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Show - , ., , . ' - ,,, - --, ---- - - - , , , , - - MRS.., McKAY'S ADDRESS AT BYU - ,,. , . . A ttitudesToward Peace v As Fostered In Home A ,... . k..., , ' ' 11,1,,,, 1 ,,,,' 1, ' , Well-Direct- ,,. ,.,, - ed i ,i ,,,,,, ,Itt , . . ' , t , , , , . , ,, t , , Pti,, ' . t ' - ...,, 1 rage I the child's ears or whipping him. , . ,,,,,et , l . 7 ' i ' 2. This is the worst.thing a mother i , , ,,,,,,,, t t, ,,,t ' men soul,. what reflective pare can de. Whipping may modify t , , kt, . I . ' ent among the whole army of the act at the moment, but it , i ,, 't : , P,s us hasn't had moments of heart- - may produce an internal change, , , i 1 r ' , i a of one harbors , that feeling , , . sick terror at the realization of ''':,,,.A' Ne' ,, ,, , , t. ., 1 ' what she has been set to do?" hatred and 'revenge. Each time .. t, , , ' the slap comes the child has N. N There was an article in a fear and seems to be changed ' st diffor more is the better, but it Liverpool paper beseeching t , , ' ,,,,,,.,,,,,. 4,1,, graddate girls to help in the ficult to control him the next t ,,,, ''''t affairs of men. It said, "Any . time he disobeys. 1: A little mother told me that : . body can be a mother." Yes, she nearly ruined her child. She R. ,, ' nearly every woman can be a' said, "I dearly love him, but 1:''',.., 1 I t14,,,, , 4'' but not the right kind he didn't know it. I wanted obe' mother, t v ,, . '',.. I ' of mother. 1. ,,,,,,A, i dience so keenly that I went : i ; " , ,..: ',, The successful mother must about . ' ; : it 1 , the t, wrong way. ,,,,,,e . getting ',.. plan. If she does not, and arise I never punish him now by : to --' the that out, carry early plan L,,...,,... ,:, him, but I thaw, him con, ' meals are late, the dishes drag, , how I much love I him. f stantly ' ' the husband is cross, and the am ' ', ' ' .' and when I gentle with-.hiwoman flustered. she does I do '!.',,,' it and reprove earnestly - not plan a week ahead, the ' ,,4,,kia.,,,,. and never in anger and ' ''' meals are of a sameness and firmly I'm winning his confidence and MRS. McKAY ADDRESSES IOW WOMENMrs. Emma Ray McKay, center, wife-ounappetizing. It she doesn't love again, and obedience is bemonths three the President David O. McKay, spoke last Satur day before the Brigham Young University ahead; plan coming second nature to him. sewing is not done in time for With her in the picture are, Mrs. Bertrand F. Harrison, left, president of .the Women. school. There is discontent and OF ALL THE INEFFECTIVE Miss Lucille Spencer, vice president. and group methods of controlling chilperhaps whining. 11 she does are threats most not plan a year ahead, the gar- dren, the futile, age boys and girls, aged be- - his studies, in music, in every- - Mom, and I"his voice broke dening, the housecleaning, and and harmful. A mother might tween eight and twelve years. thing that makes a beautiful and tears welled in his eyes, the education of the children are say, "If you stay away after , are: character, while another not but be was too much of a little school instead of coming straight They ' neglected. never quite so wonderful in the par. man to let them fall. should 1. Grownups -. not I'll home, give you supany THERE IS DANGER, however , in the presence of their ents1 eyes secretly observes Then be came very close and these things and is hurt and in overdoing planning , I per." Well, the child stays long- - quarrel is children, my y er she than thinks he should, and i: because of the contrast ear, peyroeuconeftitdeer overdoing housework, if by so jealous of with children hurry when 2. Treat all your comes she in treatment. Parents should Los doing the mother neglects the feels dinner time or a di. Angeles, get you'll affection. for the, hungry equal sorry be most careful to see no differ- - vorce too." And he child. The study of the child, picked up ence in children or, rather, his and the proper control of him, youngster and gives him' his sup- - & Never lie to a child. When he tolfinds out per. roa the mutual to my mind, comes first. never to show it so that all the 4. There must be ad. i If the mother doesn't have thing threatened doesn't happen, erance between parents. hearts may be at rest. he stays away longer the next obedience when the child is very Never deceive a child. Many MY HEART HAS BLED ever 5. There should be comradesince for that sweet little 1 young, two or three 'years of day and disobeys also in other ship between grownups and mothers will say "no" when a child asks if she is going out kiddie, and for all the other age, she is going to have much ways. A mother should make children. ' , who must suffer be. trouble as the child gete older. promises rarely, but when she 6. Treat ' y o u r children's The mother waits until the child youngsters Some mothers think you should does she should keep them re. friends as guests in your home. goes to sleep go that he will not cause of the nonsensical querlet the child have its own way Iigiously. But the child rels of their parents. Mutual! 