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Show Page 8 ItirteB-efo- re Aessage ten: "Thanks, I appreciate it" It was nice solving this together. I couldn't have managed without your help." Thats a new idea. I hadn't thought of it that way. You have really thought about this. What do you think youll do?" I love you." MAKE TIME FOR FUN Having fun together is essential to making regular deposits in your marriage account. In our busy lives, that may take a little By Margie ", Memmott i , - FromAargie Educator How is your manias zero. AUTOMATIC WITHDRAWALS. There are some things we say or do that are going to be auto- matic withdrawals every time. Criticism of a spouse is an automatic withdraw. This isnt just complaining, but attacking personality or character. For example, Id like to go out more vs You never take me anywhere. The first is a statement of a want. The second is a putdown. Disrespect through name calling, insults, sarcasm, or hostile humor are automatic withdrawals that can quickly put us in an overdraft situation. Oh, sure you care. Youre so thoughtful. Another automatic withdraw is giving the other partner the silent treatment. This stonewalling sends an extremely negative message of disapproval and disdain. One way to approach these problems is to bring them up when theyre not happening. Talk about how concerns are raised or problems resolved. It is most helpful to talk about what youve realized is your own role in contributing to the problem rather than blaming your spouse. (Otherwise were right back at criticism). So, based on these ideas, rule 1 is One zinger will erase 20 acts of kindness. It only takes one putdown to undo hours - or days - of considerate actions. It is better to learn how to avoid these than how to deal with their consequences. the other one to pursue more and more. Such cycles give couples a hopeless feeling of never being able to bring up a problem and solve it without getting stuck. So Utah, thanks to the beehive Utah is a quarantined states abundant supply of high region, or that the hay was Utah alfalfa and the fumigated. hay quality Utah conducts yearly extenDepartment of Agricultures (UDA) insect inspection pro- sive surveys of the beetle. Fourgram. California imported 8,160 teen of Utahs 29 counties show shipments of Utah alfalfa (more the presence ofthe beetle. UDAs than any other state) in 1995 at Entomology and Quarantine a value of $28 million. That was Program Manager, Ed Bianco a routinely performs secondary an average of 23 day crossing the border into Cal- surveys offields suspected of conifornia. taining the cereal leaf beetle. Utah alfalfa is considered the "One of the things that Califorstandard to meet across the nia can count on is our certificacountry. Just as Florida is tion program, Bianco says. We known for its oranges and Wash- certify which counties are beetle-freand California has a great ington for its apples, Utah is known for its high quality alfal- deal of trust in that certificafa, says Utah Commissioner of tion, he said. The program is under the direction of Dick WilAgriculture, Cary G. Peterson. Bill Sandige, Californias bor- son, UDAs Plant Industry direcder station supervisor for the tor. states Department of Food and Nearly all of the 8,160 hay Agriculture recently told a sym- shipments from Utah came from counties: Millposium of Utah hay growers that four beetle-fre-e their high quality alfalfa plays ard, Beaver, Washington and an important roll in Southern Iron. Utah produced 2,189,000 Californias dairy industry. San- tons of alfalfa hay in 1996 at a dige added that its unlikely so total value of $181 million dolmuch of Utahs alfalfa would lars. Utah is ranked 16 in the make it to California without the nation in hay production. UDAs cereal leaf beetle inspecCommissioner Peterson points tion program. Without the pro- out that the value of Utah alfalgram, hay growers would have to fa goes far beyond the per ton famigate their product, making sale price. "Each time I see a load of hay I see milk k it too costly to ship to California. ' The certification program allows on the family table, a scoop of ice California border inspectors toi. cream or a steak barbecuing on rely on Utahs program to guar-- ., the grill, said Peterson. "Thats antee that each shipment is ini. because hay, as well as corn and non-in-fest- ed semi-truc- e, sect-fre- s ry to paraphrase back to the speaker what he or she has said. Dry to convey the spirit or feelings of what has been said, not just the facts. to show something ' understanding. I didnt know thats how you felt.. Learn to express encouragement and appreciation to your partner. Learn to see your partay five-da- -t mostly cloudy with a chance of showers early in the day. 