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Show I MRS. McKAY'S; ADDRESS AT BYU Attitudes Toward Peace As cted Horrie Fostered In AMIell-Dir- , . e, , , s be beauty in the heart th,erics there ' in the character. harmony there. is' beauty in - the character there win If In the home: If there Is harmony In the home there will be order taNtche nation. If there is order In the nation there, will be peace in the world." . - - ' s . ACCORDING TO THIS old Chi- nese proverb, the foundation of peace lies in the right kind of hearts in the right kind of homes. ' Harmony depends uponFirstThe attitude of bus-- 1 band and wife toward eact - Other. - - SecondThe, attitude of parents toward children, and children toward parents. ThirdThe attitude of chil- dren toward each other. 1.ATITTUDE OF HUSBAND . AND WIFE, TOWARD EACH OTHER. - Herbert Spencer said, "The home is the most important fac- tor in civilization and that civilization is to be measured at different stages largely by the development in the home. The noble characters who have left a deathless impress upon the history of the nations, were - not fashioned. on- battlefields, but at the fireside." Many men have said the same thing in different words, that really the nation is but a mat- - , - titled home. , Harmony in the home begins before marriage, especially in the education ofr girls. .It is essential that every girl - frtc: t',- -r etc.---&i- ly - By MRS. EMMA RAY3ke,1, 'If . , that she is tired of living in a coni"dump," etc., to first wants he At plaints. all for debt into goes her, please these- desired conveniences, and then becomes deeply worried because he annot meet his obli- - The following address by Mrs. McKay, wife of Pres. David' O. McKay of thoi Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-da- y Sainte,' was delivered Saturday, April 12, before the Brig. ham Young University - Women meeting In the Smith Building 41111 the BTU Campus In'Provo, Utah. 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She has guarding her health, by seeing to initiate; plan, direct, and car- that she has an operation the ry, out operations which involve moment she needs it, by getting In greater or less degree all the her everything-sh- e wants he sciences and arts known to men. can possibly find out what it Is, She also deals with those aubtler by proving in a more substanspiritual powers which make or tial way than mere words that Mar a child's personal happi- he cannot do without her. ness and influence his sours Then there is the man who salvation." stir! becomes discouraged, IN MT DAT,--- it was almost Im- despondent and is driven to possible to include sewing or drink, perhaps to infidelity. a fine young man he is cooking or nursing or home.study along with prescribed sub- carried away by the lovely jects for graduation, so we girls black hair, large grey eyes, the married arid learned the hard engaging smile, the enchanting experience. This some- ways of a young lady, and is wayby times is disastrous to peace in very desirous of getting mar- the home. The change from ried without knowing anything constant study to cooking, baby about her except that she b and husband tending is indeed beautiful and a good dancer. ' drastic. ' She thinks marriageqs the end Even though girls associate of the story. She has him now, with men in courtship, they do and thinks she can sit down and not understand men, which is be beloved all the rest of her life, , one great cause for disagreeFIRST she is very desirous inent, heartache and misunderof showing him what excel- standing. If only women could lent meals she is capable of understand that "Mants love is but after awhile she -- ' of rnan's life a thing apart - 'Us is tired of , exerting herself se woman whole'existence." much and begins to be out at 1 After a man .has wooed and mealtime, sometimes putting on Ms sweetheart, he is ready some canned food on the table, to settle down arid put his mind and 7sometimes not even that, Into his life's workNlIe has not but leaving hhri lei 'Walt on , "lost" his love as 'Ito, many self, begins the end ' of young wives suppose, bit he peace- in that home. thinks it is not necessary to'lell He says he is tired of having seetatagloverall thinks the time to be tioskse, of finding his wife away constantly paying her little at- all the time, etc., etc., and she tentions as he did in courtship. answer .with sharp words that Yet if he were Wise he would he should's:oake enough money not stop these kindly acts of so that they l'euld have a maid but or at least a dishwasher, a clis, admiratto n.- asancl love, and would remain posal, and other ?oveniences, polite ' , Well-Diced- 1 N, I T --- -- - - her-stea- it , I I , gations, and in his weakness he . to drink, and peace is 1 I starts , completely gone. I renearit-i- s I woman's artful duty to study' 1 t i and to adjust. , , One,man said, "Men are little , boys at heart, but women are little- girls at heart, and .. ther. is serious doubt if they courteous 4o her before, w e." So when a man . wife in many ways coat and rubbers, rising when takes the pL of his mother she enters a room, excusing and as a boy ca out when he himself when necessary,' kali- - gets home, "Where' other!" so lag himself clean and allayed al- - does the dear husban and is ways. He should ever remem- - much disappointed if mo er is ber that "manners are of more out. if she is home, he w s importance than laws. Manners peace. No weeping , hysterics . are what vex or soothe, corrupt wife to pour troubles and com- or purify, exalt or debase, bar- - plaints into his ears. He wants barize or refine us by a constant to see a wife whe has made uniform insensthie oper- - self look as beautiful as she can, ation like that of the air we a woman who has poise and breathe." CIF CHURCIIMrs. , WISE charm, who greets him loving-BUCObIcEL TO WOMEN addressed the women of Brigham MEN ARE SO DIFFER- - ly and cheerfully, who studies David ENT that it becomes the his every mood,' and can tell Young University Saturday speaking on the subject woman's artful duty not only when he wants to talk and when as Fostered in the "Attitudes Toward rest. Fèae a would like he complete to study but to adjust. One man, Home The coIpete text of the address is for example, continues his ED WYNN SAYS, "My wife talks and talks incessantly. wooing by complimenting his presented in these columns. wife often, by vowing frequent- - What does