7. Always answer questions-- -: cry when is indeedwhat me often wakes and finds her gone. tolerance always, because 'psychology has LiceThe time baby starts to . 'Don't never botkr say , m e things is the tits to sLartimo them that the will of : i. ,,, ei,,- In Xi s 0 v, Ire..p 41,,,,A A v-..lf4' 1(e.il'OV. tcifs:.-- : ft'',"ltrt:7'Z't71ottt-4.t':'il,ttN,b 1.1,,,,,,.,, v, Alr, ,,,, 17...., ,,,,r,,4 ..,...1t...4 ,41..1-,,, ' f:WY4Virn,,r, Dwie,,A, , lovea ana respecte my mo er, t 4.. aliopp,4N not of but ex e it, afiiple ,,:k..e:- 4,,1.,..N,,,,.y,folt,,,..12,,,.,,.,t.c.,,.., has been,et, and the child sees becatise she did not discuss in r' from next door. Ito, that the child does not un- - when you want something, and imitates. child's failings with the neighbors. She n your Cncentrate-9. " derKanc at an early age what excusing yourself if you The home is the place where certainly did notapprove of, the - good points,not his failings.word is good, for him and what Isn't. in front-o- f hirniör If you the parents must lead out in way some of the neighbors sired 13e constant in your 10: , be directed properly, dentally knock over his blOck He obedience, h o n e 1 t y, fidelity, their children's weaknesses be, and your affection.- Andmu! The child hearing these by th, I do not mean the truthfulness . courage, true dig- - fore us. I can see now should 'should thin for him. She is twenty timeia day will natural, THESE ARE GOOD. I and courtesy. If they do not dren's- - bowed heads and disap-,,,-, nity like to dwell a little on a- set th e proper example, thinking for hi , when she says, ly fall into the habit himself and th e pointed facial expressions wh e 4 'Don't do.Ahis,' sr "don't do a mother will not be ember-that- few of them that touch our sub- mother worries over a way- - their mothers pointed out the when the clo . is not in- rassed when the child, say, is ject was ward child, the neighbor over fact that they were poor stile juring anything or an .ody, but four years of age. Someone gives When I was a girl and for a rude boy, the city over a reek- - dents at school, that there wall Is just learning as he ,,ust by him something and he stands visiting the McKay family less youths the state o ver a dan- - no music in their souls, that like a stick without saying, the first time, I said,' "Bishop erous man and the nation over experience. ,,, were disobedient, bad chit s It is so much fun in the e, ly "Thank you" for the gift. The McKay, you have been very sue- -- fhe sad news' o f a dark assassin.", they etc. Oh, for more wisdont dren, fainWalkini stage to pull all mother, confused, says, "Why cessful in rearing a lovely se- - There be mutual toler- - for mothers! st pans from the cupboard a dozen ;ohny, what .do you say when ily. Won't you tell me the an between parents. Children respond favorably Brown gives you some-sin-k cret of it all?" lie smiled, and, times a day, to climii'to the . and play in thewater, to thin ?" Well Johny doesn't said, "Well, little girl, I Mini I ACCOMPANIED my husband to praise. Let me give you an to a dedication of a meeting example. The first and only' sprinkle mother's clothes on the know, . cause no one has ever one thing has helped -,tremen- house Los . We year I taught school, the princiin to Angeles. , married couples to All thanked im for anything. So dously. pull open parcels, floor, s head in mother's have different opinions about stopped on Wilshire Boulevard pal came into my room the first be doing something every min- he hides ., . ute. This is the time when skirt and mot1ier is embarrassed, various things, but Sister Mc- - to get our car washed. I sat on day, which was midyear, and - , mother must haveno nerves, and sometime hakes the child Kay and I make it a point never a bench and the President was pointing out a child twelve years k when she things IT when it Is her to disagree before our chil- - standing over by the car. Sud- - of age, he said; before the whole fault. after baby, or, better, to help A CHILD dren. We go to our bedroom denly at my elbow I heard a roomful of pupils, "You'll have him pick them up, when she and talk things over, and when tiny voice say, "I guess that man- to watch out for that boy; he SHOITLIkhbtaught to do never scolding be must gentle, we come before our kiddies, we over there loves you." Sur- is the worst boy in school. Ile , . matter of course prised, I turned and saws beau- - drove Miss B. away bY throw- but helping him to learn pleas- - bribed.