan shant have it at this IV judging no do doubt bt fro from past experience that her moti mothers n derl Terl resolution could be shaken made the house resound with her tier cries till her mother turned and save eave fave her what she wanted remarking to tome moe roe at tile tiie ie same its no use to refuse her anything 0 mr she will have it I 1 never saw such a child in my life 12 indeed thought 1 I but I 1 have seen many such mothers and of course she will have what she wants so ion lon long iong 0 as a few tears will get it but I 1 said bothin nothing because I 1 knew it would do no good kop MOP this is but one ins ini instance tance of what was continually taking in place in that family I 1 could not but reflect rith fifth with pain upon the bitter future in st store tore for that child should she live to become herself a i wife and mother I 1 have seen seen been the sorrowing father fattier and the broken hearted mother weep j 1 ing ow over the waywardness and obstinacy of their children childred when they themselves had been the cause of their own misery I 1 have seen the son who ought to have been the pride I 1 joy and blessing of his parents turn round and i curs curse them ethem A tree is known by its fruit had good lood od seed been implanted in the mind mindl of that I 1 gouth ditter kitter routh youth it surely would not have produced such I 1 itter fruit nio dio ato mothers if you value ahe happiness of your children never allow them to disobey youdith you with impunity teach theato obey you yati impi implicitly catly from their earliest infancy arid and it will alwag always be easy and delightful for them to do 10 sa so tha the use of the rod will seldom if ever be necessary if the right treatment be adopted in infancy never through ini staken mistaken kindness indolence or any other motive allow your child to do that which your judgment tells you he ought not or what you have forbidden him children often want to know why they are told to do so and sp I 1 knew a father who used to tell his children do what I 1 tell you asking no questions then when you have done so and wish to know my reasons for requiring you to perform that duty come and ask me and if it is possible and right for me to do so I 1 will tell you it is well occasionally to give gilve children your reasons for telling them to pursue a 4 certain course as it begets confidence in their minds when they see you are not governed by caprice but have their own welfare at heart it may sometimes be painful and cost you a severe effort to be firm with them but subdue your feelings C remember you are working for t their heir good maintain your authority now at whatever cost or hazard and depend upon it they will yet rise up and bless you for exercising that ve very ry control which perchance now seems irksome and even tyrannical to them |