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Stems will turn dark and rot when plants have been given too much water. This is called damping off. The roots usually rot first causing the plant to grow slowly and use very little water. Plants use little water during the winter, anyway, and continued irrigation when it is already moist brings on root and stem rot. Excess soil moisture provides conditions that are favorable for growth of fungi usually present in potting soil. Water plants only after the surface of the soil has had a chance to dry. This will usually prevent the fungi from rotting roots and stems. Be sure that pots have drainage holes to allow excess water and salts to leach out. Correct the conditions in the pot rather than mask the problem with fungicide treatments. Root rot can be detected by carefully inverting the plant and grain is converted by dairy and beef cows into dozens of food mouse activity area over the past few months. While visiting the ranch site, mouse droppings as well as live and dead mice were seen in the outbuildings. The recent case is unique in that it occurred very late in the year. Prior to this case, the latest date of onset occurred in August. This recent case is a good reminder to all that the virus is present in Utah and that precautions should be followed According Epidemiology Newsletter published by the Utah Department of Health, Utahs tenth case of hanataviral pulmonary syndrome has been identified in a male from Millard County who died in y October after a illness. ners traits as strengths rather The man was a rancher whose than faults. Youre really deter- exposure appears to have ocmined once youve decided curred in the outbuildings or ve-- 1 (rather than youre stubborn), hides around his ranch. During or youre spontaneous (not "you our investigation of the case, we never plan ahead). Learn to received reports from neighbors notice effort regardless of the fin- that there had been an increase ished product and to recognize improvement even if current behavior isnt what you were expecting. People need encourage- 0. over-waterin- g. Hantavirus case reported in Millard County to around the in ve Area Forecast National Weather Service From the Internet partly cloudy. Lows e. removing it from the pot so roots can be examined. Healthy roots should be creamy white. Diseased roots will be brown or blade. It is difficult and usually not worth trying to save a plant with stem and root rot. Unless you have a family heirloom, discard the plant and start over. Answer by: Sherm Thomson, Utah State University Extension plant pathologist i One ofthe primary reasons for diseased indoor plants this time of year is These signs will let you know if your plant is getting too much to semi-truc- Getting caught in cycles of unproductive anger is another problem that can soon lower the balance in a marriage bank account. With one partner withdrawing (often men) and the other partner pursuing (often women) couples can soon get caught n a vicious cycle of one partner with- ment like plants need water. drawing more and more, causing Share an encouraging word of-- 40-5- with lots of deposits and the tremendous trifles" will become Californias billion dollar dairy tation of hay from states infestindustry finds a pot of gold in ed with the cereal leaf beetle. attacking your spouse rather to1 California is than the issue at hand. It means protect its $1.5 billion working haygrainf1 making sure the mqssage of re- coni industry from the qereal lea and comes spect caring through' beetle. ,a first and foremost. California restricts the impor--j Tb convey this respect and concern: with Ml attention. a simple acknowledgment of their feelings with an oh or mostly cloudy with a chance of showers late in the day mainly mountains. Highs How can I prevent diseased Indoor plants? the relationship,' differences dont matter. Keep the relationship bank account in the black standards when angry, play your ACE: you are angry; your anger,. cool off; why you are angry without blaming your partner, enlist your partners help to resolve your angry feelings. DIRECT DEPOSITS Each couple needs to find some things that are direct deposits in their relationship bank account. Usually, the best one to make those deposits is you. If we try to change our spouses behavior, were back to a withdraw. So Rule 2 is: Little changes in you can provide huge dividends in the relationship. Many unhappy couples think that for their marriage to improve there are so many things that would have to change that it would take a miracle for things to improve - and usually people want that miracle to take place in their spouse. In reality, small changes in our own behavior can change the way we see the whole relationship. Our behavior that usually provides a deposit is listening. When we skip this step and try to go straight to problem solving, it often results in a withdraw. Steven Covey has stated this as one of his seven habits: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Another way to put it is to relate first, resolve second. In other words, focus first on the relationship and second on the issue. This doesn't mean I see or Mmmmmm..." planning. Some things continue to be fun, but others may get to be boring. Add to the fun things you do in your marriage. Try and shake up the familiar patterns. Rule 3: When we are happy in Utah hay praised ter its quality and safety bank account? Marriage relationships are like bank accounts. According to Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., USU Extension Specialist, these hank accounts need more deposits than withdrawals. Research conducted over many years by John Gottman at the University of Washington has shown that it takes about five deposits for each one withdrawal to keep a positive balance in marriage. Gottman can predict wf h great accuracy the outcome ofa marriage just from observing the ratio of positives and negatives in a marriage. Knowing how to avoid the most costly kinds of withdrawals and remembering to make regular deposits are both crucial skills in marriage. Overtime, a couple can build a substantial reserve in their account and avoid day to day fluctuations and the anxiety of having a relationship balance hovering around Wednesday, February 12, 1997 Nephi, Utah a $119,000. Ca LaDaun. 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