- If a mother-start-wIthou t being are of one mind." 1 esWu boy about seven years of big a bottle of ink at her." of giving me hundreds struck else the many antly Something Shake- - age with dark 'curly hair and home. new things, tothn, in the a child a cookie that in What a blow for the boy, and stop crying, he learns whenever pecially ever large brown eyes. " wh - -- t did for me tool I thought,' world. "Now speare said, "Her voice wasexcelhe wishes anything to say?" "I saidil guess that Earl will show me that that tee. ' IF SHE SAYS,"Irfonit do that" until his wish is v.au fledscree e , soft, gentle, and low, an Mc- - you man loves over there you." ord is true by being his worst. other minute, he will soon acquires such a habit and' lent thing in woman." Sister "Why yes, he loves me; he is ru try to nip it in the bud." I voice was always just l absolutely no attention to what 'a noisy household! at her my husband. Why do you ask?" wrote a little note, 'her. It is useless to tell chit- - It is a mistake for a Mother that. She never shouted 'eying, "Earl, "Oh, cur, the way he smiled I think the the Whenever spoke children. at was mis. unless do dren not to to say, "Go to sleep for mother," things principal was almost a at you. Do you know, I'd give t the same time you give them a "take this for the doctor," "get to them, her voice children answered anything in this world if my b suggestion of something they can your lesson for teacher,," etc. whisper. The Mom at smile would no Pop do. 'Instead of saying, "Stop etc., because the child should be in the same tones, and so the that going to help way." loudness was ever beirdsiin is this room the best in school. At that it driving Is drum; from the start that. he playing taught ; I be I'm corndoesn't," when sorry "0, house; consequently, walked down the aisle I me crazy," try-- saying, "How educating himself. ., as they did fre- - said. should you like to make a tower it to 'him without any. A,. mother may also leach a pany came, . s slipped "I guess 'you're not going to home. one else noticing. I saw his face with these blocks?" If be says, 'child, to be a whiner and blame quently into the Bishop's a then."' divorce, get felt ever was no embarrassment "No," try something else that 'everyone but himself, for un- , "Oh, no,- we're not going to light up, and afterwards hi' children's discourtesy by, the n brotlar Mar-- tmother pleasentthangsHemararha eftlei-1note home and said in act the doing. doesn't like his teacher because and ried now, years nearly fifty But if there is something that teacher has pets, so mother has TREAT ALL YOUR children we are very happy. Why do you excited tone, "Read this, Moth Some- be must not touch or play with', hint.change his seatç change his with equal affection.. ---- er, but don't destroy it, for think that?" ' and you tell him that, be must school, change his sob, change times parents do- not realize bow want to wear it next to In "Oh, 'cause everybody gets a ' bes of not, and gently lead him away, his wifeeverything but him- much- more their eyes shine divorce one was Ile heart." my around here. My Pop is when they look at a special Ell sure that you do.not permit self! o to get a divorce from my behaved boys the remainder going him , How the first child. handle has to her article received him Britain the they praise on Continued I love my Pop and my page II how they favor him with spe- - Mom. next minute, or your desires will children's charter- -4 , mean nothing to the child. Many list of ,"do's" and "don'ts" for cial gifts because be has been DISIVETN1WS CHURCH SECtION4 Mothers' have a habit of slapping parentsdrawn up by 228 aver- - an outstanding child In looks, In Wodnes6ey, April 16, 1952 ' Continued from - , , 1 , AP , , - '''', 1 1 1 - , ''-- . p , k. , I . . , 1,, , l' , , - , - 1- , , , , . .., 'A , 11 , , i , . , . t. , , , ', , , - - , , slap-'pin- g ',',,- - M - , , --- - - , ;:, 5 , . if , L.e..............L.......,.........itl 4 "4""'"'-'"'"'"''''''- ''''' '''''' 1 f - , . , -- pedown - - she-goes- . , - - ht . - -- -- 'ssl..r he-i- n 2.. ' k It ''',A4 .,....7-244- 11;' 4 ,, o -- i -------- - - - - thil-thi- ---- ," - , ' s , - , . . th . s --eve- -- a- ' Ka, . - . . -' : . - 1 --p- ay - . , on must-pic- . - r - , ) N buoy. - - . I - k. - - told-ractbat- lift - - - ,, - . , ten-poi- nt , , - - - , ' , S , p00004,,,., . . - |