she talk about? She a ly that he loves her, by telling doesn't say." A husband wants with was se , ing at the time, I wontheir her how pretty she looks in a wife who studies to be intern-certai- n their misunderstandings, dered w , since she felt so actions. their with desires, dress, by bringing home gent, who can talk when topics hus- 'keenly boitjt. she didn't slip ask A wife discussed. Suppose you are of your the litand day candy flowers, by doing her letter, w 'ch he had no tie things in the home to help who tries to be frugal, but who band to carry a mattress downof his hand right to read, it her, but fails to discern that she makes home attractive, keeps it stairs and instead of carrying and thus stop all , ent snickcherishes precious desires that clean and in good order, and carefully so that.not a speck of he senses only lightly or does who itudies his interest in every dirt touches its clean coverage, erings and wondering oughts. not even comprehendperhaps wayYes, a wife who loves he throws it through the win- But she was too polite ad pa. 1 a desire for Children, or a desire her husband and tries always to dow upon the lawn below. He tient, and smiled and let , o. Wise girl! do no doubt his love will to, continue to study music, if keep probably did not think of the Nine times out of ten when, and' when opportunity presents it and no disagreeable words, no grimy dirt from the window Itself, to have a permanent cutting remarks will hurt either frame solling the cover nor ol "hub?y't hurts our, feelings, it done unintentionally home or seine other cherished one to bring on a serious que- the possible dirt that might be has been loni .develop , .' , , , , DESERET Wsrlassday, NIEW4 April ills 1115.1, w " 1 , 10'P "V)N.N:1)901(TC16;11.4,r0- - word and witicshOuld go over with in a hur' smiling, and, 0 keep in everything which makes ry. Willthing unspoken: at rant rave and you about our businesso the for happiness in the home. If call him a stupid creature go whole matter will disappear.-- - these things '.which men f say of him,, or does never things right, But if we fuss every time we women are true, I would say wm"13 , you think, 'Oh, what's the are bruised, irritation h a. women should go two- - user begins thing is done. Better and the separating process goes thirds or all of the way to keep make,The ,, the of it. the best Always on. peace. Let me quote from men: latter if you can make yourself ANOTHER THING that causes "Women have more heart and more imagination than men." be calm. Even a slight sarcastic Irritability and quarreling "Women have more fortitude to remark will bring a disagreeable is for the wife to criticize hussustain the most overwhelming answer, and null wish you had band. He cannot endure critireverse of fortune." "Woman. is not said a word. "The misery cism. It stifles love. Nor can he blessed with discretion and good of a life may be born of a chance stand being belittled. With the nature." "Men are misers and observation. If the true history Latter-da- y Salnt marriage womin, are prodigal in affec- of quarrels, public and private, comes the .understanding that uon.,, 5vomen have the great were written, it would be el man with his Priesthood will responsibility. of setting stand-A- s kneed with an uproar- - of de- - stand at the head of the family. ards and maintaining the spir- rision." Some women are not willing itual and cultural level of the "THERE ARE WöltDi which to take' a subordinate position, home." sever hearts more than and sometimes belittle men at If these men are right, peace sharp swords, words that sting home and in ciimpany much to in the home is really woman's through the course of a whole their husband's embarrassment. responsibility, and if she wants life. What you keep by you, you It is impossible to teach respect happiness, she must work for may change or mend but words for authority if the husband is ityes, and pay for it, tooby once spoken may never be re belittled before children. If a being at all times kind, loving, called but may be repeated over man is worthy to be at the head ready to meet and over )intil they end in For- - of a household, a wife should anything that comes with a row and ruin." respect him and help him as smile, ready to help, ready to The thing to do is smile and the head, And so peace springs serve, in fact, loving to do any-A- forget the stinging words. from the large aggregate of litthing the head of the housi de- - ways smile. tle thingsthe doing away with sires because his desires are also Glooln pushes people away the angry word, the taunting hers. And she always must Ifrom you.-sure way to bring thought, the petty strife. member that wisdom is mad up is to show that your feel- - 11. ATTITUDE OF PARENTS 'gloom of two Parts, silence ings are hurt. You cannot live TOWARD CHILDREN and one-te-nth brevity. Now, in regard to the attilong with any human being, and EV RETURN for all .this most not have something come up at tude of parents toward chilwomen 4ifould be satisfied times to irritate you. "Offense dren: if all men looked upon .women we must Mrs. Fisher says, "We might expect. The soestion is as does Mr.11enry: "Woman was what to .do with it when it conceivably have uneertaken to taken.otit of man, not out of his comes. And although we can- - build railway bridges even head to top him, not out of his not help being' hurl, what we though the lives of multitudes feet to be trampled underfoot; can help Is showing that we depended on Ulm:, we might , te to hitn, under his a.tm to be I once sat at a table iround tied peoples material affairs protected and near his heart to which were seated several peo. for them or even as doctors be loved." pie. The host asked his wife to settled the matter of their physThere are many qualifications bring two lettersone, written ical life or death. But to be re! that a woman should have to be b:- - him, and one by, his wife. sponsible to God, to society, a god wife and mother, but the He read'' both aloud and the and to the soul in question for moral most Important h patience. Pa. amused glances the people gave thelfealth, happiness and tience with children's and hus- - each other' as hers- - was read grbwth and usefulness of a hu I band's tempers, patience with I made her blush Continued on Page 1 deeplyAs she I LiAan get-th- e 50-5- 1 L - l t l T nine-tent- but-out-- of- hs - ittraide-ttrbtrequ- I , . . I ' -- ''''' ''''''. . 1 ' ' - ' |